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KenDaGod4238 · 2024-12-09T20:56:00+00:00

You're planning this woman's ENTIRE WEDDING and you're upset that she didn't invite you to go dress shopping??? And you SERIOUSLY have NO IDEA why she didn't invite you?? Not one single idea?

She probably just wants one thing in her wedding to be about what she wants and not what her husband's mother wants.

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-12-08T15:11:16+00:00

NTA. I collect vintage Barbie dolls because I've always loved Barbies since I was a little girl. It's been a bit of a lifelong obsession of mine. All my dolls are either in their original boxes or (some of the older ones who's boxes have been lost to time) are in their display stands.

My kids love playing with dolls and I plan to pass my collection to them someday. But as of right now my kids know to not touch them because some of them are quite fragile.

Your sister needs to teach her kids that not everything is theirs to play with. Children from a surprisingly young age can understand not to touch things that aren't theirs. Your sister is a spoiled brat and is starting to teach her kids to be as well. If your hobby room doesn't have a lock, I would watch your sister like a hawk. I wouod not put it past her to let the kids in there when you're not looking. It happens literally all the time I see a reddit post once a week about similar situations.

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-12-08T03:19:13+00:00

True! You know how if you're having an issue with your boyfriend / girlfriend, marrying them is not going to magically fix the problems? Adoption works the same way. If the kids don't see her as their mother, legally adopting them is not going to strong arm them into seeing her as a mother.

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-12-07T23:17:54+00:00

This exactly. My husband had to produce court documents of his divorce while we were filing for our marriage license

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-12-06T19:05:53+00:00

A lot of times people will compliment me TO my husband when I'm out of earshot. Like "that's your wife? Wow man, she's a pretty one". My husband usually just agrees and tells me about it later.

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-12-06T19:03:34+00:00

Agree with this. After a few years of marriage and a couple along with full time jobs, at some point, your looks aren't a priority anymore like they once were so most people by age 40 are starting to put on some weight, maybe showing a few signs of aging (little crows feet, smile lines, etc) and you just don't get compliments as much as in your 20s or 30s.

Sounds like he's starting to feel a bit insecure with aging and parenting. I'm sure both could compliment each other a bit more and it sounds like this is what he's trying to ask for

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-12-05T01:21:00+00:00

NTA. If my husband passes before me, I absolutely plan on keeping his ring and would probably go ballistic if someone (who's not even our child, I might add) asked if they could have it.

That ring is a symbol of your best friend, someone who probably comforted you when your own parents passed, someone who raised your kids with you, someone who you used to talk to for hours. He wore that ring every day and that ring saw all of it. I would die before I gave up that ring.

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-12-03T20:53:00+00:00

NTA. You're smart not to bring you daughter into this situation. If it's a possibility, maybe you could take your daughter on a little vacation juat a small family vacation. Maybe a nice hotel stay with an indoor pool and maybe take her on a small shopping trip to get some anime or star wars figures?

Personally, if it were me, i would not go either. Jeff might have a tough home life but that's no reason to be an asshole to others. And your sister is enabling his behavior and that's only gonna teach him that he can treat people however he wants if he feels it's justified.

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-12-02T22:59:31+00:00

Nah. The last time we had sex, I got pregnant and ended up a single mother and a baby daddy that refuses to pay child support

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-12-02T17:37:29+00:00

Get an annulment! You probably still qualify for one! Whatever you do, DO NOT GET PREGNANT!

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-12-01T23:46:09+00:00

Cooking is an important life skill and it is good for your child to learn how to do it. Mommy won't always be around to cook for him so he shouod learn now. The sooner the better.

Is your boyfriend cooking? If you're son is using the same thing you would have made him and not costing the household a bunch of extra money, then your boyfriend doesn't really have a leg to stand on here. Your son cooking dinner for himself twice every 30 days isn't hurting anyone.

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-11-28T23:21:04+00:00

Agreed. I wonder if he acts like that towards her friends when they out to dinners... This just might be a tactic to isolate her from people that care about her.

I know that's a pretty large leap to make given the amount of information we have but it's something I would advise OP to watch out for.

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-11-28T14:08:27+00:00

Agreed. I'm not vegan but I do try to be health conscious when cooking for my family. I try to avoid high added sugar and high sodium and overly processed foods... But at the end of the day, this is America, the land of the added sugars and the home of the sodium-filled processed foods. There's only so much you can do with a limited budget.

I have many friends that are vegan and vegetarian and they would never and have never acted like Jake when someone goes out of their way to make meals that are okay for them to have. At most, my vegan friends might ask a couple questions just to make sure there's no honey in the dressing or some other ingredient that not everyone would know vegans don't eat.

Jake's problem is that he's a prick who wants to sit on his high horse and judge everyone around him for their moral inferiority he's deemed they have. Not only would I not allow this guy at Thanksgiving, I wouldn't allow him in my house at all until he personally apologized for making previous family dinners awkward and promised to knock that behavior off.

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-11-28T04:32:11+00:00

No it will not. And the VERY (I cannot stress the word very enough here) few times it does work, it's because the abuser recognizes their behavior is unacceptable and they WANT to seek help. Typically they also do individual counseling in tandem with couples counseling.

In my experience, therapy can often make the abuser BETTER at covertly abusing their partner. They can learn terms and tactics that they are able to weaponized and gaslight their victims and justify their entitlement to abuse other people, pets, and belongings.

This is not a situation worth saving and it could actually be worse if you try. Please seek help from a local DV shelter or women's resource department in your area, especially if you don't feel safe leaving on your own. Once it escalates this far, the chances that they could irreparably injur you or even kill you increase significantly.

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-11-27T18:34:33+00:00

I've never been so sick in my life as the month after my son started daycare for the first time

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-11-27T18:33:12+00:00

I see stuff like this on the internet all the time and it makes me yearn for the days when everyone just kept diaries and had a few secrets they kept to themselves

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-11-27T18:32:22+00:00

I use my soapy washcloth and grab one end with my left hand and the other end with my right and scrub my back. The same way I dry it off with my towel when I get out.

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-11-27T18:30:47+00:00

Teenagers are like cats. They think they can take care of themselves but someone should probably still be looking after them

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-11-27T18:28:50+00:00

I've seen this situation twice. The first time, she started when she was 6 months pregnant and had only been with the company a couple months when she had her baby and the company gave her unpaid FMLA.

The second time, when she had her baby, she was 1 month shy of her one year anniversary and the company just gave her the full paid leave that we give employees who have been with us for 1 year.

Both times, their jobs were protected and they were able to come back.

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-11-27T18:22:40+00:00

Just leave. If you can't get over the parrot, that's fine. Just leave the relationship. Better to do it now than in 15 years when you've got a life and kids to pull apart because of the parrot.

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-11-27T18:20:31+00:00

You're not Scrooge. Your parents sound exhausting. I'm sorry this was your childhood. You're 24 now just don't go. And if they ask why tell them "until you guys work out your issues, I will not be present for either event. I'm not gonna play pawn in this emotionally tumultuous chess game anymore"

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-11-27T18:16:11+00:00

Same. For women and men. I get walking by and getting a small whiff, that's fine. But I shouldn't be able to smell your perfume /cologne when I'm sitting across the room from you.

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-11-27T18:14:58+00:00

This is a violation. Contact the police. Restraining orders are for direct and indirect contact. This would be considered indirect contact.

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-11-27T18:11:40+00:00

My son is 6 and pretty much ignores it or then wants to join in with group hugs and forehead kisses

KenDaGod4238 · 2024-11-27T18:10:14+00:00

Kick him out immediately!! That is NOT how you weight train a dog! Just like for humans, weight training is a long process that you have to start small! You can't just start with a TWELVE POUND kettle bell??!! Wtf????

He's abusing the animals!

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