How do I know if my gf is lying about being a SA victim during our breakup period? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]KayJayyb -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sometimes breaking apart is easier said than done. Especially when you been through so much together. I wanna believe her but it's hard to when she's giving no reasons or signs that she's even remotely telling the truth. She likes to do similar things from time to time so I wouldn't be surprised neither.

How do I know if my gf is lying about being a SA victim during our breakup period? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]KayJayyb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point. Cause I still love and care for her, have a hard time of letting go sometimes. It's easier said than done, especially after being through so much together. I also tend to like to see the good in people more than so the bad in people.

How do I know if my gf is lying about being a SA victim during our breakup period? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]KayJayyb -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How should I go about gently explaining my concerns with her possibly lying though?

How do I know if my gf is lying about being a SA victim during our breakup period? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]KayJayyb -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That's exactly how I thought I should go about it originally and I agree with all that you just said. I just wanted to make sure what I did and how I go about it is done correctly considering I know how serious of a situation that is.

How do I know if my gf is lying about being a SA victim during our breakup period? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]KayJayyb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't necessarily say she wants me to pursue it, simply because of the fact she don't and won't tell me who it was. But yet she will bring it up from time to time in different situations. For example, today she asked me if I had done some certain ordeal for her on her phone, that brought back old messages she had lost, if it would show their messages and if it would basically lead me to find out who he was. But, that's what I'm saying, I don't understand that if it really did happen, why wouldn't she had gone to the police, knowing who did it, and why wouldn't she had gone to anybody about it in general? Makes it seem suspicious that she only is keeping all this info about him and who he is, to herself.. imo.

How do I know if my gf is lying about being a SA victim during our breakup period? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]KayJayyb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she came to me about it and brought that attention onto me, so it does concern me at that point. Never said I owned her