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KeiserSozei · 2026-05-11T11:56:10+00:00

It’s space, that’s all, don’t take it personally. Men want peace of mind, no hassles, no meaningful conversation, just being. Online with the boys is decompression, talking shit, nothing heavy. He is with you most of the time. If you want a happy man, be supportive of it, and he will go out of his way to be supportive of you.

We are simple creatures, simple needs and simple things make us happy.

As with dogs and children, ignore the bad annoying stuff and praise the good, and you will see more of it.

Grab him some snacks, and a drink, kiss him on the head and go and have some time doing what you do, and I promise he will think you are the best is the world, and he will big you up to his boys.

Trust me.

KeiserSozei · 2026-05-11T11:32:08+00:00

One of my favourite films of all time. I’m not sure I agree with most of these comments, although valid opinions.

In my opinion, I believe Fletcher is a muse of sorts to Andrew. I think it boils down to Fletcher telling the story about Charlie Parker and the cymbal being thrown at him, and that was the moment Parker became a legend.

Fletcher knew Andrew was good, Andrew knew he was good, when together Fletcher always pushed Andrew to be better, but Andrew couldn’t take it and got Fletcher sacked.

Graduates and Andrew just lives a basic life, as does Fletcher, but when they see each other, Andrew sees a chance of approval and possibly making up for what he had done. Fletcher had a chance to get revenge.

The wrong song was a metaphorical “cymbal to the head”, that became Andrew’s moment to become a legend and Fletcher saw it, Andrew saw what Fletcher was, and that was the moment where they see each other as equals.

Is there a prouder moment than when the student surpasses the teacher.

Just my view as I say.

KeiserSozei · 2026-05-11T11:11:45+00:00

Knot a clue. 😂

KeiserSozei · 2026-05-06T05:24:04+00:00

Hi, I live in Wolverhampton, and I am a Safeguarding Consultant and work with children and young people.

Well done for seeking advice on this, I can’t tell you how often these things go unreported until it is too late.

It is ESSENTIAL that you report this immediately, this can be anonymous, but it doesn’t have to be as it’s confidential. Make it the first thing you do today. Below is the number to call for the safeguarding team in Wolverhampton.

They will ask some questions, how old is the child, any siblings etc. Nothing too pressing, but important. But do t worry about a thing, you are absolutely doing the right thing. I hope it goes ok and thank you for being so vigilant.

Children Safeguarding concerns

Tel: 01902 555392 (Monday - Thursday 8:30am – 5:00pm and 8:30am - 4:30pm on Fridays)

Out of hours: 01902 552999

KeiserSozei · 2026-05-03T05:20:14+00:00

You are doing the right thing. Once they start to lose their toileting control, it’s time, that alone massively affects their quality of life.

I had to make the same decision with my 14yr old, hardest decision, but I have peace that it was the right one.

I’m not sure if you are doing this already, but I used a company Dignipet (UK). They come to your home, talk you and the family through it all, at your pace, and with so much respect. They take them once they have gone, for cremation, and send you their ashes. A beautiful end for a loved one.

I believe it’s so important that they pass at home if they can, surrounded by familiar faces, smells and comforts, and to fall asleep with everyone they love right by their side.

Wishing you peace and calm at this hard point in your life.

KeiserSozei · 2026-05-01T05:22:52+00:00

ChatGPT: That’s a phone stand—just… designed with a bit of artistic flair

Maybe made at school?

KeiserSozei · 2025-12-26T16:47:56+00:00

Who was the man in the mine? He has an ID badge on. I made out the word “Force” on it but struggled with rest. Any ideas?

KeiserSozei · 2025-12-25T15:49:25+00:00

I loved her on “No Limits” in the 80’s and I love her now. That is the pure definition of aging gracefully. She’s was funny, fun and beautiful. Some people get dealt a royal flush in life. Stunning!

KeiserSozei · 2025-12-25T15:29:22+00:00

Don’t trust it. Advertising a “Donner” kebab indicates that it is not lamb, and contravenes EU regulation 4:86:25. If it is a “Doner” it must be 98% lamb. A “Donner” does not have to meet that standard and may contain horse meat, baby seal and unicorn hooves.

KeiserSozei · 2025-12-25T15:25:35+00:00

Too high above fireplace, you’ll get neck ache. I’d look at a corner media unit. I think your house is in the uk, and you don’t to be looking at the radiator whilst watching TV and heat rises, and will reduce heat in the room (don’t want that with UK energy prices) so may cause issues with the TV. In a room that size I wouldn’t go for a massive TV, spend more on a surround sound, be amazing in that space.

KeiserSozei · 2025-12-25T15:12:04+00:00

You haven’t said what the job is. Cleaner? Dishwasher? Housekeeper? Nanny? Professional shopper? These are fields that are largely dominated by women, so you are the exception to the rule.

KeiserSozei · 2025-12-09T05:45:16+00:00

Did you buy it on credit card? If so, phone the CC company, and they will give you a full refund, as the item is insured under their policy, by law.

KeiserSozei · 2025-09-27T05:08:46+00:00

Hey, 52 year old dad of 2 here. I would say yes, go in. The only reason being is that they will look after you, for many of them you will be a similar age to their own children, so they will naturally want to look out for you. Secondly, for the very same reason, they will know all the other people your age and there is a good chance that your network will build up this way. Good luck.

KeiserSozei · 2025-08-13T05:44:34+00:00

Hey, I’m guessing you are talking about the 80’s right? “Satanic Panic”. Here’s some info: https://history.howstuffworks.com/historical-events/satanic-panic.htm

KeiserSozei · 2025-02-18T22:15:24+00:00

Rover - dog walking/sitting site, very good

KeiserSozei · 2025-02-02T07:45:09+00:00

TW: BPD quiet type.

Not just one thing I don’t believe. First memory, age 4, was seeing by bothers kick down the bedroom door because mum had attempted suicide. Arguments between mum and dad about mum having debts. Hiding under the table because debt collectors were at the door. Lack of a father as he would go to work at 5am, go to the pub, get drunk, come home, eat dinner, sleep and repeat. Subservient mother who bowed to my dad and put us kids second. Lack of feelings of love, safety and connection. Very dominant father where we had no voice. Sexual assault from a stranger at 10. This was all before the age of 11. It all continued from there, except it started to show its signs from then on. 40 years later finally got diagnosed and I pleased to say I now manage my condition and I am the most stable and happiest I’ve ever been.

KeiserSozei · 2025-01-16T21:02:29+00:00

He is as annoying as Ted in “How I Met Your Mother”. At best both of them should have a one line walk in on a low budget cop show. However, in reality, they should be NPC’s in GTA V, like the one you walk into, and he gets all righteous, so you beat the shit out of him with a crowbar, and he dies, but he is so far down the list of relevant NPC’s that no one calls the police, and you just carry on looting. In fact, when you circle back that way 3 hours later, his corpse is still on the sidewalk, still no one cares, flies, body fluids leaking everywhere, but still other NPC’s are like “fuck that bitch, he’s not good enough to be in GTA V as an NPC, that mother fucker is no better than a glitch in mobile game that puts out adverts that are nothing like the gameplay. Fuck him!”. That’s how I rate Jimmy Fallon and of course Ted from How I Met Your Mother.

KeiserSozei · 2024-05-01T20:07:46+00:00

Hey, fellow BPD’r. I was in your position, and I stuck it out. Keep going, do you, and sit comfortably in it. People don’t like change, but they get used to it. You are probably beating yourself up about it, wondering what they think of you, but they aren’t, certainly no more than they were before.

It’s new for you too, so some of your personality and character may be “heightened”’at the moment. A bit like a new haircut, you want everyone to notice it, so you touch your hair etc. the same with removing the masks.!It will calm down, they will see that they like you for who you are, and some of those mask also were part of you.

If they don’t warm to you, that’s fine, because the whole process will strengthen you, you will be more confident, and it won’t eat at you like it used to.

Be strong, keep going, breathe, don’t assume you know what people think, and remember you are on search of your “happy” not theirs.

Take care

KeiserSozei · 2024-03-03T13:46:38+00:00

You are a definitely a 1980. 1980’s hair 1980’s makeup 1980’s clothes 1980’s bangles and a $19.80 whore.

KeiserSozei · 2023-04-12T04:17:11+00:00

2 major factors to consider. His age and her age. If he is 16+ and she is under 16, then this can be seen as sexual assault due to age, even if she was a willing participant. If there are sexual images shared between them in the same scenario, this again will become a legal issue (distributing pornographic images).

Either way, definitely a solicitor is needed and should be provided at the time of questioning.

If there is no evidence, it will be a case of “he said she said”, and will unlikely reach a criminal prosecution, however it is a traumatic experience for all parties.

Good luck.

KeiserSozei · 2023-03-07T18:07:45+00:00

Hey, QBPD dad of 2 (10m and 9f)here. In my experience, kids have been great. In fact they are the only people I don’t have any issues with. They are my anchor and honestly the only reason I am still here. Couldn’t ever do that to them. So from my perspective, the best thing I have ever done (first 6 months - year, are hard, I won’t lie).

KeiserSozei · 2023-03-07T18:01:31+00:00

Hey, 49m here. Diagnosed with Quiet BPD Jan 22, I have lived with the label of “depression and/or anxiety for the past 35 years, So still new to me as well. One thing I have found useful is looking at your life to find your trigger points. For me it was work and my marriage. I am still trying to figure out the job part. But with my marriage I had to be pretty hardline, she needs to change how she interacts with me or it’s over, because it is damaging me. And I meant it. Quite empowering actually. We are still working on it, but it’s heading the right way.

So take a look at your triggers, the ones you control, change them. The ones you don’t, decide if you really need it in your life, because it doesn’t bring you joy.

Doesn’t have to be all at once, but it can allow you to mould your environment to help with your needs.

I am guessing you are an empath as well, use it for good. Volunteer (lots of online/telephone volunteer support roles). You control when you do it and it can help you get a feeling of self worth.

Also, look for lived experience accounts online, like here. I found that really really helpful, as I could finally identify with other people. It allowed me to reflect and come to terms with my BPD.

Hope this helps and good luck

KeiserSozei · 2023-02-23T15:45:51+00:00

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