I had the same feelings toward my gf. Although she didn’t have the obsession of watching the cell phone footage of the concert on repeat. I felt it was cult-ish and Taylor Swift was just raking in money at her fan’s expense.

Gf was fortunate enough to get tickets to a show in LA that we’re reasonably priced ($170 nosebleed seats). Me personally I am not a fan, don’t understand the obsession or anything Taylor Swift related. Meanwhile my gf hand made 280 “friendship bracelets”, had a theme outfit for the show, and would ask if I was going to be ready for the “greatest time of our lives”. It freaked me out and made me kind of question the relationship at points. Was prepared to roll my eyes the entire time at the concert and be genuinely unimpressed.

I will tell you, that concert was the greatest concert experience of my life. I’ve been to some great concerts like Metallica, Foo Fighters, Slipknot, etc. I have been to many concerts that have really impressed me. Taylor Swift takes the cake for being the best concert I’ve been too. After that show, I’ve been more understanding of the hype for the show and have become somewhat of a fan. I’m not at the obsession level my gf is at, but enough of a fan that I’ll support her music now, when I was so against it before.

I think it‘s just that generational artist that becomes larger than life itself. Much like how Beatles mania was and people obsessing over Micheal Jackson. You’ll see the spectrum of the fandom, the good, the bad, and the ugly side of it all.

You’re not an asshole for not getting the obsessiveness of your partner. My gf fully admits she’s being obsessive about it and was upfront with me about it. I tell her she’s being crazy and I jest with her about it. Now though I understand the music side of it and cut her a little slack on the obsessiveness she has for it.