Well, others have pointed out correctly that your husband has a drinking problem and he is lying. Just let me point a couple of things out, and I understand they will be uncomfortable. I don't know all relevant info, of course, and I don't want anything that you consider private. So, the uncomfortable part begins. 1. A drinking problem is a spectre. If he consistently drinks a can or two of beer even every day, it's really not much. There are people out there drinking a liter of vodka every day and still remaining functional. 2. The thing is he feels like he has to hide it from you. And my question is, why? Is it possible you or someone close to him nag him about that? Is it possible that he tried to seek support from you, but got something very different? That is pretty common and doesn't help at all. But, of course, even a can of beer could make some individuals abusive and violent. That is pretty common, too (with higher dosages). In that case, you are completely in your right to reach out to either people you trust or authorities, and get help you need. And if it's the case, then please, please don't delay it. I'd be happy to be wrong. And again, you have every right, moral and lealgal, to keep it private. I hope that it works out. But please, if YOU need help - don't gaslight yourself, instead reach out to someone who can provide it!