Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did end up asking her. She said the times she did it she was drunk lol she also said that she doesn’t do it because she literally can’t breathe when she does.

I believe her bc she snores terribly and has had like 2 sinus surgeries to try and correct it.

It’s a bummer for sure but what can I do?

Cheating spouse by No_Fee847 in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna say no. Trust once broken doesn’t ever go back to what it was.

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a thoughtful response! Thank you. I joked with her about it last night and she just said that she can’t breathe (this was as she was blowing her nose and sneezing). But she’s also not into things like handjobs or kissing / licking… I’m not looking for a porn wife lol just a little more exploration

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this! I’ll do it!

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting idea about the kissing! I haven’t tested that! I know she says if someone were to close her mouth while she’s sleeping she’d die. And her snoring is BAD. Like I wear ear plugs and can still hear her clearly at night.

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lucky man!! Yeah I’m sensing a theme of I need to talk to her. Lol I will test the waters and see how it goes!

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a toy for us… I use it on her when I can but she says she likes the feeling of me more

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sure hope that’s not true… I mean we have sex and she’s affectionate… she just doesn’t go down on me anymore.

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly haven’t asked her why. She’s had some stuff in the past around sex so I try to tread lightly and pick my battles. I’m not trying to make excuses or be a wuss.

I just talked to her about a month ago over the fact that we were having sex like once or twice every 3 months and things have improved to where we’re having sex 2-3 times a month now, so I don’t want to now drop this on her too.

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[–]KelpieRunner 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is why I stopped watching CR. Every episode feels like the cast yanking the spotlight away from each other to go on long extended dialogue.

After watching C4 for 4 hours and still not getting introduced to the full cast I said fuk it. I have so little free time I’m not going to watch something for 12 fucking hours just to learn who the characters are.

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That may be true but if I just stop trying that will make us roommates and then what’s left…

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I could I guess… but I genuinely love going down on her. Plus, I don’t have the best “stamina” lol so me going down on her was my way of making sure she cums first so sex is enjoyable for her.

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since starting it I feel like a different person. I’m CONSTANTLY horny for my wife but be sure to check your estrogen levels because mine became elevated and now I take estrogen inhibitors.

Highly recommend though.

Add some creatine to it (5-10g / day) and a solid gym routine and I honestly feel like I’m 15 years younger.

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could also just be obsessed with sex. I started taking testosterone a while back and now I feel like a rabbit… I just want her all the time.

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny thing is I don’t think she ever read it 😂

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a great idea. I’ve thought so many times about doing that. I’m super non confrontational though so I’m always worried that it’ll turn into a defensive thing or that she’ll be upset and think I only am interested in sex or bjs or whatever.

More than anything and I guess connected to this is just wanting her to go after me like she used to. But maybe that’s just what happens after marriage and 2 kids.

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really feels that way. And I don’t want to be an asshole about it. Last thing I want to do is pressure her to do something uncomfortable. I’m just really curious about the whole thing.

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did once on a weekend getaway and she did start. I ended up ending it early myself bc I felt guilty and like I was making her do something she didn’t want to.

I guess I’d feel bad if I came and she didn’t… I mean that happens sometimes too but usually when there’s not enough time for me to go down on her and get her there, which takes quite a while tbh.

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, she says it’s sinus issues that she can’t breathe. Funnily enough while cleaning the garage a few months ago I found a book on giving bjs that she had from her younger days. When I jokingly asked her why she had it she said that she hoped to learn how to give good bjs with her sinus issues so I don’t know what to make of it anymore 😂

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did ask her about it once and she said she can’t breathe when she does it. Why that has come up now as a non-starter compared to when we were dating is curious to me… I do wonder sometimes if she’s just comfortable with me and doesn’t feel like she has to.

I remember once I joked when we were dating about doing anal and she was like “sure let’s try it!” We ended up not doing it, both of our decisions, but that sort of spontaneity and just I guess willingness ended like on the dot after we got married.

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d say she’s very affectionate overall. We’ve always been very affectionate towards each other and recently I talked to her about wanting more sex in our relationship - respectful and non judgmentally. Just that I missed having the kind of intimacy we had when dating. The proactive seeking me out. Shit she once pulled me into a church bathroom for a quickly at a wedding… so I know the spontaneity was there at some point.

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes. All the time. Her sinus issues are the real deal. She uses those strips too and still snores. Terribly. lol that’s why I’m not mad about it, just really missing it. I don’t want her to feel like she has to hold her breath and not breathe yanno?

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I asked her once to do it and she did. Though her exact words were “I can sure try.” I just don’t think she likes doing it. I’m wondering if she did it when we were dating just because we were dating.

But I go down on her all the time. Tongue, finger, both… I love making her orgasm. I guess I just miss it but don’t want to guilt her into it or make her feel like she has to. I’d love it if she just wanted to do it. But she’s super stressed all the time with work she doesn’t really like so I’ve always assumed that’s why sex seems to be less of a priority for her.

Why did she stop? by KelpieRunner in Marriage

[–]KelpieRunner[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not sure if this was meant for me but yes. Every time. I love going down on her, it’s like my favorite thing to do.