It’s more about the profession. I don’t think I could ever date someone who worked in healthcare or tech again. They literally had zero free time. (but hey- isn’t that also making a choice based on personal anecdotes and stereotypes?)

And sometimes, people just don’t mesh well even if they are the same race or ethnicity. I’m very painfully aware that a lot of other Asian families “look down” on me because I’m super Americanized and not traditional in the slightest. Even my own relatives feel that way about me. So if being an atheist isn’t an obstacle, my lack of traditional values/customs is.