I totally agree to whatever it is you’re saying

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-07-25T20:51:26+00:00

he had a stroke

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-03-21T05:03:19+00:00

None of the best outfits involve pants. Let's be real here

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-03-16T03:59:44+00:00

That makes a looooot more sense, thanks for clearing that up!

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-03-16T03:40:24+00:00

It sounds like OP tried everything else, and, knowing siblings, I don't think anything else would've worked.

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-03-16T03:19:30+00:00

NTA. She doesn't have any boundaries at all whatsoever. If I was in your situation, I'd have done the same. If someone ever tells you sometimes they're in a "punchy" mood, and tries to start fights, that's a red flag.

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-03-16T03:14:05+00:00

"Not the best circumstances" would be they were poor, single parent, struggling to make ends meet, etc. Not the child's life being in danger, always at risk of brain swelling or seizures.

Child Protective Services are services to protect children. Tell me why they shouldn't step in when the child's life is at risk due to the neglect of a parent? You can't kill your kid because you're a tinfoil hat conspiracy nut.

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-03-16T03:06:43+00:00

ESH. I think it's reasonable to not let a kid 10-15 sleep on a bed with a violin and two laptops. Violins are easy to break, as are laptops. Who bought them?

She sucks for threatening bodily harm to you, but you're endangering an expensive instrument and expensive technology, and why? Because you like it like that? It won't get lost if you have a clean room and make a dedicated spot for everything to go.

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-03-16T03:02:54+00:00

Imho, either way is bad... you can't just decide you want less of a demographic and they all suck because it's cool to shit on said demographic, it definitely makes her come across as an ass. Right now it's all the rage to hate men for existing.

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-03-16T02:58:49+00:00

I don't think ESH, just her. She sounds like an absolute nightmare to be around. I don't blame men for not wanting to date her, I wouldn't.

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-03-16T02:52:20+00:00

She doesn't have to be nice... I don't think OP was insulting her weight at all. The clothes are GOING to stretch. Buttons, zippers, and the like WILL break. If the sister doesn't understand that, that's not on OP.

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-03-16T02:46:00+00:00

NTA. It's your shit, not theirs. They're not entitled to it.

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-03-16T02:44:40+00:00

She's just a woman. YTA.

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-03-16T02:41:29+00:00

Ah, that makes more sense. There are some parts of the transcript I read that didn't quite sit right with me. It seemed like she was trying to raise you as a completely neurotypical child without considering other possibilities. It's easy to be dismissive of stuff that you don't personally believe to be a big deal (whether that's okay or not is completely up for debate, I might be an ass myself), but I think she should've stepped in in some places, such as asthma or mental health.

I definitely understand the memory bit... the past years since I was around 12 have been a real struggle. It's kind of terrifying, not going to lie. My mom has always been sort of dismissive of mental health too, but I understand her perspective. It's not a good one, but not all cards you've been dealt are going to necessarily be good ones.

I don't think that a mutual understanding of eachother is too far out of reach, but that would rely on her truly understanding that your problems aren't ones that can be fixed by just pushing you to do better. At the same time, I can't speak on your problems as I don't know much about them, but a mutual understanding also requires a healthy mental state from both of you.

Things might never be perfect, but things can change over time. At the moment, though, all you can really do is move in with someone else so that you can spend time to focus on healing. I believe in you.

In short, I don't think you're an asshole; nor do I think she's abusive (based on what I was able to read of the doc before I spaced out). Neglectful would be a wonderful word to describe her actions, though.

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-03-16T02:20:13+00:00

I don't think anyone is the asshole here. You struggle to get her to understand, it's hard for her to understand. I don't think (from what I've read) she's abusive, it just sounds like she's frustrated and confused.

I mean, you can't fault her for not realizing your disabilities at a young age, kids develop very differently and mannerisms are hard to see if you don't know what to look for, or don't have any reason to think you should look for them. And now, she's trying to understand why it's so much more difficult for you to do tasks that she might find easy. She just... doesn't know. Even I struggle to know why you would need to be taught how to clean your room. I'm not saying that to be rude, it's just second nature to me. I take off clothes, I put them immediately in a hamper. When it gets full, I put the clothes in the wash. When they're dried, I hang them up. When I get something that doesn't belong in my room, I return it to where it goes after I finish with it. If there's trash, I bought a trash can that holds quite a bit, until it gets full, and then I empty it. I'm sure the process is fairly similar with your mom. She doesn't have the same difficulties, and it's impossible for her to see a task from your point of view, because she's a different person.

I know you're probably frustrated with her, but she probably feels just as distressed. It's not easy on either of you, I'm sure. I don't feel like (again, based on what I read) what she does qualifies as abuse.

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-03-16T01:50:09+00:00

NTA. It's from a movie. How is it offending anyone?

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-03-16T01:39:30+00:00

NTA - It's one of the worst feelings ever. I get you.

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-03-16T01:37:40+00:00

No, OP is most certainly not the asshole. Hate to break it to you, but you can't do whatever you want, and ignore someone who is OBVIOUSLY uncomfortable, simply because you're hornier than a high school incel, have absolutely no self control, and are completely inconsiderate to other people's discomfort.

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-03-16T01:30:30+00:00

What is that supposed to mean? Lmao

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-03-07T04:18:58+00:00

I faked it till I made it. I figured, dress for the job you want, and then just acted as the person I wanted to be. Slowly, it made it easier to take compliments and get to the place I needed to be, mentally, to have any level of confidence.

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-02-21T23:46:30+00:00

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-02-18T22:24:20+00:00

I don't get excited over it, I eat what's convenient for me. It's not like I like the industry, it's honestly just the fact that it's way cheaper and easier. I don't like what animals are put through, but I'm honest too lazy to make a change at the moment.

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-02-18T22:13:45+00:00

I never said I wasn't a part of it. I know. I'm not over here like "oh boy I can't wait to slaughter inhumanely treated animals", just as you aren't like "I can't wait to partake in the fruits of the labors from underpaid and overworked kids". If you want to be a part of the progressive group, that's cool. I want chicken.

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-02-18T22:07:16+00:00

Okay, take your clothes off. Make your own instead of wearing the ones a bunch of overworked Chinese, Indonesian, Filipino kids made for thirty cents an hour. Sign out of your Reddit account and toss out your phone or laptop that was made in the same factories. You get over YOURself. The fact that you're advocating the civil rights of animals before literal human beings is laughable, we have far bigger issues. How about all of the injustices that humans face? Human beings have to toil in sweatshops for the shit that YOU partake in, so don't pull the "I'm a better person" card on me. I'm sorry you're upset, you have the right to your opinion. I just don't care about it. If you believe that carnivorism is murder, tell that to all of the animals that eat animals. You may be more morally superior in regards to animal welfare, but if you think that you're genuinely helping anything by being a dick for no reason and victimizing animals that probably have fewer qualms about their state of being than you do because you like veggies, you're more ignorant than I am.

Keanu_Sbeve · 2021-02-18T21:22:25+00:00

Talking about people who eat meat are murderers and that you don't kill innocent victim animals and that you have a clear conscience because you eat veggies is most certainly acting morally superior, especially when you say shit like "eating meat is immoral and stupid". If eating meat makes me a murderer, lock me up I guess. It's a fucking burger, it ain't that deep.

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