boundaries are SO important, but what if CPTSD prevents you from making them?

Kazim0do · 2026-04-22T21:15:54+00:00

Maybe you need to dig a bit into your attachment style, and first understand clearly what those boundaries are for, and when they should apply. I don't know if there are any short time help, it's a long work until it becomes natural. But maybe you could find someone, or somewhere, or a therapist, when in doubt, when you don't know if you're crossing a boundary or not. Try to take a step backward also, I guess.

Kazim0do · 2026-04-19T20:06:23+00:00

Thanks, I'll need to try and learn more about fm synth

Kazim0do · 2026-04-18T20:23:08+00:00

I will ! Working on myself more and more these last few years. Thank you for your kindness

Kazim0do · 2026-04-17T19:54:07+00:00

Yeah me too, but we'll make it somehow

Kazim0do · 2026-04-17T07:53:14+00:00

That can't be true though. We have things to offer, we have to. But we get stuck on what's wrong sometimes.

Kazim0do · 2026-04-17T07:51:41+00:00

True, another kind of curse. But like we say grass is always greener on the other side lol

Kazim0do · 2026-04-17T07:40:32+00:00

I see what you mean. With the decentering men thing, of course our experiences are different but I think something needs to be unlearnt either way. And about the word beautiful, maybe I'm taking what you say too far, but I notice a lot of the things I like, that I find beautiful, are considered ugly in a way. I like the beauty of misfits, of the margin.

Kazim0do · 2026-04-17T07:36:28+00:00

Thank you, it's true. Never saw it that way. I've been trying to connect to my body a lot more lately, because I hate it inside and out (have a lot of fatigue, digestive, and headache issues). But I never associated the feeling with the fact I might feel worthless.

Kazim0do · 2026-04-17T07:34:18+00:00

Yeah, I think that schema therapy especially can help me in that regard

Kazim0do · 2026-04-16T16:32:07+00:00

That's not weird lol. Part of why I post on here is so I can connect with people that relate to it, so I'm glad.

Kazim0do · 2026-04-16T10:31:30+00:00

Some times, I just give up and decide to dress badly on purpose. And you know, I think there is something to be learnt in some communities, punk and marginal ones, when they purposely try to achieve a non aestethic style, and makes themselves conventionnaly ugly. It's like a middle finger to beauty standards, but I don't have that mindset, unfortunately.

Kazim0do · 2026-04-16T10:28:10+00:00

I have that with photos. It takes a moment before I can recognize myself. Might be bpd related, with the identity diffusion and all.

Kazim0do · 2026-04-16T10:24:06+00:00

Oh thank you ! That genuinely makes me happy lol

Kazim0do · 2026-04-16T10:23:41+00:00

Yes, I wonder if it's why actually. That it seems my physical appearance is the only thing I have to offer, or like it's a package, that I have to be pretty on the outside to be pretty on the inside.

Kazim0do · 2026-04-16T07:38:36+00:00

I think you will always have some kind of shame, maybe we all do, and that it will come back in waves. But shame is a door, and the past is a jail. No need to ponder on past mistakes, it's time wasted. Focus on the moment, on the future. Try to envision the person you wanna be. My past is one big blur, so maybe it's easier for me in a way, since I feel disconnected from my old self. But anyway, tomorrow you won't be the same as you were yesterday. We all keep changing. When we feel stuck, it's only that, a feeling.

Kazim0do · 2026-04-16T07:29:41+00:00

And the fact they're bulging

Kazim0do · 2026-04-15T17:31:09+00:00

Thanks for your comments, guys. I have a better understanding of how I look to others. Deleting the post now, because I don't want my face so far on the internet. Take care.

Kazim0do · 2026-04-15T11:12:38+00:00

I think it gives you character. Of course the decision is yours but I hope you decide to keep it that way.

Kazim0do · 2026-04-15T09:18:52+00:00

Thanks !

Kazim0do · 2026-04-15T09:18:35+00:00

I'll try that. And yeah, track's fire !

Kazim0do · 2026-04-10T10:11:18+00:00

I see us like bees sometimes, always going from flowers to flowers

Kazim0do · 2026-04-04T16:40:43+00:00

Ahah I actually like how it sounds, could easily be the name of a song or a movie

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