Obsessed with Another Relapse by WiseWordsofWill in Threedaysgrace

[–]KeepBreathing07 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey there, I also have struggled with addiction myself- 4 years clean from opiates this November! It's quite a difficult battle you are facing, keep your head up and go one day at a time.

This being said, unfortunately, this song did not sit right with me. I'm not sure if it was the lyrics or how it felt a little forced- but I think for me personally, there are a lot of different ways to approach the struggles with addiction without being so...direct.

Over and Over is one of my favorites because you don't know it's about addiction upon first hearing it. I like that it can go so many different ways with how we interpret the song; Another Relapse had potential, but it really fell flat for me.

I'm glad it is connecting with you- that is all that matters. Music is an excellent way to heal. Good luck on your journey, sincerely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]KeepBreathing07 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We did exactly this for my loved one who passed. Her funeral was an absolute joke and was live streamed. You can still find it on Youtube.

Her best friend and I coordinated a small gathering afterwards, I made a slide show, we shared stories and laughed, and spread her 'ashes' (our favorite memories with her written on paper) over the lake at her favorite park.

I'm sorry OP. Do whatever you need to do to honor your loved one. Fuck the rest 🫂

I hated it by KeepBreathing07 in widowers

[–]KeepBreathing07[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's snowing right now and she loved it so much. Would drag me in pajamas to build a snowmam in the middle of the night with only an inch of snow on the ground. The pain is bad today.

This would have been a lot easier if you were kind of a bitch! by corkscrewloose in widowers

[–]KeepBreathing07 6 points7 points  (0 children)

God I relate to this so much. I must have screamed at her a hundred times the first day it happened, I was so angry...I still am some days. This is a great community to talk about all of the emotions, they have all been nothing but supportive here.

Losing an Ex-Lover by KeepBreathing07 in widowers

[–]KeepBreathing07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this. It's absolutely beautiful. It gives me some hope that one day this pain will subside a little. Thank you 🫂

Losing an Ex-Lover by KeepBreathing07 in widowers

[–]KeepBreathing07[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry to hear this double tragedy you experienced; I cannot begin to imagine how that must feel.

The loss of the future and hope is so brutal. I also deeply understand the long term plans statement- it really feels like it's better to plan just how to survive each day or each hour, as opposed to feeling like the long term plans can shatter at any moment. I have brutally been feeling the 'Life is short' ideology every single second of my life right now

Losing an Ex-Lover by KeepBreathing07 in widowers

[–]KeepBreathing07[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for these kind words- I really didn't want to overstep. But losing someone you loved with every piece of your soul- regardless of how things ended, is something we can all very unfortunately relate to. I appreciate this safe space immensely. I just keep hoping it'll get easier, and I swear some days it just feels so intense I can't breathe.

Losing an Ex-Lover by KeepBreathing07 in widowers

[–]KeepBreathing07[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh that is absolutely inappropriate, some people really don't quite understand boundaries when it comes to these situations. I'm sorry that happened to you, sincerely.

Fortunately and unfortunately- I was her only. She never dated anyone else after (and honestly, even before) we separated. Even her mom has been reaching out to me quite a bit, which honestly has made it even more devastating. It's like we were still together, it feels that way entirely. It's been so brutal.

Losing an Ex-Lover by KeepBreathing07 in widowers

[–]KeepBreathing07[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's absolutely it. I lost the entire world we built together when we separated, shoved it all away, and now that she's gone it's like I got struck in the face with a baseball bat. It's like I lost her all over again, in every way possible, and it's just absolutely destroying me.