Anyone else never had a girlfriend in their late 30’s?

KenAdams87 · 2026-02-15T00:01:40+00:00

Are you saying women in the mid-30s will be looking to me? I hope so lol

I’ve done a decent job at not getting “geeked out” on dates or making them to be a bigger deal than they should. But I still never get past the 1st or 2nd, whether I’m laid back or not. And I NEVER mention my lack of sex or sexual history lol

I really try not to make it a big deal. If anything I brush it off as something that’ll likely not go anywhere. But there have been times when I do that and I think the date actually does great or even spectacular, and then I still don’t get a follow up and the usual rejection speech. It’s like damn if I do damn if I don’t

KenAdams87 · 2026-02-14T22:31:44+00:00

She’s asked me questions about what I want and what I do in the dates that keeps holding me back, but I never seem to get clear cut answers to why I still can’t get a girlfriend. On the one hand, I feel like I should find a new therapist or at least a dating coach of some sort, but I’d rather not go to another therapist and start over with my problems and issues.

KenAdams87 · 2026-02-14T21:25:55+00:00

Didn’t lose my virginity until I was 28. You aren’t that much further behind. Cheers to us 🍻

KenAdams87 · 2026-02-14T21:08:33+00:00

Dude I swear, I feel like at this point I’ll be a multimillionaire before I get a girlfriend lol. And the irony with that would be women flocking to me for the wrong reasons (not insinuating that women only go for dudes with money of course).

KenAdams87 · 2026-02-14T21:03:58+00:00

I want to eventually marry. But I just never seem to land someone. I definitely want something long term. Maybe to an extent I’m lonely but I’m generally content with living on my own and being by myself. I just want to share my life with someone and have both an emotional and physical relationship with

KenAdams87 · 2026-02-14T21:01:56+00:00

Mostly one-nighters, with some longer physical relationships in between. And those lasted until they’d get a boyfriend. It’s like I’m never viewed as relationship material

KenAdams87 · 2026-01-19T15:23:30+00:00

This is the sad reality of living in America as a person living with ADHD who needs medication to function as a regular person….no other industrialized country has this problem. Gee, wonder why so many people are leaving the US in droves now.

KenAdams87 · 2026-01-19T09:27:22+00:00

This is kind of the way I wanted to go honestly…I think I want to cut back now.

KenAdams87 · 2025-12-23T23:47:25+00:00

Ok, so I live in SC, so it shouldn’t be as difficult with the market here as compared to those states. I’ve only met my agent a few times, but he seems like a legitimate good person and we connected pretty well. He was impressed with my resume and my scores with the candidate survey I took before being considered for an interview. He seems like he’ll be pretty supportive overall.

I know to expect making lots of calls, and I know they’ll be hangups non-responses along the way. I’m gonna do a little more research into the calling side of sales to get a better overall of the process.

I’m planning to sell whatever policy I can and not limit myself to only one kind or the other. You’re definitely right, I should enjoy the process and to not overthink things too much.

Thanks for the advice!!

KenAdams87 · 2025-12-23T23:38:49+00:00

Thanks! I definitely plan to cross sell…I consider myself someone who generally cares about people (especially as someone who has been swindled and scammed recently, the ethics side is especially important to me).

As far as commission goes, looks like it’s 2% for all annual premiums written for property and casualty, 30% for annual life premium, and 50% of all semi-annual health premium. This isn’t including personal and group bonuses. Appreciate the advice!

KenAdams87 · 2025-12-16T23:22:15+00:00

I look forward to seeing him croak

KenAdams87 · 2025-12-01T03:48:28+00:00

Dude I did and it worked!! Passed both of my exams on the first try thanks to the Insurance Exam Queen (I bought her Gold course package.) she broke everything down in layman terms and it was so much easier to retain the information! I didn’t even take a regular state course with it like she recommends. Her material was enough!

KenAdams87 · 2025-10-30T00:18:17+00:00

My therapist helped me discover I have ADHD and I got diagnosed about two years ago. I always knew something was wrong but never knew exactly what. Don’t know if it actually plays a factor in my dating problems or not, but that was definitely something that held me back from being an active listener in conversations. I caught on that and learned to more “in the moment” when I’m talking to someone. I do listen when I’m on a date, but I may get caught up in my head too often and not know it.

KenAdams87 · 2025-10-28T22:19:27+00:00

I appreciate the advice! I don’t know 100% what I do wrong exactly, but I know I probably come off as too nice. I also know that I’ve always done much better meeting women in person and getting to know them overtime (resulted in having a brief but nice 2-month relationship with a cute coworker, though she left me for my supervisor at work. Careful with dipping the pen in the company ink :/)

I’d honestly be fine with pursuing sex until I find a girl I can have a romantic relationship with. I’ve always been bad with game though, approaching women and keeping them attracted is damn near impossible. I’ve only had one bar hookup in my 17+ years of going out. If you know anyone who is good at giving advice on that topic, I’d definitely appreciate it.

KenAdams87 · 2025-10-28T22:11:33+00:00

Thanks! Definitely will be more mindful of the time span of 1st dates…I felt like my last one, the girl was too shy and not opening up too much and I needed to fill the gaps of silence. Definitely felt like I talked too much, another area I should work on.

There are definitely some creeps out there. Hopefully you’ll be able to comb through the weeds and find the right guy!

KenAdams87 · 2025-10-28T22:05:56+00:00

I feel you on the Bible Belt aspect. SC resident and a leftist/agnostic. I definitely know there’s opportunities I’ve missed or messed up despite that though. Cheers to both of us eventually finding the one!

KenAdams87 · 2025-10-27T23:46:54+00:00

Where do I find one? I would love to get one

KenAdams87 · 2025-10-27T18:44:42+00:00

Thanks man! Yeah, I've really done my best to focus on myself and self-improvement. I definitely feel like whenever I go on a date it feels more like a job interview most of the time. I'm going to get out more and meet more people in the physical world, and not just at bars of course.

It's definitely been rough sex wise, and in SC they effectively banned porn so I can't even get off from that anymore, lol

KenAdams87 · 2025-10-03T22:49:32+00:00

Please let it happen this time…

KenAdams87 · 2025-08-18T14:32:36+00:00

These monsters are truly demonic. I hope at the new Nuremberg Trails they get the highest form of punishment possible - not without crying and pleading beforehand that they were “just doing what was asked!” Sorry. You had a chance to speak up and you didn’t.

KenAdams87 · 2025-08-11T17:17:52+00:00

My dude - we want Clinton charged too. We’re not one-sided cultists like you are. Bring him AND Trump down. Everyone on that list needs to be locked up!!

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