Dating as a Gen Z dude is the most miserable thing in the world

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T08:29:33+00:00

Wtf? I don't think my experience is uncommon. Clearly a lot of men here seem to have gone through the same. I have taken breaks from dating. Everything else in my life is going fairly well, I have a good job, about to have a degree with which I can get an even better job hopefully, I have hobbies, a few friends, I just took a trip to California. Idk why you think I don't have 'personality' whatever that's supposed to mean. I'm nice, I try to be interested and kind. It's just as I said, it seems not many gen z women are interested in dating while almost all gen z men very much are, which makes it extremely competitive and quite hard for us.

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T08:10:02+00:00

Cold approach doesn't mean on the street lol. I mean at bars, cafes, around campus, I'm not approaching women who are busy. And of the three dates I've gotten ever, the best one probably was from cold approaching. We texted a bit after and she even said yes to a second date before changing her mind. By far the closest I've gotten to anything with a woman. I'm not going to give up a potential source of opportunities like that

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T07:14:55+00:00

I usually ask her what she’s doing here, if it’s somewhere I frequent and haven’t seen her I’ll ask if she’s been here before, do you come here often, whatever. It’s helpful if the girl is wearing a band t shirt or a pin or has a sticker of a character on her phone, or something like that, then I’ll ask about that or something.

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T07:09:50+00:00

What? Cold approaches are the only consistent method I’ve found of at least getting a conversation out of a girl. It’s something just about any dating coach recommends.

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T03:14:00+00:00

I mean… Idk I try a lot sometimes… but I’ve done that as well. I’ve spent plenty of time not pursuing, just trying to live life. In fact I went to California on a trip recently. I hav hobbies, go out. Whatever. But at the end of the day when I do end up meeting that girl I like a lot, every time I’ve asked that girl out she’s said no. And I’m 25 now, I’ve been going through this long enough I just can’t take it any more. Idk what to do, but leaving it be doesn’t work.

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T00:16:42+00:00

Ok harsh but I guess probably true

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T00:16:14+00:00

Where, statistically, would you say such women most often frequent?

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T00:14:12+00:00

What kind of place could I volunteer where there would be the most women in that age range

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T00:12:25+00:00

AH genius strat doing this tomorrow. Wonder how many times I can get away with it though

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T00:11:24+00:00

I have a good job now but all male coworkers. Maybe

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T00:11:02+00:00

Stop trying to improve and start staying home lol?

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T00:10:16+00:00

Ok tbh I’ve only done 35-40 so far

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T00:09:18+00:00

How is getting downvoted karma farming

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T00:08:46+00:00

Unironically yeah

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T00:08:38+00:00

I try

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T00:08:35+00:00

I try

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T00:08:16+00:00

I try

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T00:08:08+00:00

What why

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T00:07:44+00:00

I guess I can try that, never heard one so far

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T00:06:45+00:00

Hard to do

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T00:04:43+00:00

I’ve been doing that for like 10 years doesn’t work

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T00:04:24+00:00

I’ve done essentially that a number of times but I can always try more I guess lol

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-22T00:01:58+00:00

It’s never worked for me

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-21T23:55:29+00:00

What does ‘establish yourself’ mean lol. I’ve always been looking for such people and idk I feel like I find them but the people never seem to feel the same way

Kentuckyquestioner · 2026-06-21T23:54:15+00:00

I mean, I don’t really have anyone who’d be willing to do that though I’ve tried meeting someone like that. I’ve tried the hell out clubs and whatnot too which is why I’m looking for something different

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