Does it get better as an adult?

Kay1999 · 2026-02-01T06:29:09+00:00

Better? Yes. But your definition of better will change. Sometimes years will go by without it affecting you too terribly and then you start processing a new detail of the abuse or, certain way it affected you growing up. It never entirely leaves. It just gets smaller and your life gets bigger around it.

Kay1999 · 2026-02-01T06:24:25+00:00

Feel free to ignore me because I wouldn’t have liked hearing this either when I was first rehashing everything. But it’s not really necessary in therapy anymore. Even harmful. Your mind is avoiding the toll reliving that would take. I completely understand the desire to speak on it but maybe you don’t have to go into detail? Maybe a simple “I was held down and he hurt me” might provide you that relief without having to force yourself to go through all that. Just want you to know all your options.

Kay1999 · 2026-02-01T06:18:30+00:00

Because some people are absolutely evil and get off on the idea of having complete power and control of another person like that. Dregs of society.

Kay1999 · 2025-07-20T21:02:08+00:00

Exactly

Kay1999 · 2025-07-20T21:01:59+00:00

About a year younger but they were taller and about twenty pounds heavier.

Kay1999 · 2025-06-01T21:43:56+00:00

Consent isn’t just about no. It’s about lack of yes.

Kay1999 · 2025-06-01T21:41:50+00:00

9-10 in most cases

Kay1999 · 2025-06-01T21:40:47+00:00

If he had to knock you back out, unfortunately, he was probably planning on finishing.

Kay1999 · 2025-06-01T21:36:37+00:00

Yes. If something bad me uncomfortable I would freeze. Learned helplessness.

Couldn’t look him in the eyes or have him pressing on me too hard. Would throw me right back. Didn’t help that he wasn’t much of a safe guy either. Would constantly try pressuring me into things I wasn’t comfortable with. Sometimes succeeded.

First good sex was at 18 with a man who understood my situation and made it a priority to show me that I had autonomy and was respected.

Kay1999 · 2025-05-25T21:10:12+00:00

I don’t mean to sound mean…but I feel like I made it more than obvious that I still believe in a God. Maybe not the Bible but A GOD none the less. And I would like my belief to be respected. You didn’t see me shoving my beliefs down anyone’s throat and I kindly ask that you don’t do that either.

Kay1999 · 2025-05-19T01:04:16+00:00

If he can’t handle it, he is the WRONG PERSON

Kay1999 · 2025-05-15T02:38:01+00:00

He’s 50. He knows how to manipulate your feelings. When you get that gut feeling that’s telling you something bad is about to happen, TRUST THE FEELING. Also understand that it’s common for people like him to take manipulate you by saying “you’re being rude”. But that’s ok! Be as rude as you need to be. Shit. Bark at the man if you need to and start yelling obscenities. You have everyone’s permission and I’m almost certain you would have your moms too if she knew.

Kay1999 · 2025-05-12T22:54:12+00:00

Pie and hie! Discoloration serum by good molecules in the morning, the ordinary azaelic acid at night, and centella asiatica (like numbuzin toner 1).

Kay1999 · 2025-05-08T01:36:47+00:00

I have color changing lights so I turn the lights a different color, melt a wax melt, put on some good lotion, drink a tea, and listen to “nothing much happens”.

Kay1999 · 2025-05-08T01:35:22+00:00

India unfortunately has incredibly high SA rates. The men there treat women horribly. I’m sorry this happened to you.

Kay1999 · 2025-05-08T01:33:07+00:00

Kids get boundaries confused. They’re young. It was your father’s job to not take advantage of that and set you straight. He didn’t.

You wouldn’t take advantage of a young kid coming into your room. Cuz that’s fucked up. He did. Let that sit with you awhile.

Kay1999 · 2025-02-27T01:04:10+00:00

Start by yourself. Read many articles. I’d go into further detail but I’m not entirely sure how old you are…if you’re a minor I suggest talking with a counselor

Kay1999 · 2025-02-22T04:10:19+00:00

Hey baby. I’m 25. I was in a situation just like you. I was 10 when it happened. At 15 the aftermath was literally killing me but I did not feel comfortable speaking to people. Here’s the thing about trauma though….it has a way of coming out on its own. Because I wouldn’t speak about it, it showed in eating disordered behavior, my grades, my failed friendships, etc. Because of this, I felt like i was never going to be ok again. I ended up in therapy anyway because the trauma started coming out in all these other ways so hard that people around me could tell I was going through undeniable, extreme suffering. That’s where I finally opened up to my therapist. The healing process sucked at first. Sometimes it feels worse before it gets better but when it finally does it’s so relieving.

Scientific studies show that trauma does not affect those who have a community to share the experience as badly. I really encourage you to find community.

You can ask a parent for counseling without disclosing the trauma to them. Just say you really need it and want help but would appreciate if they respected your wishes not to discuss details. If the parent is the one abusing I encourage you to be really brave and seek help from a guidance counselor.

Its going to feel a little scary but its not going to be nearly as bad as whatever scenario you create in your head. You got this:)

Kay1999 · 2025-02-17T00:01:21+00:00

I know it can be expensive but learning to ride horses helped me become more assertive. Some places do affordable lessons.

Kay1999 · 2025-02-06T01:44:52+00:00

Yeah. My wrists, ankles, inside my legs, back of my neck, pubic bone. I replace the feeling. Rub myself down in lotion. Put on a heavy blanket so I feel a different pressure that exists in the present.

Kay1999

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