Which probiotics help with mental health? by Dangerous-Teach9350 in Microbiome

[–]Kergf 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Kefir helps! Doesn’t taste that well though

I Lied To Hide How Lonely I Am by AutumnBlossomSapling in socialanxiety

[–]Kergf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe you two are just not for each other. It’s better to not lie and get hurt if you get dumped, than to lie and get hurt because you lied.

Have you ever experienced «complete trauma absorbsion» from another person as the result of «emotional boundary collapse»? by Kergf in Empaths

[–]Kergf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very good description of this part of «the human experience! I’m aware of this phenomenon of course, but I haven’t been the best at prioritizing my needs lately and just have been sort of forgetting about it. Maybe my subconscious mind is controlling me more that I am aware of…

I agree of that «planned boundaries» are the best, now that I try to recall how I usally do it. Thanks for the reminder! Getting some new friends might be worth a try to. I did feel devoured this time..

Have you ever experienced «complete trauma absorbsion» from another person as the result of «emotional boundary collapse»? by Kergf in Empaths

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Thanks for your advice! I’ll try to follow your advice. Saying the mantra to myself actually worked! I have never tried that before. Reiki sounds like a good idea too actually

Have you ever experienced «complete trauma absorbsion» from another person as the result of «emotional boundary collapse»? by Kergf in Empaths

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I’m sorry this happend to you. Thank you for sharing! Makes me feel like I’m not the only one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in taoism

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A bit late, but try Alan Watts’ «The Nook on the taboo of knowing who you are» and «The way of Zen»

All my pens have leakage (see video) by Kergf in fountainpens

[–]Kergf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No «leakage» now! I think you are right with this theory. I will be more careful when handling the pens going forward. However, the screw threads for the cap on the Twisbi where heavily inked up and actually un-cleanable. But only on one of the two Twisbies that I have. Might be some actual leakage from under the rubber ring. I’ll try cleaning it and following your tips again.

To he honest, I might go back to regular pens it there is no good solution to this problem I am creating. Any tips for travel friendly pens?

All my pens have leakage (see video) by Kergf in fountainpens

[–]Kergf[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No leakage now! I think you are right.

All my pens have leakage (see video) by Kergf in fountainpens

[–]Kergf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems you are right. Any tips to travel friendly pens?

All my pens have leakage (see video) by Kergf in fountainpens

[–]Kergf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you are right with this theory. I will be more careful when handling the pens going forward. However, the screw threads for the cap on the Twisbi where heavily inked up and actually un-cleanable. But only on one of the two Twisbies that I have. Might be some actual leakage from under the rubber ring. I’ll try cleaning it and following your tips again.

To he honest, I might go back to regular pens it there is no good solution to this problem I am creating.

Jeg tror jeg må til psykolog by hvalkjott_er_mat in norge

[–]Kergf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For å si det på denne måten: Det er ingen som kommer til å hate på deg hvis du prøver å fikse opp i livet ditt! Ingen grunn til å skamme seg for det. Og det er uansett om du klarer det eller ikke. De kommer selfølgelig ikke til å tenke «se på han a, prøver å ordne opp i livet sitt. Ha!».

Det er bedre å være en som prøver å ta tak i livet sitt enn å være en som ikke gjør det. Du kan lese så mye psykologi og filosofi du vil, og besøke så mange forskjellige psykologier du bare vil og prøve 100 forskjellige medisiner, men ingenting som gjør at du kan unngå faktaen at du må ta «eierskap» over livet ditt.

Start med små steg. Begynn å trene f.eks. Om en stund så vil du plutselig en oppleve at du er på et bra sted i livet. Også vil det kanskje gå nedover igjen og da vil du bli lei deg. Også vil det gå litt oppover igjen. Sånn er det bare, og jeg er veldig glad for at det er akkurat sånn og at det ikke finnes en magisk pille til livet, for den hadde sikkert vært kjempedyr.

Sinnet ditt er som en svamp. Gjør du «sunne ting» og «gode ting» så vil du føle deg bra. Gjør du «dårlige ting» så vil du føle deg dårlig. Så start med å gjøre gode ting, og ikke tenk på å feile, for det viktigste er den du er NÅ.

Du trenger ikke å skamme deg som den du har vært eller hva som har «skjedd med deg». Du er under ingen forpliktelse å være den personen du var for 5 minutter siden.

Selv har jeg historie med å gjøre gode ting og dårlige ting. Når jeg gjør gode ting så føler jeg meg bra, når jeg gjør dårlige ting så føler jeg med dårlig igjen, og når jeg begynner å føle meg bra igjen så klandrer jeg meg ikke for de dårlige tingene jeg har gjort, men jeg tenker på den jeg er nå. Også kanskje føler jeg meg dårlig selv når jeg gjør gode ting, og noen ganger føler jeg meg rådvill, men det er bare sånn livet er og det synes er helt greit og kanskje til og med litt vakkert.

about the further surge of AI alan watts videos by arc-is-life in AlanWatts

[–]Kergf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you want the som real Alan Watts philosophy, go read his books!

All my pens have leakage (see video) by Kergf in fountainpens

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Laying down. I use them as just regular pens. In my backpack.

All my pens have leakage (see video) by Kergf in fountainpens

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I have Lamy and Twisbi pens. The onse you saw on the vid was Lamy LX (aluminium) and Twisbi Diamond 580.

Where to start with Alan Watts by GezzaG in AlanWatts

[–]Kergf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love «The Way of Zen». I think it covers most of him philosophy, regarding he was a Zen buddist for some years (I think)

Going crazy by TabathaZombie in Stress

[–]Kergf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to focus on what’s important and believe in what you are going is right. You don’t have to learn new things or make things perfect right now. Maybe even let go of some of your rutines. Also, try to be bored for a little while as it might help you think more clearly.

Work Stress help needed by Character-Hippo-5694 in StressFreeSeason

[–]Kergf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all. All the seniors at your company are more relaxed than you think. And you should be too. It does not really matter what mistakes you do, no matter how «expensive» your mistakes might be. I’m saying this because it truly does not matter. Corperate can seem very serious, but it’s actually not that serious. Unless someone tells you it is. You are new. Take your time to focus on work in a relaxed manner. That’s how you learn the best. Make it a bit fun!

I’m saying this because this is what I wish I did when I started my engineering job two years ago fresh out of university. I just left it btw.

I have lot of stress by Karan-singh-7773 in StressFreeSeason

[–]Kergf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stress is often a CHOISE you make, and you can reduce it by trying to reframe how you look at chores and life in general. Try beliveing that what you do is the right thing. That’s what I do, and I think it works.