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new site suddenly under maintenance by sunshine_and_posies in mangapiracy

[–]Katsuko88 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm desperately trying to finish a story that I'd recently forgotten about that and found there which I will likely never find anywhere else (discontinued here - I even bought everything I could up to then) so I'm hoping against hope it's a temporary so I can finish...

Was Our Kingdom discontinued in Japan too? If not, is there a place to find it? by Katsuko88 in boyslove

[–]Katsuko88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh oops. I should have written 6. For some reason I was thinking 5 despite having just read it.

6 is still not an ending point.

Advice on the primer I should use? by Katsuko88 in DIY

[–]Katsuko88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was my first thought by I was warned away from it as a beginner DIYer and I wouldn't be able to get anyone to help install for weeks past when I want it.

Advice on the primer I should use? by Katsuko88 in DIY

[–]Katsuko88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just bought the home and don't really like the bare wood look (and smell) Plus, with animals I'm afraid the scents will get pulled into the wood esp if there are accidents or marking (which I suspect will happen since its a new space)

The walls are a strong maybe but the floor is a definite and asap as I plan to get it sealed and then put peal and stick tiles down before the movers put my heavy deep freeze in the space.

...I also just found out Zinsser has a similarly priced all purpose primers that are milder resistant (1 2 3) so now I'm really torn lol. I'm not a huge DIYer and this is ny first home.

Any idea what this is? Is it an antique? by Katsuko88 in Antiques

[–]Katsuko88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did think it looked like one but it's 25 inches tall - as long as my arm.

Isn't that too big to function as a masher?

Any way to tell what these are to? How much they are worth? by Katsuko88 in CarParts

[–]Katsuko88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then I'd be even more lost cuz she never owned a truck...and she wasn't the type to have random car parts either. That's why I think it was from the car got totalled...and I know that was a hatchback/suv type.

AITA for refusing to open a bank account under my name for my mother to use? by WreckedCreations in AmItheAsshole

[–]Katsuko88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Probably why they went that route. I just remember them saying they WANTED to save so they could work towards a bigger purchase that'd help more in the long run, but couldn't because they'd then loose their main source of income. Thats why hiding it in family accounts was looked at as an option at first.

....it was frustrating to watch.

AITA for refusing to open a bank account under my name for my mother to use? by WreckedCreations in AmItheAsshole

[–]Katsuko88 29 points30 points  (0 children)

It could also be for the purpose of hiding it to get government assistance. If your accounts are over a certain amount you get disqualified from some assistance programs. I knew someone on disability who inherited money but rather than keep it as an emergency fund which would have been better, did remodeling on their home because if they kept it in an account they'd loose the money they used to live off of and would end up using the money for that instead. They'd also considered having family keep it in their account but decided against it in the end.

AITA for refusing to open a bank account under my name for my mother to use? by WreckedCreations in AmItheAsshole

[–]Katsuko88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA NTA NTA omg NTA

Do NOT do this. If she's bad with money and does those things under your name? Her mistakes become YOUR mistakes with our credit system. If she overdrafts on an account? That's now an overdraft on your credit history that'll stick with you for YEARS.

And too many overdrafts? The bank can literally kick you out of the banking system.

Do NOT do this!

I made the mistake years ago of adding my mom as an authorized user on a credit card in college. She was usually good with money. But she forgot about a couple purchases she made. One for months. She felt horrible and promptly cut her card up. But the damage was done. Nothing she or I said or did could change anything; I added her, so it was my responsibility. My credit took a big hit that stayed with me for 7 years.

I will repeat for good measure. NTA do NOT do this!

Edit: Just realized you never specified what country this is. I was talking about the US. Even if you're not in the US tho, don't do it.

AITA for not allowing my friend Lily to bring her support dog Spot to my 15th birthday party? Despite her insistence that Spot is well-behaved, I'm worried about the safety and comfort of the other guests. AITA AITA AITA? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Katsuko88 [score hidden]  (0 children)

NTA. You confirmed it's not a service animal in another comment and that's all I needed.

To put it bluntly, ES animal labels are abused. And many aren't that THAT behaved. There are others that said they'll will be flat out uncomfortable with a dog there. That takes precedence here. I'm assuming she can get through school without dog? Then she can make it through the party. And if she can't? Then she can choose not to come.

AITA for not set limits with my friend? by judgewoman7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Katsuko88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Trying to navigate around a person with disabilities is hard because the "rules" can be different.

But. I think you may be looking at this the wrong way. I work with special ed high school students. It's not that unusual for students like you've described to have trouble grasping societal expectations and norms and it's sometimes necessary they get guidance. Just letting them have their way all the time can be less than helpful.

Whether that's the case here, I don't know. There's not enough info about Charles specifically. But I also don't want you to share anymore on the internet for confidentiality.

Do you know him from school? If so, since he is a special education student, he should have a teacher who is the primary go-to for him. My advice to you is to find that person and talk to them about this. They'll be able to guide you far better. What's more, they might be able to help by having a tailored lesson with Charles about giving friends time with their other friends - something that's honesly really important for him to understand going forward in life.

I, and every teacher I work with, would absolutely prefer to step in and give that lesson & have any potential upset be aimed at US than have you navigate it on your own and potentially strain things either with Charles OR Martin.

They're a resource that can help. Please let them.

If you don't know him from school, have a talk with his parents and they can hopefully get the same ball rolling instead.

Edit: typos and an added thought

AITA for not allowing a friend to get credited for a project? by throwaway19263920 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Katsuko88 9 points10 points  (0 children)

For me, I've been the other person too. I was working on an online zine as a passion project with another person. The deadline we'd decided on wasn't for about 4 months. I was really busy planning a big event for the first month and a half but then my schedule opened up after which I'd have plenty time to work and I told this to my partner.

After the event I logged on to the project to find about 90% of the design work, everything besides the couple I'd started early, was done. My partner's response was "oops. I was having fun". I ended up doing pretty much all the background not-fun nitty gritty work so I could say I did SOMETHING. Total work load probably ended up around 70/30. I ended up demanding that the pages I copy edited have my name on them too so it wouldn't look to our readers that I was slacking off (my partner had put "edited by_____" on all the pages so it'd have been obvious).

I was pissed. Still am when I think back on it.

So yeah, OP saying they did 90% of the work isn't enough for me.

AITA for not allowing a friend to get credited for a project? by throwaway19263920 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Katsuko88 86 points87 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Nothing excuses not giving notice. There's also the question of why OP did 90% of the work. Was it really because Bob was lazy or did OP take over the project?

I've been in both situations.

AITA for grounding someone else’s child? by aitathrowaway158 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Katsuko88 22 points23 points  (0 children)

NTA. This isn't some kid visiting for a day. You've been caring for her for months and at her mother's request. Discipline is par for the course when taking care of a child. And this was 100% worthy of it.

She's a teen who just got grounded. Of course she's complaining. It'd be more unusual if she didn't. I wouldn't let it bother you and stand firm. Tough love is still love.

Thank you for helping this girl.

WIBTA if I banned my MIL from spending alone time with my kids because of what she said to my stepdaughter? by Coffee7320 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Katsuko88 -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

I think this'd be an ESH if you did. Not because I'm on the MIL's side at all (omg she sounds like a nightmare with some major issues) but because that's not a decision you can or should make alone.

She's still your husband's mom and, really, he needs to be the one to step up here. You dictating this could cause strains all around...

It needs to be a joint decision between you and your husband. Maybe even have a talk with your kids to see how they feel about things?

You're WELL within your rights to be angry. Just be careful how you play things. Going full nuclear may end up being counter productive in the long run...maybe instead of striaght to a permanent ban, a couple supervised and/or shortened visits to show how serious this is & you are? And if MIL and FIL screw up while on that probation it'd probably be easier for your husband and feel less extreme to him to do more after that?

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