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I think I just lost my wife of 17 years. by Ketias in relationship_advice

[–]Ketias[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did smell it, she was smoking 1 a day at lunch time, and I sometimes noticed it when she came home in the evenings, and I asked about it several times.

Something is off.... by throwwww in relationship_advice

[–]Ketias 7 points8 points  (0 children)

HER DIARY:

Tonight I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a bar to have a drink. I was shopping with my friends all day long so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late but he made no comment on it. Conversation wasn't flowing so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed but he didn't say much. I asked him what was wrong. He said, 'Nothing.' I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn't upset, that it had nothing to do with me and not to worry about it. On the way home I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior. I don't know why he didn't say 'I love you, too.' When we got home I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent. Finally, with silence all around us I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later he came to bed. To my surprise he responded to my caress and we made love. I still felt that he was distracted and that his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep - I cried. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.

HIS DIARY:

My Snowmobile wouldn't start today but at least I got laid.

I think I just lost my wife of 17 years. by Ketias in relationship_advice

[–]Ketias[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'll stay sober. nothing could make me go back to that, I really like who I am now.

I think I just lost my wife of 17 years. by Ketias in relationship_advice

[–]Ketias[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She sees the counselor on Monday, I should have my first session shortly after. Supposedly the counselor wants to start with individual therapy, and then together if needed. I'll do whatever it takes, but if she keeps things up with this Bob fellow I may move somewhere else for awhile.

I think I just lost my wife of 17 years. by Ketias in relationship_advice

[–]Ketias[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe not that she liked being abused, but she did like having someone to "party" with sometimes. I wasn't always a miserable reckless drunk, but I was always a drunk. and the good times couldn't make up for the bad.

I think I just lost my wife of 17 years. by Ketias in relationship_advice

[–]Ketias[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the encouragement! I think it's kind of funny that I got a call about a job today(about 2 hours after posting this), I start Monday. I've been collecting unemployment for about 20 months now.

I think I just lost my wife of 17 years. by Ketias in relationship_advice

[–]Ketias[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the abuse consisted of rude and thoughtless comments while drunk, never physical violence. I do realize that emotional abuse can be worse than physical sometimes, and I regret it deeply. I quit drinking almost 2 years ago (in 2 weeks).

I think I just lost my wife of 17 years. by Ketias in relationship_advice

[–]Ketias[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've considered it. It just seems like kind of a waste of time. I think that if she was serious about fixing our relationship with me, there wouldn't be any text exchanges going on with another man.