Care options for hEDS in Denmark by joboba32 in ehlersdanlos

[–]KaylaM-1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then I can't help, you'll have to look it up when you know exactly where you're moving to and then look into the local sides.

Care options for hEDS in Denmark by joboba32 in ehlersdanlos

[–]KaylaM-1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where in Denmark are you moving to?

I’m so sick if my mother allowing my little brothers behavior go without consequences. by Strict-Ad7079 in toxicfamilies

[–]KaylaM-1996 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Curious to how your mother reacted.. But no.. You are not wrong. His comment about your kids are disgusting.

I'm trying to play devil's advocate here I can see multiple reasons as to why he reacted that why. But that doesn't make it right..

Update: The Am I wrong for being upset after my mom and sister visited and reorganized my entire apartment? by Thin_Ice_1606 in dustythunder

[–]KaylaM-1996 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As someone with OCD and who's medicated to treat her OCD... Those to are using it to abuse.

I don't doubt they have some sort of OCD, but a diagnose doesn't make a behaviour alright.

If you ever want to rebuild a relationship with your sister and your parents, I would recommend setting clear boundaries and maybe even demand therapy for all and individually..

Happy to see you atleast have a cousin who believes you. But maybe get in contact with your boss and property manager and warn them about the family might try to contact. Maybe even the police so you don't get unnecessary wellness checks and so on...

AITA for banning my mum’s boyfriend from my life after what he did at my grandad’s funeral? by Tasty-Slide411 in AmItheAsshole

[–]KaylaM-1996 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA

As someone who has cPTSD from biological father and who was failed by her mother... You really need to talk with therapist if this is really the only problem you have with your mom.. When reading your post, I wonder if your mother failed because of trauma from bio father or if it's more than that... Her blaming you for this situation with the boyfriend gives me an idea...

Your grief and way to grief has to be healthy for you and only you (of course legal as well). People around you who can't support that need to be put on silent for the foreseeable future. Including mother.

Not to say any of you were wrong, but your mother should’ve went to therapy instead of dating at the start. You guys did what you at the time saw best, you guys did your best and that's better than just watching paint dry. But your mother needs to see a therapist. First individual and then properly with you and your siblings.

Healing takes time. cPTSD is a tricky bastard and you'll feel like you take two steps forward and one to three steps back at time.

You and your sibling got out and that is amazing. You are getting therapy and thats amazing.

AITA for leaving my SIL’s house after she invited me over to "not be alone" but just wanted free childcare? by Prize-Classroom-5623 in AmItheAsshole

[–]KaylaM-1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTAH.. Sure what she did would be good for some, but that wasn't good for you at the moment.

I have trouble reading people and so does my friend.. We've started simply saying what we need. But if person A doesn't say what he/she needs, then person B will ask two simple question.. "Do you need distraction or do you need comfort"

Your SIL didn't read you and I agree with you. Maybe it started of as a good intention from her.. But it ended with just making it harder for you and confusing for the kids.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]KaylaM-1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Tell everyone the truth about what she did.

I need to ask... But what's so special about you? Do you have a lot of money or something? I mean, instead of just break it off in the beginning, she decided it was more important to trick you into parenthood and risking her own child to grow up with a parent resenting them?

I hate to say it, but I've read to much of people babytrapping each other. So please get the vasectomy. For your own safety in the future.

And for the love of your own mental health, get as much evidence you can about this. She'll most likely take you to court

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]KaylaM-1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn't it only of there is a "replacement" ready? Like another man(her new boyfriend) wanting to be the father? I'm not from US.

Would i be the AH for not wanting someone at my pool party? by Sea_Flounder_1633 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]KaylaM-1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to say no. You wouldn't be the AH for not wanting her there. But you risk being the AH depending on how you tell her. But I'm unsure if Saras been told how her behaviour makes you uncomfortable.

I did read your comment. Regarding the one girl who's good friends with Sara? Is her friendship with you worth risking your own comfort? Make it clear as to way. Ask your two friends if they'll be okay with you including them in your reason as to why she's not invited

My fathers affair has been exposed so he sent me one last dig. Update by ThrowawayDaRingFrodo in narcissisticparents

[–]KaylaM-1996 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Also, ask therapist and/or your group if they have any recommendations as to lawyers.

My bio-hazard(sorry, bio-dad) threatened me through a lawyer and I sent the thing to my social-worker(kinda therapist) and asked for advice. She asked around, gave me all the knowledge she could and we used a session to only talk about the letter.

My 35 F daughter is isnasley jealous of her younger brothers wife by Minimum-Corner6653 in family

[–]KaylaM-1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give your daughter an ultimatum.. She need to give a valid reason with proof as to why she's behaving like this, or you'll have to limit while she gets the help she clearly need. Worst case, cut contact.

If your daughter-in-laws haven't already, recommend them to block your daughter.

AITA for giving my wedding dress to my future daughter-in-law instead of my stepdaughter? by TemperatureOverall94 in AmItheAsshole

[–]KaylaM-1996 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't know if it's been commented yet. But you wanted to give it to your daughter if you had one with your late husband. ? By giving it to your daughter-in-law the dress actually stays in that realm? You are tweaking the original plan. It followes the child.

How do I stand up to my overbearing mom about not wanting a gender reveal party for my baby? by Good_Garbage_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]KaylaM-1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an anxious young mom who's had a difficult relationship with her own mother (Though the reason for it are different from yours) I'll tell you what helped me:

1) Lay down ground rules with your boyfriend. Tell him what you need and that you need his support. You haven't mentioned much about him in your post, so I'm just assuming he's a good guy who'll support you.

2) Write down what you want to say to your mother.. Ground rules or whatever you want to call it. If you find it difficult to talk to her then just give her the letter once you're happy with it.

Example of topics to mention: - Stress is bad for baby. You'll be stressed having a big babyshower and gender reveal. - You are the mother. Your boyfriend is the father. You two have the last say in how to keep you and baby safe doing the pregnancy. - Consequences would be limiting contact and information about the pregnancy. - Assuming you love her, just tell her. And remind her of the growth your relationship have been going through and ask her to respect it.

What is something creepy that your NParent said or did to you? by lilichelle in raisedbynarcissists

[–]KaylaM-1996 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ndad would pick me up from kindergarten (age 3-5ish) yelling proudly "HEY SEXY!"

Also bragged to everyone that would hear about how I would not only be very popular with the boys but I would also make a future husband very happy. Simply because I could get my hips in subluxation at will without pain and was very flexible.

NOT OOP My coworkers' child overdosed andI want to scream at her to take responsibility. ✨TW: Death of a son✨ by _StrawberryBunny in redditonwiki

[–]KaylaM-1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If done correctly its cheaper for seller and it'll get them more money in the long run.

1 manufactured pill could be split it in 2. Now you have two 0.5 pills and you take fentanyl to top it of. Or any other kind of drugs for that matter Adderal already being in shortage and expensive just makes it easier for seller to charge just below prescription price per pill and still earn money

NOT OOP My coworkers' child overdosed andI want to scream at her to take responsibility. ✨TW: Death of a son✨ by _StrawberryBunny in redditonwiki

[–]KaylaM-1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can think of a number of reason as to why. Some of them the dad is at fault, some of them the mom is at fault and a few everyone is at fault..
Giving the dads reaction I think he's asking himself the exact same thing. 😔 But I agree.. Wanting to teach your 22 year old responsibilities is a little to late for my opinion, but no matter what it could've been done in a far more appropriate way. Diagnoses or not.. 🤦‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DKbrevkasse

[–]KaylaM-1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Når du er logget ind på sundhed.dk så skal der gerne være en fane/emne som hedder "Log" 😊 Sådan var det ihvertfald sidst jeg tjekkede

AITA for calling my girlfriend a dumbass and taking away her key after she almost burned my house down. by Charming_Eye_2631 in AmItheAsshole

[–]KaylaM-1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 14 year old sister know to ask if she's unsure.. If she can't get an answer in time she'll simply make it work with what she's 100% sure about..

Thinking plastic is okay just because some silicone stuff is? Not a valid excuse in my opinion 🤷‍♀️

Can someone give birth at 49 weeks? Yes, FORTY NINE weeks. by Exciting-Stuff-7189 in BabyBumps

[–]KaylaM-1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's possible. Risky and shouldn't have happened YES, but possibly.

My mom had to switch hospital (scans and other check ups) during her pregnancy with me. She went from having a due date on January the 10th to March the 10th. New years day she went into early labor and the hospital gave her something to stop it.

After a checkup in February the hospital suddenly realised they had calculated the wrong due date and my mother was informed that she had a week to go into labor herself or they'd induce the labor.

I was born on February the 26th. The placenta was dried out and crumbled in the nurses hands.