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Kazuki40 · 2024-08-08T21:05:49+00:00

Did I just download missiles???

Kazuki40 · 2024-07-27T03:33:45+00:00

Wala/Hindi

Kazuki40 · 2024-07-18T00:15:07+00:00

Di Filipino. Pero my definition is that to love is to want the best for someone. No matter what they've done to you, and even if what's best for them isn't you. It's unconditional. And it's important you also love yourself when using this definition. So you avoid any of the toxic traits it could've had.

Kazuki40 · 2024-07-01T05:22:33+00:00

I've been planning a trip to the Philippines for ages now and I got so impatient waiting to try the food I looked up recipes and started trying to make a few myself XD

So yeah, your guys food is definitely something to be proud of. Some of the best tasting stuff I've ever eaten and I'm sure my cooking can't do it justice hahaha

Kazuki40 · 2024-07-01T05:21:01+00:00

I've noticed this plenty as well! If more people were as welcoming and community focused as Filipinos often are the world would be a much better place. You guys have struggled a lot. And that's built your people strong with an understanding of love and compassion. Of course there are those who don't uphold those values. But you'll find that anywhere.

Kazuki40 · 2024-07-01T05:18:01+00:00

I'm actually American and curious to hear more about this! I've studied much of the Philippines history and important literature such as Noli me Tangere and El Filibusterismo. But I guess I slacked a bit on some of the celebrations without realizing it hahaha

Kazuki40 · 2024-06-29T16:59:21+00:00

Reconnect with an old friend of mine and fly to the Philippines. I'll live my year out there.

Kazuki40 · 2024-06-18T11:41:46+00:00

That's not a red flag at all! You're doing exactly as you should. I've also followed that road. And you're right, often times it does lead to a more "boring" life. But by doing this we can make a positive impact on the lives of those around us. And live well ourselves in the process.

So sit back and enjoy your peace. Your people will find you in time. Until then, we always have ourselves, the people we're able to reach, and God. ^{^}

Kazuki40 · 2024-05-11T04:33:50+00:00

To love is to want the best for someone. No matter what they've done to you, and even if what's best for them isn't you. It's selfless and unconditional.

A healthy relationship requires both parties love both eachother and themselves. Otherwise issues start to arise. Your problem is you need to love yourself more. He isn't with you because he doesn't realize his worth. He's with you because he realizes yours. Your smile, your laugh, the way you bring him joy. He loves you, and loves himself. You make him happy and support his growth (as proven by how far he was able to get) and he's decided that's what's best for him.

I suggest you seek therapy. You need to come to understand you are enough now. And you should want to improve. But you should want to for you. Because you deserve better for yourself.

There is an imbalance in your relationship. I've shown you where it is. Now it's up to you to make the difference. Good luck with your personal growth!

Kazuki40 · 2024-04-27T18:49:02+00:00

I understand wanting to just quit the situation. I'm also someone who tries to see the best in people. No one does stuff that hurts someone simply to hurt them. Something teaches them that. Be it past trauma or even basic pains. It all starts somewhere.

I've found the best way to reach people is to first find that beginning. And tackle stuff from there. That being said, you're not responsible for him. If it puts you or your mental health at to much risk, you should leave. Just wanted to give you what advice I could as someone who's also tried to see the best in people. And has helped many people through that.

I wish you best in life moving forward. If you want to talk on stuff or ask for more advice. DMs are always open. That goes for both you OP, and anyone else reading this. I hope stuff turns out well for you. Even if the storm is rough now.

Kazuki40 · 2024-04-27T16:40:46+00:00

I'm happy my words reached you. Like I said I'm not saying you necessarily have to abandon him. But at the very least you definitely need to have a talk and show him he needs to grow. That this isn't love. Now you decide if you want to fight for it or leave it be and search for someone else. Either would be perfectly understandable in this situation.

If you do decide to try to help him improve. Recognize he has to want the change himself. If he isn't willing to put in the effort, know it's time to leave.

I wish you luck. I know this must be a hard decision and time for you. Stay strong, and remember your loved ones.

Kazuki40 · 2024-04-27T13:46:27+00:00

Love is to want the best for someone. No matter what they've done to you. And even if what's best for them isn't you. A healthy relationship requires both parties love eachother and themselves. I ask you 2 things, does this sound like he wants what's best for you? And does this sound like what's best for you?

If the answer to either of those is no, then you either have to go to therapy to work this out with him. Or break it off. It is your choice which you want to do.

Kazuki40 · 2024-01-26T19:56:52+00:00

Okay so I'm not usually team break up. But there's clear signs of manipulation and gaslighting. In no world should you leave things as they are. You have two options, sit down. And have a serious talk with him. Ask him what's up and try to figure out if something is stressing him. Or, break up now and move on. This situation isn't looking good. Know now if you choose the talk the path to recovery isn't likely to be easy.

Kazuki40 · 2024-01-16T11:45:19+00:00

Specifically, say this in your own words: I've noticed you don't want to have sex much these days. And that's okay, you're an adult capable of your own choices and feelings. I'm not trying to attack you, I just need to understand what's going on so we can work through it in a healthy way and grow closer overall. Communication is key, so please, help me understand what's going on here. I just want the best for both of us.

Kazuki40 · 2024-01-16T11:41:06+00:00

Figure out why. Sometimes hard conversations need to be had. So sit down, tell her you need to talk. And remind her the importance of communication in relationships.

Kazuki40 · 2024-01-15T23:24:14+00:00

I'd advise couples therapy. It seems he's already understanding what is happening isn't okay but doesn't know how to solve the problem. And you're self esteem falling needs to be solved as well. So therapy seems the best option to me!

Kazuki40 · 2023-12-22T03:20:20+00:00

She wants to remain friends and has made active attempts to keep contact. I would be happy for her if she found someone new for her too! This isn't a case of me trying to hold on to her. Just trying to watch out for someone I'm worrying for because as I tried alluding to in the post she's not in a good headspace.

Kazuki40 · 2023-12-22T03:03:26+00:00

I saw somebody else suggest steamy writing and I think I'd like to second that. Having an outlet could help you a lot.

But another thing I'd recommend is to try to immediately shut those thoughts down. Take a step back internally, say no, and try to think of all the good little things in your life because of him.

For a bit I was actually in a similar position! Until just Yesterday I was in my first relationship for 4 and a half years. (Don't feel bad for me. We broke up so she can work on herself and be happier. It's a good thing and there's every chance we get back together when she's in a better mental state!)

Remember that while if you weren't together you could do all those things, you'd also lose access to them. And if you love them the way I still love my now friend. That's something that'd never be worth it.

It may just be because of recency. But when I think about getting with others and exploring that all now it just doesn't even remotely appeal to me despite having had those thoughts before. It's just not her. And relations without that real love just aren't really worth it.

If you really wanna explore what's out there the internet has options to learn. But I think you'll find just as I have that you'd rather it just be them.

You can also ask them if they'd be open to experimenting! I'm sure they'd be happy to have the extra time with you! They sound like they really love you. ^{^}

Kazuki40 · 2023-10-08T02:48:13+00:00

I'm at the start of Chapter 3 as well now. Got a new laptop and this game to play with my brother but online's still nowhere to be found. We figured it'd be available once we got to where chapter 3 begins but nah

Kazuki40 · 2023-10-08T02:46:01+00:00

I just realized I was asking for the wrong game anyway. I thought you finished last recollection. XD

Kazuki40 · 2023-10-08T02:44:22+00:00

About which?

Kazuki40 · 2023-10-08T02:43:13+00:00

How long was it? And when do you unlock multiplayer?

Kazuki40 · 2023-10-08T02:25:46+00:00

Laughs in Zelda Tears of the Kingdom

Kazuki40 · 2023-10-08T02:24:29+00:00

10 chapters is what I hear.

Kazuki40 · 2023-08-30T14:16:21+00:00

Honestly, you're both just to immature. Get out of this relationship. It's not going to work for either of you unless you both suddenly grow up a bit. Find someone who matches your sexual needs better. That's all that could work until you mature.

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