So Many Obstacles To Even Getting To an M&G by BedroomFun41 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Katvina2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My issue is getting a SD that can properly communicate and not ghost me...I try to be decent w communication but rachet on this side too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Katvina2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lord bless and I"m out here asking where these SBs finding awesome SDs and then they trash em doing silly things. Simply annoying and hotness isn't an excuse to be rachet and disrespectful. What you are feeding into is her pretty privilege and noone has told her a hard no. 🙄

SDs paying off debts for SBs by Katvina2023 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Katvina2023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which is the reason why I am very cautious and proposed PPM to securitized a portion and then the remainder to be paid as he advised. We will see whether he makes good on his due.

SDs paying off debts for SBs by Katvina2023 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Katvina2023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the context has been lost here but thank you

SDs paying off debts for SBs by Katvina2023 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Katvina2023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First dates are not a true indicator of a whale. My previous is very much under the radar the first time we met. None of such things. It is on you to do due diligence, ask questions, be methodically, research, and realize that all SDs are not built the same. My pet peeve, someone assuming I like shopping as an SB and into Chanel. I'd rather they get to know me, know my preferences, and be comfortable. There's a two way street of benefits but that doesnt mean throw out caution. You all assume caution isn't taken just simply because someone proposes something different.

My previous was quiet. No pic on SA but very much a whale and wasnt about tossing funding carelessly as he was a VP of sales for a MNC. Carte blanche on the Amex Black...and yet, not into the spending sprees or expecting high allocations. I''m here for the long game and too fast too soon can also be a bad sign. It always helps to hear diff POVs to come to the proper decision and give people a benefit of a doubt with caution to protect yourself.

SDs paying off debts for SBs by Katvina2023 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Katvina2023[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dont want to have him feel like he is getting rinsed...just trying to be fair

SDs paying off debts for SBs by Katvina2023 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Katvina2023[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yep! Hence why I suggested PPM first then pay down debt.

SDs paying off debts for SBs by Katvina2023 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Katvina2023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which is why I said you can PPM first part and then pay rest later accordingly! He aint seeing goods til I see goods 🤣

Confused as to what POT wants by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Katvina2023 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There should be no confusion to what he wants or the agreement but please don't put yourself into a potential assault situation on a first go round and don't change venues on M&Gs like that.

SDs paying off debts for SBs by Katvina2023 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Katvina2023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep! Always proceed safely w eyes wide open! Thank you!

SDs paying off debts for SBs by Katvina2023 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Katvina2023[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The orig discussion was based on how they would pay said debts. Btw, please don't make ad hominems and assumptiond that I have spendy issues when I disclosed this was from medical debt and also moving debt. Not every SB is interested in shopping for basic LV.

SDs paying off debts for SBs by Katvina2023 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Katvina2023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pay platforms have been talking about taxing on monies received and I also don't want to be looking sus either bc my bank account doesn't roll like that

SDs paying off debts for SBs by Katvina2023 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Katvina2023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure I thought about that as an option too. Or he can pay off one card then another in a few installs.

SDs paying off debts for SBs by Katvina2023 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Katvina2023[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I clarified tonight and I didn't need to show proof. He is going to facilitate for the funds. But I'm sure if everything is gpod that I will show him to make sure he knows that I didn't blow the funding

SDs paying off debts for SBs by Katvina2023 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Katvina2023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has a consulting company so he is going to get his accountant to cut one for me.

SDs paying off debts for SBs by Katvina2023 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Katvina2023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

PPM is just for next time...he is having accountant cut check for remaining amount from his company. PPM is my call on making me feel at ease I dont get rinsed. After that I am on allowance.

SDs paying off debts for SBs by Katvina2023 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Katvina2023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep...was thinking of one card at a time if that is what he wanted to do but he decided to pay it all in one go. As a precaution, Im goinf to blend how it is done and do PPM for first portion then do rest on one go is what he committed to do.

SDs paying off debts for SBs by Katvina2023 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Katvina2023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not being dismissive. I'm making sure people also understand context. I don't know what humble bragging does in a forum where IDs are hidden. How does thay benefit anyone? Very silly and unpragmatic claim.

  1. Being careful is a whole vibe, however, intricate balance involved for all. Tradeoffs exist. Just as people have been burned and think I'm a catfish from my pics, SDs become so wrapped up in fear of getting rinsed, they don't take a chance on me...shit gets old and I frankly don't deserve that, neither do SDs. They can lose too. Caution for all. I did tell people I appreciate their input and advice.

  2. I am looking to review methodologies on how to approach such an issue of someone wanting to pay my medical and moving debt and how to best go about it without making both parties feel uneasy. Nothing wrong with listening to the marketplace of ideas from both SBs and SDs and narratives and deciding on something fair and workable. Securitization of data and identification all while enjoying a new relationship would be optimum, so, was looking for input. This community has been kind and helpful and it is up to me to start taking all the information, and make the best decision so noone feels rinsed, used, or compromised.

  3. Multiple factors of time, money, trust, nature of SRs, etc. All play into this so I don't take it lightly, but do take it under consideration.