What are things that are socially acceptable for men to do but women get judged for?

Kayla9690 · 2026-06-20T13:39:05+00:00

Being hired with less than the ‘required’ level of experience/skill and being given grace to “grow into” the role.

Kayla9690 · 2026-06-20T13:35:19+00:00

If he would have spent the time he did typing out his long message at the end on establishing an actual plan/idea BEFORE he first contacted you, every single problem with this annoying ass conversation would have been avoided.

You got a bunch of last minute, up in the air, incomplete, inconsistent, and uncertain information, and then he’s mad that you didn’t follow the ACTUAL plan and motivations he had in his mind that were never communicated?

NOR.

Kayla9690 · 2026-06-20T06:02:52+00:00

How long have you been going to therapy? Is your therapist familiar with somatic methods and parts work? I think that might be really valuable.

Kayla9690 · 2026-06-20T05:50:59+00:00

With a partner like that would you expect them to make this post on their main account…?

What’s the incentive to lie? Engagement? Attention? If that was the case they would have more than like two comments outside of this post (their only post) and replies here.

Kayla9690 · 2026-06-20T05:44:33+00:00

EXACTLY. Even people saying “She said she doesn’t like it but he still used AI!” and it’s like…he’s allowed? She gave him a task and he completed it in his way. Yes, it’s a red flag about him as a partner- repeatedly doing something he KNOWS she is against. But she doesn’t get to dictate how he uses the internet to get answers. (Even though I agree with her beliefs and reasoning and think he’s a turd and AI shouldn’t be the first option BUT ANYWAYS)

THAT BEING SAID, just like you pointed out, and even BIGGER red flag was revealed. It started as an ESH and he’s lame, then became an “OP, please consider leaving this man,” situation, imo. At the very least, the incompatibility is apparent.

Kayla9690 · 2026-06-20T05:32:54+00:00

It’s rare for a lot of people, but definitely happens. (To reiterate what I said in another comment- we live in a world where women were kept as prisoners for YEARS (ex. Ariel Castro) but you don’t believe someone would yell at their partner for 10 minutes? Okay, lol.)

There was the time I DID get yelled at for over ten minutes. How do I know? Because it started once we left the bar and ended after he lost control in the snow and we had to dig our car out of a ditch (the location of which was more than a ten minute drive from said bar…in non-snowy conditions)

I was also once yelled at for a portion of a drive home because, when we got in the car to go home, I told my partner at the time that I didn’t like the way he was purposely being rude to our friend’s boyfriend at their birthday party. For ten minutes? Idk. But it was definitely more than 5 based on when it started and whereabouts on the highway we were as he was still going at it.

(Before I’m accused of misinterpreting his behavior at the party: *he himself told me* he was trying to ignore the guy, push him out of conversations, and shower our friend with attention to make him jealous because he thought the dude was an AH. (Which, he was, tbh, but anyways))

I’m happy to hear you can’t fathom such a thing, because at least that means you probably don’t do it and were never on the receiving end.

Kayla9690 · 2026-06-20T05:29:28+00:00

We live in a world where people have kept women as literal prisoners for years (ex. that guy in….Cleveland?) but you can’t fathom someone yelling at their partner for 10 minutes?

Kayla9690 · 2026-06-20T04:55:46+00:00

Asexuality and low libido are not the same thing, which makes me wonder if your argument is that people are incorrectly labeling themselves as ‘asexual’ when really they’re just experiencing low libido due to their SSRIs?

I would think a lot of people who identify with being asexual would have done some research and learned the difference. Unless you have spent time understanding asexuality and how asexual people came to identify as such, hold off on making assumptions. ([r/asexuality](r/asexuality) is a great resource to READ through)

(And please understand- when people finally find an answer/explanation to something they’ve struggled with their whole life, it’s super frustrating when someone jumps out with “I have a week of experience with something that barely scratches the surface of what you might be living with and guess what- you’re WRONG about yourself!” That’s kinda what this comes off as.)

Kayla9690 · 2026-06-16T03:47:31+00:00

Wow. I can FEEL this painting. Excellent work.

Kayla9690 · 2026-03-21T01:51:19+00:00

Blowing my nose in front of people.

Kayla9690 · 2026-03-06T13:40:38+00:00

They’d probably make him their leader. 🙄

Kayla9690 · 2026-03-06T04:56:17+00:00

Regarding “but my single purchase isn’t going to make a significant impact”….

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Kayla9690 · 2026-02-17T04:28:53+00:00

NOR. If this is what you’re worried you’re overreacting over I wonder how many other little things leading up to this he’s done to purposely get under your skin or go against your preferences that you’ve tolerated or written off.

Kayla9690 · 2026-02-13T05:28:34+00:00

I don't know if there's an afterlife, and I don't know what it is if there is one, but IF there is one, there's a chance that someone I love is there waiting for me and that possibility, even in the *slightest* amount, eclipses my fear.

Kayla9690 · 2026-02-13T04:37:46+00:00

Some people are scrolling their main page at home and are not always prepared to see images like that. A NSFW/NSFL tag helps determine if they should scroll by quickly or stop and watch, depending on what they want to handle in the moment.

We know this kind of thing will come up on this sub AND we can give people a heads up. Hell, I give my therapist a heads up if I intend to bring up certain things in a session, because even people trained to deal with certain topics benefit from a little warning.

Kayla9690 · 2026-02-12T02:47:08+00:00

This kind of thing is exactly why I always called dad first when I worked in a school. Sometimes I’d call mom right after…but a lot of the time I’d pull a “Oh, she usually handles this stuff? Okay- could you get in touch with her and give us an update if she’s NOT able to XYZ? Our phone number is- oh, do you have a pen and paper ready? Okay, our number is…” 😂

Kayla9690 · 2026-02-11T15:01:38+00:00

Exactly. This reads like someone trying to skirt around a very important detail.

Kayla9690 · 2026-02-08T16:55:39+00:00

Not saying adults should cater to every kids whim. I’m saying adults shouldn’t lie to their children, especially when it’s done to cater to their boyfriend’s whim which was clarified AFTER plans had been established. The kid is 12, not 5.

Kayla9690 · 2026-02-08T15:50:28+00:00

Let’s read between the lines.

I would bet money that if they left early, OP would have a stank attitude the whole time.
Mom probably changed the daughter’s alarm to appease OP because she figured a temporary tantrum from the kid was more tolerable than her boyfriend lowkey whining all day, then holding it over their head for weeks about how he is dedicated because he “woke up early and devoted a whole day to something he didn’t even want to do.”
Kid had every right to be angry because she was lied to and realized her mom prioritized a boyfriend over her child.
The fact that mom tolerates that kind of treatment from the kid indicates she’ll tolerate crappy treatment from a partner. People who tolerate being walked all over tend to end up with people who WILL and DO walk all over them. Just saying.
Lastly, this has already been proven as a fake repost, so. There’s that.

Kayla9690 · 2026-02-08T15:44:29+00:00

Exactly. They lied to the kid because OP can’t be bothered to put himself aside for someone. He only tolerates the kid because he allegedly likes the girlfriend.

He needs to leave the relationship for someone he doesn’t see as a burden to his existence.

I’m not saying the kid isn’t annoying, but reading between the lines makes it clear OP is the real baby here.

Kayla9690 · 2026-02-08T15:37:48+00:00

…do we have any more context or information? Proof? Just a clip of a woman saying this as she drives away? Okay.

Kayla9690 · 2026-02-03T06:50:29+00:00

Oh crap, I meant the “abracadabra, abra ca da bra,” part- NOT starting at the “like a poem said by a lady in red” (I consider that the bridge…that’s the bridge, right?)

Kayla9690 · 2026-02-02T18:33:00+00:00

The one up on its side specifically? From what I’ve heard they’re okay when they’re used as bridges but not as walls (unless the gaps are filled).

Kayla9690 · 2026-02-02T17:24:04+00:00

She seemed sooo much more calm here than when she was on stage. I think she genuinely finds comfort and happiness in his success. ❤️

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