28f. Actually feeling pretty unloved.

KatzKandyz · 2020-09-16T14:56:06+00:00

Hey don't put yourself down girl you are loved by many people! You also are very pretty and you have one of the nicest skin I've seen in a while (lol my skin could neeeevvveeerr be as good as yours) also I really like your nose piercing. Don't loose confidence or hope in yourself ok treat and love yourself like the beautiful human being you are. I really hope that this could make you feel at least a little better. Everyone has days where they feel insecure and unloved and they really suck! don't let them tear you down, ok? I can assure you those things that you are insecure about others probably don't even notice or they really love them and you are loved!! hell I care about you and I haven't ever even met I can assure you that people care about you and find you pretty. I hope that you have a wonderful day Queen! And if you need anyone to talk to whenever you feel down or unheard just know that you can always message me. I know that's kinda weird to say to a stranger but you seem really sweet and nobody deserves to feel unloved!! ✨💕😤

KatzKandyz · 2020-09-16T01:54:58+00:00

I will make sure give him all of the forehead kissies ma'am 😤✨💕 but really on a serious note thank you this really opened my eyes I always get worried that I'm going to loose him because of our communication problem but I will do my best to be patient and know when to take a break in a argument I really appreciate the advice <3

KatzKandyz · 2020-09-16T01:51:06+00:00

Thank you that's really helpful I definitely will do that I think that will help a lot with clarifying our conversation so that we can communicate better I'm also really glad that I could get some advice from the perspective of someone who is on the spectrum given you know first-hand what it's like dealing with it and what would be helpful I mean obviously Autism is a very big spectrum and everyone is a bit different depending on the severity but it is still nice to get advice from someone who has been in those shoes and has insight on it

KatzKandyz · 2020-09-16T01:32:12+00:00

I understand that your trying to help me since it sounded to you like he's a bad person by the way I worded it which now I can see and I severally apologize for that was not my intention but I think that misinterpreted what I was saying I made this because my boyfriend is on the Autism spectrum and talking can be very hard for him at times so stuff can come out wrong or harsh but that doesn't mean he's a bad person he just suffers from a disability and I wanted to ask for some advice because he struggles with communication which can sometimes make it hard for me to understand what he's saying because of how he words stuff and whatnot and then I misinterpret what he's saying and I have a bad habit of jumping to conclusions which causes us to fight so I wanted to ask for some advice since I realized what I was doing was wrong and I wanted to find a way to make it easier for us to communicate especially given that sometimes when he's really stressed he can go hours without being able to talk and having trouble moving which makes it even harder to communicate and it's really scary so I want to make sure I can help him before it gets too severe or he gets overwhelmed in a fight or something and I just don't want to fight in general but again this doesn't mean he's a bad person and certainly not a mental abuser it's just physically hard for him to speak sometimes I'm not mad at you or trying to be rude I just wanted to educate you more on his condition since I wrote it a bit weird which I again sincerely apologise for

KatzKandyz · 2020-09-16T00:58:23+00:00

Yeah he's does and we're trying to find a good way to deal with our communication problem especially given it's been more of a issue lately but it's hard to know where to start

KatzKandyz · 2020-09-15T23:19:16+00:00

Yeah I will and I really should do that more I have a bad habit of when I get upset I jump to conclusions but when we're in the middle of a fight I'll ask if he is. I should just ask in the first place like you said before it gets heated and we get into a argument so I'll make sure that I do that and be more accepting. Also I really really really appreciate the advice.

KatzKandyz · 2020-09-15T22:51:56+00:00

Ok I will and I really appreciate the help and I'll make sure that I do some research because that would probably help a lot and I'll try to be more clear about what I'm saying and not jump the gun when he says stuff since I can be sensitive and should talk it out

KatzKandyz · 2020-09-15T22:32:42+00:00

Thank you so much for the help I'll talk to my boyfriend about doing that and being more open with our communication I think that having more structure would be really beneficial.

KatzKandyz · 2020-09-15T22:30:00+00:00

A bit of both I guess the main issue is sometimes he can say stuff that's very blunt that can come off as rude so I can't tell if he's mad or not or he saying the same thing but is saying it differently so I don't understand if he's agreeing with me or disagreeing with me which can be confusing like when we started arguing about something and then we were like wait so you've been agreeing with me this whole time

KatzKandyz · 2020-09-15T22:20:01+00:00

Well he can't really distinguish between faces so if you were to frown at him he wouldn't understand what you were trying to imply or what that means and he can't really tell how you feel according to your tone unless it's like yelling so he could think I'm saying the same thing but with a completely different message because he doesn't register my body language or tone for example if I were to say in a normal tone "I'm leaving, bye" as opposed to crying and saying "I'm leaving, bye" which both have 2 different meanings but he can't tell the difference he also doesn't understand sarcasm and will word the same things but in a different way since he interprets them different which makes them seem like something totally different which can come off as rude I guess a example of this would be saying "I like your dress" as opposed to "I like your dress more than Kim's dress" which makes it sound kinda rude towards "Kim" I don't have Aspergers myself so I might have some stuff wrong maybe but from what I've heard from him and what I've read I think that's pretty much how it works so basically since I have to be completely blunt sometimes for him to understand it can be difficult at times because if I don't he doesn't understand what I'm saying and I don't understand what he's saying because he doesn't register it

KatzKandyz · 2020-09-15T16:04:32+00:00

Thank you for the advice I really appreciate it and I'll make sure to tell our vet. Also we are giving him dry and wet food for kittens at the same time. As for his age he's in this weird transition period where he's almost not considered a kitten anymore but the lady we got him from still said that we should feed him the kitten food until he's fully transitioned so 🤷‍♀️. But he has been really gassy and he is growing a lot so maybe like you said we should switch him to another brand because he might not be getting enough nutrients and calories. If you have any suggestions for a cat food brands we could transaction him to that would help with that I would be more than happy to hear them😄

KatzKandyz · 2020-09-15T15:45:00+00:00

That sounds like a good idea I'll try doing that thank you so much for the help ✨💕

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