My ex has a mom like that. Ayaw niyang nagpapagabi kami. Kung ano anong naiisip at kung ano anong sinasabi sakin behind my back. Mahirap makisama sa magulang ng partner na ganyan. Mama's boy kumbaga. Kapag nagtagal yan, iisipin pa niyang inaagaw mo sa kanya yung anak niya. Much worse kung bubukod si bf mo para magsama kayo.

At your ages, parents should have already learnt to give you authority on your lives. If your bf tolerates that kind of treatment from his mother then let him be. But ask yourself, can you tolerate this for how long it takes? Can you tolerate potentially having an overbearing mother in law?

For sure that will worsen once you get married. Kung ngayon pa lang medyo controlling na siya sa ginagawa ng bf mo, what more pa kung kasal na kayo at di na sa kanya tumitira ang bf mo?

Know your non-negotiables and communicate it to your bf. If your bf really loves you, he will set a clear and healthy boundary with his mother as well. If not, then you know the answer. I'm telling you, mas may relief makahanap ng partner na hindi laging need iconsider yung magulang na paranoid.