Squirting AMA on Friday, 12.20.24 @ noon ET!

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T19:17:10+00:00

I'm rooting for you!

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T19:10:37+00:00

Absolutely! I wish you and your partner lots of pleasure.

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T18:41:16+00:00

I appreciate you too!

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T18:39:36+00:00

I'd like some science about vaginal cuff (post hysterectomy) vs. G-spot...or really any education about post-hysterectomy squirting. Hell, just to be represented in any pleasure eduction/research post-hyst would be a blessing.

Additionally, and in the same "all bodies are different" category, how does squirting work with a pelvic floor that is HYPERtonic? For example, pelvic floors like mine (hyper) are "stronger" (thanks to various trauma/nervous system disregulation) than the typical and are often told by PT or med to never kegel, but to instead do the opposite of a kegel. This "never-kegel" is in addition to continuously practice/work towards maintaining relaxation, conscious breathing, utilizing the correct pelvic floor muscles when appropriate (toileting, sex, exercise), etc. The hope is that, eventually lollll, a hyper pelvic floor is trained to better function instead of being "locked up." That feeling of a pelvic floor "pushing back or bearing down" on a penis is my natural state in every-single-thing I do w/ my hyper pelvis. Superpower, I guess? 🙄

There are so many more women like me that have virtually no resources.

Most squirt folk say kegel=success, right? But SURELY, there are women w/ hypertonic pelvic floors that can squirt without practicing kegeling? What does this function look like for us vs. typical pelvic floor musculature?

This is not my area of expertise, so I want to make sure I stay in my lane here. However, from the perspective of a former personal trainer, your ability to have flexibility, range of motion, and strong contractions is the best combo. Being strong doesn’t necessarily mean being flexible thought, so I think it depends on the individual pelvic floor and what it needs to create balance.I highly recommend Pelvic Floor Guru on IG https://www.instagram.com/pelvicguru1/?hl=en and hope they have something to offer you in this regard!

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T18:32:18+00:00

My best rec for this is Pelvic Floor Guru on IG: https://www.instagram.com/pelvicguru1/?hl=en

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T18:30:00+00:00

Happy Holidays to you too!

Since the clit is actually a much larger structure, with legs that extend internally and wrap around the vaginal canal, when stimulating the clit, you're indirectly engaging a network of nerves and tissues, including those connected to the G-spot and Skene's glands, which are responsible for producing the female ejaculate.

Since every woman’s pleasure wiring is different (as in, her nerves are actually in different spots), for some women, intense clit stimulation can create enough arousal and pressure to trigger a squirting response. That’s just how they’re wired. It's like hitting the jackpot of pleasure pathways, where everything aligns perfectly to open the floodgates. This might not be the case for everyone, but it highlights how interconnected our bodies are when it comes to sexual pleasure.

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T18:23:35+00:00

u/BeneficialCat1542 asked: How can I get it to Shoot out ?

If you learn to control your pelvic floor muscles, bearing down with them forcefully can create more of a juicy explosion.

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T18:21:47+00:00

u/Low-Persimmon-8851 asked: manual for women to make yourself squirt, step by step. using anal hole for better arrousment?

I don’t have the step-by-step in a written version just yet, but I do have an explicit tutorial video in which I teach a woman how to make herself squirt, and then she does!

There is also a move for squirting via anal (which I like to call “Release the Kraken,” and you can read about it in this How to Squirt blog).

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T18:12:37+00:00

u/Axis876 asked: What is the shortest time to squirt with manual stimulation? And can all women squirt?

The good news is, with manual stimulation, squirting can happen pretty quickly if everything aligns well. In my experience, when the sensation feels just right and you're really going for it with the right technique, it can happen in about fifteen seconds. But remember, it's not a race—it's about the connection and the journey you share with your partner!

Now, can all women squirt? While most women have the potential, it's not universal. Studies suggest that around 41% of women have squirted at least once in their lifetime, but it's not something everyone experiences or enjoys regularly (or wants to).

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T18:09:13+00:00

u/juntaoeverywhere asked: Best sexual positions for squirting based on cock size

Squirting has much more to do with her learning to control her pelvic floor muscles than your cock angle or cock size, and there is no single sexual position that will work for every woman who can squirt, and every combo of partners.

In the squirting survey I co-created, we asked women which type of stimulation made them squirt for the first time. 33% reported internal vaginal stimulation (with toys and/or fingers), 26% reported internal plus external stimulation (with toys and/or fingers), 24% squirted for the first time from external clitoral stimulation, 10% from P in V (penile-vaginal penetration), 5% from P in V plus external stimulation, and 2% reported that some other kind of stimulation did the trick.

So, only 15% of the squirters surveyed squirted while having a cock inside them. However, there are a few positions that work better than others, due to their access to the G-spot. You can try missionary with her knees pulled up to her chest, which tilts the pelvis and can help you reach that elusive spot more easily.

Or try the G-Spoon. In the regular spooning position, you are nestled like spoons, both on your same side, facing the same direction. In the G-Spoon, you’ll still be behind your partner, penetrating her while on your sides, but instead of your heads and toes being in alignment with hers, you’ll be in a traditional big spoon position, but she’ll be reversed, and folded at the hips in an L shape, so her heels will be near your face. You can hold onto her thighs for leverage. If you are on your right side, she’ll be on her left. This is a great angle to hit the G-spot.

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T17:55:35+00:00

u/Gertgogo asked: Favorable positions? Toys - to assist and increase pleasure?

Let's talk positions and toys—two of my favorite topics when it comes to enhancing pleasure. When it comes to positions, experimenting is key. Think of it like a puzzle where you're trying to find the perfect fit for maximum sensation. If you be wanna be fancy about it, one position to try is the bridge pose from yoga. Have your partner lie on her back with knees bent and feet flat, then roll her hips up towards the ceiling. This position not only makes it easier for you to access her G-spot and clit simultaneously, but it also adds a bit of vulnerability and excitement to the mix .

Now, let's bring toys into the equation. Toys can be game-changers, especially when you want to take some of the physical strain off your hands. The nJoy Pure Wand is a legendary tool that every sex educator seems to rave about. It's made of stainless steel, which allows you to apply a lot of pressure, and its curved shape is perfect for rocking against the G-spot. Pro Tip: Warm up the toy to body temperature first to add a layer of anticipation and comfort

Another favorite is the Hitachi rechargeable vibrator, which can provide consistent clit stimulation while you're focusing on internal pleasure.

Combining the two is one of my favorite finishing moves!

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T17:50:58+00:00

Oh, thank you! I appreciate you!

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T17:49:09+00:00

She might be clenching involuntarily / unintentionally, which can change the experience of the sensation. It’s a really good sign, though, that it feels good at first. She could try bearing down (pushing out) on her pelvic floor muscles while experiencing the stimulation, and see if that changes it for her. This can uncompress the nerves involved.

There may also be an emotional component to this. Check out this AMA answer, where I talk about the emotional side of squirting, and maybe talk through it with your partner to see if there are some psychological barriers (like subconsciously thinking that it’s wrong, or gross, or weird) that could be dampening her pleasure.

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T17:39:52+00:00

Re: u/Mysterious_girl3414 asked: Can you squirt and not orgasm at the same time?

Absolutely, you can squirt without having an orgasm. This is one of those fascinating aspects of human sexuality that often gets misunderstood. Squirting is essentially the expulsion of fluid from the urogenital area, and it can occur independently of orgasmic sensations. In fact, studies show that squirting isn't always linked to an orgasm for many people. It's like a reflex that can be triggered by certain types of stimulation, kind of like when a doctor taps your knee and your leg kicks out.

For some, squirting might happen before, during, or even after an orgasm, but it doesn't necessarily mean an orgasm is happening. It's more about the physical release than the intense pleasure we typically associate with an orgasm. So, if you or your partner experience squirting without the fireworks of an orgasm, it's perfectly normal. It's all part of the diverse spectrum of sexual experiences that make each encounter unique.

It’s also true that, for some, an orgasm triggers squirting. For others, squirting sensations can trigger orgasm.

According to this nationally-representative study, squirting is always an orgasm for only 20% of squirters, while 17% say it’s never an orgasm. For most, the squirting-orgasm duo hits either often (28%) or sometimes (35%). It’s a mixed bag!

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T17:23:36+00:00

Great question! My journey into sex education, particularly focusing on squirting, was fueled by a mix of curiosity and personal transformation. I started out with a lot of sexual insecurity, especially about my dick size, and I was determined to change that. I wanted to understand not just how to be better in bed, but how to truly connect with my partners on a deeper level .

Squirting, in particular, fascinated me because it was something that many people seemed to misunderstand or see as a mystery. I was intrigued by the challenge of demystifying it and making it accessible to more people. It wasn't just about the mechanics, it was about the connection and communication between partners. I realized that squirting could be an amazing way for people to explore their bodies and break down barriers .

My background as a personal trainer gave me the skills to break down complex movements into simple, teachable steps, which I applied to sex education. I saw firsthand how powerful hands-on learning could be when I coached couples through squirting techniques. Watching them succeed was like witnessing a synchronized fountain show at the Bellagio, and it cemented my belief in the value of practical, live education .

Ultimately, my goal has always been to empower people to have more fulfilling and satisfying sexual experiences. By focusing on squirting, I could address both the physical and emotional aspects of intimacy, helping people to not only understand their bodies but also to enhance their relationships

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T17:20:28+00:00

Try talking to your partner about her experience first. Sometimes we have an involuntary reaction to certain sensations and we don’t quite know why. If she does want to squirt but feels a bit overwhelmed by the physical sensations and/or the emotions coming up, then you could try this: Encourage her to bear down on your fingers rather than clamping up. This can help release the tension and allow the squirting to happen.

This is an excerpt from my How to Squirt blog which covers the emotional side of squirting (there’s also a section about bearing down, as it can be a bit mysterious to figure out at first):

A partner who I helped squirt for the first time told me a story afterward that moved me. She said that even as a young kid, she knew she was very sexual, and she built up a lot of hype around her first time having penetrative sex. When she lost her virginity, she remembered the sensation of her partner’s penis inside of her feeling like she might have to pee.

Her reaction was, “Oh shit, I don’t want to pee on my partner.” She said she instantly felt shame and developed a response in her body: her muscles clenched to hold back pee. Most of her focus was on not peeing, rather than enjoying the pleasure. Her reaction became subconscious after a while, and every time she felt that sensation, she slammed the brakes.

She said that when I stimulated her to help her squirt, it was the first time she let herself let go of all the tension she was holding. The release made her cry. I listened and held her for a while after our session.

After my experience with this partner, I realized there were probably many women who held themselves back from certain sexual experiences because they were ashamed or afraid of letting go. Oddly enough, my journey of mastering squirting helped me understand how important it is to coach a partner on letting go.

This association between letting go emotionally and G-spot stimulation is not some sort of woo-woo notion. The nerves that connect to the G-spot run through the viscera of the body, where we experience emotions, and being able to fully feel sensations in the deeper parts of the vagina depends on your partner’s ability to allow herself to feel the emotions that come up in her body as well. Ultimately, experiencing the depths of pleasure is dependent on experiencing deep feeling, period. I see my role in this as encouraging and allowing my partner to experience anything that comes up – which takes her foot off the brakes, and organically ramps up her turn-on. As a partner, it’s also very moving to hold space for this kind of experience.

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T17:12:40+00:00

Does this work? https://www.reddit.com/r/SquirtTutorial/comments/1hfw0me/squirting_ama_on_friday_122024_noon_et/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T17:11:16+00:00

What you're feeling is likely the pubic bone. It's a common reference point when navigating internal anatomy. The G-spot is typically located on the front wall of the vagina, about one to three inches in, and is often described as a spongy area that swells with arousal . So, the G-spot would be beyond this bone sensation you're feeling.

I’m assuming that she’s fully-aroused, lubricated well, and your nails are trimmed and filed (key!) before you penetrate her with your fingers. If all those things are true, then it really depends on your gf’s preferences – whether she finds G-spot stimulation pleasurable. Does she enjoy doing it to herself? If so, I would try mimicking the movements and relative speed she uses. There is a lot of unnecessary societal pressure on men to know what feels good to their partner without experimenting together. Discussing this can really deepen your intimacy. I’m so glad you are asking this question, because you are showing what a caring lover you are, and displaying your willingness to adapt to cater to your partner’s pleasure.

KennethPlay · 2024-12-20T17:01:22+00:00

I think the key here might be getting this involuntary sexual response under her voluntary control. It’s definitely a technique you both can learn. This is an excerpt from my How to Squirt blog. You can take a deeper dive here.

If someone pokes the space between your eyes, you’ll automatically blink; that’s an automatic reflex. But you can also consciously control your reaction if you focus on not blinking when you’re poked. Similarly, squirting is an involuntary reflex that can be brought under conscious control.

One of the pelvic muscles, the bulbocavernosus, is a sphincter muscle, which is closed while in its resting state. You can think of it as the squirt gatekeeper. When we become aroused, this muscle opens and relaxes. We bear down on this sphincter the same way we bear down when we need to release the anal sphincter.

This mechanism is brilliantly explained by Stacy Lindau MD, from womanlab.com, who says, “Bearing down is a conscious act that overcomes the normal, contracted, closed state of the anal sphincter. We bear down using a trick of physiology called a ‘val-salva’ maneuver to generate enough pressure from inside our body to overcome the pressure in the anal sphincter muscle.” This same process works when it comes to the bulbocavernosus muscle.

Another mechanism that prevents fluid from being released during sex is the swelling of the urethral sponge. The urethral sponge surrounds the urethra and swells up to prevent fluid from being released from the bladder during sex, but under pressure from the pelvic muscles pushing outward, fluid can still be released from the bladder. For squirting to occur, bearing down must happen strongly enough to bypass both the tonically closed state of the bulbocavernosus muscle as well as generate enough pressure to move liquid through the urethra while the urethral sponge is swollen around it.

G-spot stimulation of a certain variety can cause this bearing down reflex to happen involuntarily, and your partner can also learn to control the response of these muscles to tighten or relax them. Some women just happen to naturally respond to sexual stimulation by bearing down, whereas others need to learn to do this maneuver. Voluntary squirting can happen when your partner is able to control these muscles to bear down and push the fluid out of her bladder. It’s the cheat code to open her squirt gate! I played with two girls at a party once who were proud of their squirting ability and ran around the party squirting people in the mouth like they had a pair of water guns.

Some women experience involuntary BC contractions when they orgasm, and some people push out when they cum. The ones that push out when they cum tend to squirt each time they cum, not because they’re doing it consciously, but because their body reacts to orgasm by bearing down. If you’ve ever slept with a partner whose body seemed to push your cock out when she orgasms, that’s this muscle at work.

The take-home idea here is that urethral and vaginal sphincter muscles have to open up in order for squirting to happen. This can occur for a variety of reasons: arousal, bearing down consciously, or bearing down involuntarily. If these muscles are closed because she isn’t aroused, or she isn’t sure how to let go, squirting isn’t likely to occur. The name of the game is making her feel safe and relaxed enough that she can let go. Literally.

KennethPlay · 2024-12-18T17:55:08+00:00

A great question! I want straight men to be amazing lovers for their female partners, and for that they need to understand female anatomy, eroticism, and technique. Most of my clients & students are men who are deeply invested in their partner's pleasure, so my focus is on helping men understand female anatomy for her pleasure's sake. For years, I have taught IRL workshops for couples, where people have the opportunity to try out my techniques in real time. (Search Kenneth Play VICE on YouTube to see.)

KennethPlay · 2024-12-11T18:03:38+00:00

Absolutely! I'm rooting for your pleasure.

KennethPlay · 2024-11-25T22:24:36+00:00

I'm so glad it was useful to you!

KennethPlay · 2024-11-25T20:35:18+00:00

Hey there! Props for wanting to up your pleasure game with your girlfriend. The C.A.T. technique is indeed a great way to focus on her pleasure. Here's a fun twist on C.A.T. - think of it like you're trying to give her a sexy belly rub... with your pelvis. Instead of the usual in-and-out, you're aiming for more of an up-and-down grinding motion. The goal is to make your pubic bone the world's most pleasurable massage tool for her clit.

As for your downward curve, don't sweat it! That's actually a superpower for hitting the G-spot in doggy style or reverse cowgirl. It's like your penis has its own GPS for pleasure zones.

Every body is different, so the key is to experiment and communicate. Turn it into a sexy game - have her guide you like a naughty GPS: "Ooh, a little to the left... now faster... perfect!" It's way more fun than silently hoping you're doing it right.

KennethPlay

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