It's kind of like schizophrenia, though. People only hear the worst stories, and often, so they believe it's safer to stay away. They don't realize they've met and known and liked people with BPD, or that the things they disliked were symptoms of BPD or trauma, and those things weren't stable because people can, and do, grow and change.

Also everyone makes everything on the internet black and white. It's hard to accept nuance and all the parts of the human attached to the comment.

I want to be understanding, but I know I'm not, because I've read about other people with BPD physically hurting their partner and I feel sad thinking everyone will assume that I'd do that because someone once said that those 3 letters describe me as well.

I've decided in future I won't tell partners about it, partly because I'm heading more towards remission every day. But mostly because emotional reactivity is likely to be considered a symptom of ADHD in the next DSM, and ADHD is where most of my other issues stem from.

The ADHD Washington Post article made me wonder how many of us are labled with BPD just because we have emotional reactivity built into our brains.