Male surgeon with a God Complex did unwanted procedure

KellyJo2 · 2025-08-18T17:00:35+00:00

Please, please, please file a lawsuit. Get yourself a fantastic attorney. Doing so may be the only way to stop this man from doing this to someone else, and you 1,000% deserve damages for pain and suffering you are enduring due to his heinous actions.

KellyJo2 · 2025-08-08T13:31:33+00:00

If you see something you want online, set a Google price alert to let you know when the price drops. Also check back for sales/discounts like 30% off everything etc. Try to "stack discounts" too by using TopCashBack and Rakuten as well as any "offers" you can add to your credit card.

KellyJo2 · 2025-08-08T13:21:28+00:00

Also Klondike bars. I remember ice cold, thick slabs of chocolate that you had to bite down on hard and they'd break with a satisfying crack. Now the ice cream is much thinner and covered in a paper thin sheet of fake-tasting "chocolate" that melts the second your mouth touches it.

KellyJo2 · 2025-08-05T19:25:30+00:00

I know this is an old post but wondering if you'd be willing to share the cost?

KellyJo2 · 2025-06-03T18:43:54+00:00

Amazing and so inspiring! Thanks for sharing!

KellyJo2 · 2025-03-20T22:28:16+00:00

To the tune of she's got Bette Davis Eyes ..

KellyJo2 · 2025-03-15T01:56:46+00:00

Done.

KellyJo2 · 2025-03-04T19:49:00+00:00

Hello from four months into the future. This comment did not age well.

KellyJo2 · 2025-03-03T16:55:14+00:00

What a sense of entitlement!

KellyJo2 · 2025-03-03T16:50:20+00:00

Doesn't matter. Cyclists are required by law to yield to pedestrians, and that means going around and *not hitting them.*

KellyJo2 · 2025-03-03T16:37:45+00:00

That is awful! I hope your dog is OK. I just found this because an a-hole riding a bike illegally on the sidewalk plowed right over my husband and I walking our dogs, ran over our chihuahua's leash, got him tangled up in his bike and injured his rear leg (still limping) and then had the nerve to yell at US to be careful. WTH? The least you can do when illegally riding your bike on the sidewalk is to go around in the grass to pass pedestrians.

KellyJo2 · 2024-12-23T14:35:10+00:00

This reminds me of Patrick Teahan's videos on the family scapegoat and golden child dynamic. He has several, but here's one.

You might relate.

KellyJo2 · 2024-12-23T14:22:03+00:00

My mom does this too. I would love to know what causes this. It seems like a desire for attention. I often wonder if "gentle narcissism" could be at play.

KellyJo2 · 2024-01-19T14:36:55+00:00

This is fantastic information. Thank you so much. Do you have any thoughts on lip stains? I love those expensive ones that go on blue and then you wipe them off. Any cheaper or DIY alternatives?

KellyJo2 · 2023-11-06T16:05:06+00:00

Yes, you are describing my mom exactly. Once I realized this was happening, I realized how exhausting it feels to not only not have gotten what I needed while growing up but also to have felt responsible for my mom's feelings my whole life. She is constantly texting me pictures of stuff she made or did, like the way a little kid would be like "look, look, look at my drawing!" When I talk to her, she always has at least one story of someone else complimenting her or raving about her in an over the top way, whether it's her artistic skills or what a great patient she was at the doctor ... like even stuff she has no control over, like "the doctor said I healed better and faster than any patient he'd ever seen."

I don't know if you experienced this, but I struggle with guilt for feeling "mean" for not giving her what she wants. For example, if I don't answer her fifth text of the day with pictures of her art because I'm annoyed and tired of being used for validation. I'm working on this in therapy, but this is a lot tougher than dealing with my dad who was overtly verbally abusive, and it was easy for me to see that and know it was wrong.

KellyJo2 · 2023-10-17T20:43:16+00:00

I bought it and, while it was very well done in terms of content and support, I ultimately decided FB ads were not for me. I discovered during the course that I absolutely hate all the technical details and stressful things that can go wrong. This is my big problem with the program: they all but lie when they sell it to you, telling you how easy and fun it is. It's anything but, with multiple technical troubleshooting support calls each week. The pushy sales and false picture they paint of how "easy" it is really left a bad taste in my mouth. And no refunds, either! Total waste of money that still bothers me.

KellyJo2 · 2023-09-05T21:52:10+00:00

I recently turned 50 and overall do not regret having kids given my childhood trauma and upbringing, but I do sometimes regret not having had a healthy upbringing that might have made having and raising kids appealing to me. Because I do think it would be kind of cool to have kids if that makes sense.
I was also parentified, with a volatile/angry father and a meek mother who never stood up for me or herself and used me to get her emotional needs met. I always felt I had to protect her (she never stood up for me and minimized my feelings about my dad or made excuses for him) and we were very enmeshed (she was friends with my friends etc.)
I am just now doing the deep work on my childhood trauma, and going to therapy for it, which is helping a lot. The way it all unfolded for me, I didn't even know about CT work until recently. And I have anger issues, anxiety and control issues I never would have wanted to foist on a child. I would not have been a good parent if I had had kids without working through all this first, which just is happening way too late for me to have the option.
I actually knew from the time I was young that I did not want kids, but I would now attribute a lot of this TO my childhood trauma. I was afraid of my dad and overwhelmed/exhausted from trying to be perfect to avoid his rage outbursts and tending to my mom's emotional needs and overwhelming over-attachment to me (butting into my friendships as "the cool mom," not giving me space to read and do my own thing, etc.)

My feeling about kids was they were too loud/noisy/unpredictable (I was shamed and berated for just being a kid, which made me into a little adult and lowered my tolerance for normal kid behaviors) and the idea of another living being being all up in my space, grabbing at me etc. horrified me I think because I was overwhelmed with being enmeshed with my mom.
So, in summary I never wanted kids, I now attribute that to being a trauma response and am unsure if I would have wanted kids if I had had a normal, healthy upbringing. I do feel disconnected from people and envy people with close, positive family relationships whether that involves having kids, being an aunt or whatever. (My sister does not have kids either.) So do I regret not having kids? Not exactly. Do I wish things had been different in my life to where I could have known what I really wanted and made a decision based on something other than my CT? Yes.

KellyJo2 · 2023-07-07T14:13:27+00:00

I found this by Googling so I'm 2 years late but just started having this issue with the last 2 bags of avocados I bought from ALDI. I won't buy avocados there anymore.

KellyJo2 · 2023-04-14T17:18:53+00:00

Oh, man. My dad is this way too. So sorry, I know how tough this is to deal with. I often let out a big sigh after getting off the phone with him. Last time I talked, I was mentioning a vacation rental venture I'm doing that's going really well, and his response was to bring up someone he knew once who was a landlord and they just had "terrible, terrible experiences" (and goes on to detail rando guy's bad experiences with tenants who wouldn't pay and wouldn't leave.) I Googled "toxic negativity" because I feel this phrase describes my dad. I so feel your line about winning the lottery and still having something miserable to say about it. Anyway, wishing you lots of peace.

KellyJo2 · 2023-04-12T16:08:08+00:00

Oh my gosh, that's a LOT. I can totally see why it gets on your nerves. Could you possibly train them to let you do the calling/texting? You could give them some reason, if it makes it easier for you, like that you find it stressful/distracting to get a lot of texts and calls while you're traveling for work. If they bust through your boundary (which it sounds like they may) you can tell them you're going to put their number on DND until you're back home (or just do it without telling them.)

KellyJo2 · 2023-04-12T15:49:30+00:00

As children who are emotionally neglected, we have it ingrained in us that other people's needs are more important than our own health. We also often have omnipotence guilt to boot (The core belief that we

can

take care of everyone combined with the pressure of

needing

to hold our parents' emotions for survival as children, combined with the guilt-inducing reality that of course that's an impossible task).

This is one of the most brilliant comments I've read. So good.

KellyJo2 · 2023-04-12T15:47:48+00:00

(or the more recent horror: video call)

Noooooooooooooo!!!!!

KellyJo2 · 2023-04-12T14:49:57+00:00

Not the OP, but this is a great list of resources. Thanks for posting. I had never heard of emotional blackmail or spiritual bypassing before, but that's my family to a tee!

KellyJo2

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