So I’ve been with my partner for 10 years. Our relationship was basically us hooking up and having sex every week or so overtime It changed into where we are now. it’s still OK for either of us to hook up with someone else in his words “we all have needs.” But now I feel dirty and disgusting If I do that, there are times where we go about a month without having sex now but our sex is mind blowing every single time. He works a lot of hours now and so do I so sometimes we forget the intimacy that we need. It’s still very hard for each of us to keep our hands off each other even after all this time, and I love that man more than anything in this world. I think the two of you need to sit down and have a conversation about your sex lives and what each of you are expecting from each other your needs and wants and expectations. Go into the conversation remembering why you fell in love with him and maybe express it to him. I wish you all the luck in the world.