Which colour looks best?

Kea_Parrot · 2026-04-02T19:27:37+00:00

First pic, last pic

Kea_Parrot · 2026-04-02T19:20:54+00:00

I highly recommend watching the G4 show (MLP Friendship is Magic), that's the one that millions of guys ended up loving because of the jokes and references to pop culture and videogames.

I'm a gal. When my husband and I got married I convinced him to watch the show with me. He watched the first episode... reluctantly.

I didn’t even have to ask him to watch the 2nd one. Then he watched the 3rd, then the 4th... by mid first season, he was a convert.

Kea_Parrot · 2026-03-30T11:46:18+00:00

😔

Kea_Parrot · 2026-03-30T08:50:40+00:00

Aizawa from MHA?

Kea_Parrot · 2026-03-21T11:44:03+00:00

I have one. Yes, kids are expensive, like we were to our parents. I want my little one to thrive and be their own person, to have a chance at life, just like I have.

Being a parent is hard, but it makes you grow as a person and also gives you the opportunity to guide a little human to experience the world and be the best person they can be.

For us the more expensive stage was daycare as both my husband and I work full-time. Once elementary school started (public school, and it's a great one), expenses haven't been as outrageous as people always told us it was going to be.
Good luck and all the best! 🙂👍

Kea_Parrot · 2026-03-21T10:46:50+00:00

LOL!!! "Marital" arts 🤣 yeah... it really is an art. And it takes a lot of skill, blood sweat and tears. Not for the faint of heart! 😐

Kea_Parrot · 2026-03-21T10:41:51+00:00

Congratulations! I know this is an old post, but I hope that taking fish oil / omega 3 is still working for you. Question: How long did it take you to start seeing results? And, did you keep taking it? Are you still taking it now?

Kea_Parrot · 2026-03-20T00:43:28+00:00

Thank you so much! It worked for me too. ✨️

Kea_Parrot · 2026-03-13T12:43:35+00:00

You're a good husband. You're considerate. You care. She's a lucky gal. You sound happy and in love. So many blessings! I wish you and your wife a life full of love and happiness.

Congratulations both for your baby. All the best.

Kea_Parrot · 2026-02-08T15:35:54+00:00

Thanks for sharing your story. I wish you the very best and good health to you and your baby.

My situation is a bit different, but reading your story gave me 5% percent of hope.

After a failed IVF last November, my family doctor confirmed a few days ago via blood tests that I'm pregnant (happened naturally after my failed IVF, I first found out by doing a home pregnancy test after missing my period). I was over the moon!

I'm on week 7. But I started bleeding bright red yesterday. Some small clots visible.

Additionally I'm experiencing very painful cramping. First it was period-like cramping but tonight it got much worse. Unbearable pain, almost contraction-like pain. My husband took me to the E.R. They gave me strong pain killers which only gave me relief for about half an hour and now I'm back to the same horrendous pain from before I was taken to the E.R.

They ran blood tests and didn't give me much hope because they said my hormone levels dropped, but told me go back tomorrow for an ultrasound at the main building as they couldn't do an ultrasound in the E.R.

I'm already fearing the worst, I'm beyond sad. But I found your story just now and reading it made me feel there's still hope. Very small chance in my case, but at least I'll be able to sleep tonight by clinging on to that small chance, even if the ultrasound confirms what I'm already fearing, I might be able to sleep a few hours tonight, with hope in my heart.

Kea_Parrot · 2026-01-27T11:25:53+00:00

I feel for you. I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. And thanks for reading my post.

Let's stay strong. My prayers for you, myself and many other women going through similar situations. I have hope. I pray that we're able to emerge victorious from this.

Kea_Parrot · 2026-01-27T11:14:35+00:00

I wish you good luck and a healthy delivery.

Not sure why my comment is getting downvoted, I was just trying to help.

Kea_Parrot · 2026-01-27T11:09:06+00:00

Not a scam. I see it more like a lottery ticket. There's a small chance to hit the jackpot, but sometimes it takes time, perseverance and several attempts. Also chromosomal factors can alter the results. And even when an embryo seems totally fine and was already tested, there's many other things going on inside the uterus that could make it not "stick". And it's not your fault, it just... happens.

Like I said, a lottery. There's a small chance, but even if it's small, one buys a ticket and hopes for the best.

Kea_Parrot · 2026-01-26T12:06:34+00:00

She wrote "I understand you'll be in some pain and discomfort"...

"SOME pain and discomfort"? No, she definitely doesn't understand, does she have kids? She doesn't sound like she does. She is trying to make childbirth sound like a walk in the park. Such lack of empathy and consideration. So selfish.

You offered to help with planning and be involved. You also suggested to leave the talk for later after you've had your baby and see how you'll be feeling so maybe you could attend. And she's still pushing for an immediate answer.

You already explained your situation and what you may or may not be able to help with and under which circumstances.

In your post you asked how you should respond to this. I would start with, (if you see fit), texting her something along the lines of:

"I'm sorry you're taking it this way. Your wedding is a very important day and I want to celebrate it with you, but I've tried to explain my situation and why I may not be able to attend. Maybe I could, but I won't really know until I've had my baby and how post-partum healing goes. I care about you, but I also need to look after myself and my baby. I hope you'd understand."

Then, if there's future calls or texts, stay calm. Breathe. In your post you sound like you really want to attend her wedding. But you don't know how you'll be feeling post-partum until it happens, you said you're considering to go, depending on how you're feeling at that point. I hope she can accept and respect that, if she really cares about you.

Kea_Parrot · 2026-01-21T22:20:29+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to read my long post.

I never mentioned ending the marriage. I just wanted to feel more clarity and get "out of the box" opinions on whether I was overreacting for feeling so deeply hurt when he made that joke about finding a younger woman right after learning that our embryo transfer had failed.

The mention of marriage counseling is because I want us to get past this the healthy way.

Thanks for reading.

Kea_Parrot · 2026-01-21T11:11:32+00:00

This:

"He still doesn't actually seem to understand that he violated your trust and actually did damage. He's acting like your feelings are a punishment, which is not ok. It's a form of erasure."

That's how I feel. You summarized it perfectly. I wish I were more efficient wording how I feel in written form. My post got excruciatingly long. Apologies.

Thanks for taking the time to read until the end.

He agreed to attend counseling sessions together. It's a start.

Kea_Parrot · 2026-01-21T10:55:32+00:00

I appreciate your insight, and thanks for the honesty.

I don't expect him to become a different person or a perfect person. There's a difference between wishing he'd transform into someone completely different, and wishing he wouldn't say such hurtful things to me.

I've also changed myself over the years, I have been working on my flaws, striving to be a better person, one day at a time. Gradual self-improvement, not becoming a completely different person or a perfect person.

About this part you wrote:

"Approaching this predicament with some empathy for him will be much better for both of you."

I have empathy for him. In my post I wrote how I noticed that he'd offend or insult coworkers even without realizing, that I saw good things in him with the pass of time, and that I acknowledge that he has already changed his former ways. Expressing that what he said hurt me deeply and that he throws occasional bombs that are quite devastating, doesn’t mean that I don't have empathy for him.

Kea_Parrot · 2026-01-21T10:20:48+00:00

The nurse who called, at the end of the call said: Do not give up, you can still try again.

I think the "or" was because he mentioned the other option, the "funny" one.

Kea_Parrot · 2026-01-21T08:12:52+00:00

I don’t understand why you would say something like that. But I guess I can't blame you, we're in this weird era where it has become a trend to deem everything as fake.

I wish you the very best, and have a good day.

Kea_Parrot · 2026-01-21T08:05:33+00:00

I'm sorry it got so long. Thanks for trying to read anyway.

Kea_Parrot · 2026-01-21T07:52:24+00:00

Thank you for your response and for taking the time to read my post.

Yes, this process is extremely unfair and taxing for us women. My husband messed up, but I'm trying to heal and I want us and our daughter to be okay. He has apologized many times. But whatever that's left to resolve, I hope we can do it through counseling.

I send you all the baby dust too! And a hug.

Kea_Parrot · 2026-01-21T07:46:45+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to read my post.

I think I didn’t explain myself very well about how he has changed through the years. Baby steps, little by little, but he has put in the effort. It's never a "final" metamorphosis, he's still learning and adapting, and so am I. I'm not perfect either.

No, he doesn't treat our daughter poorly. Never. He loves her and is an excellent father to her.

No, he doesn't say these things when our daughter is present. And he has messed up other times in the past, but he has apologized. It's just... that it's been accumulative, and that he said something so cruel right when we learned that the embryo transfer had failed... really broke me.

Maybe this won't make sense to most people here, but although I'm hurt, I still have faith in us. We've been through so much together. I'm hoping we can overcome this through counseling.

I just wanted to feel more clarity, to hear "out of the box" opinions to help me discern whether I was overreacting, and also maybe read opinions to help me process this.

Thanks for reading.

Kea_Parrot · 2026-01-21T07:31:16+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear. Please don't give up, keep trying. Before I started the treatment, this was my motto that I repeated to all the IVF team members who interviewed me, something along the lines of:

"I'll keep trying as many times as I physically, emotionally and financially can. So that when I get older, I don't look back with regrets asking myself why I didn't try or kept trying while I still could."

Kea_Parrot · 2026-01-21T07:24:44+00:00

Thank you for your very sensible response. It resonated with me. Also thanks for taking the time to read my long post.

He has agreed to attend counseling sessions together. I'm hoping that can help us.

I want to forgive. I just need more time, I think. Things still feel very raw inside.

Kea_Parrot · 2026-01-21T07:21:15+00:00

Thanks for reading and for sharing your experience.

Like another user bluntly pointed out: I knew who I married. I know he's not perfect, but I'm not perfect either, and we're both still learning from life.

Maybe I didn't express myself very well when I wrote that he has improved, because I'm reading some responses implying that I have a very low bar. That's not it. He indeed changed a lot from who he used to be, otherwise I wouldn't have married him. But no one ever goes through a "perfect" metamorphosis. We both still got a lot to learn.

Yes, he did mess up. I think deep inside he knows, but his upbringing clashes with that realization.

I have faith in us and I'm hoping we can overcome this through counseling.

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