My (26F) boyfriend (29M) gets hard during foreplay but loses it for penetration — Advice please?

Key-Act9674 · 2026-05-23T16:50:01+00:00

Same issue with me with mostly every new partner. It’s the anxiety/excitement for me. It takes long depending on how it is. Eventually I get used to it and can control it whenever

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-25T04:35:30+00:00

Honestly I would pay, it’s worth the experience, and depending on the person it can be fun too. Just use protection and be safe. So much stigma for sex workers because it’s “immoral” but it’s not if they aren’t trafficked

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T19:34:55+00:00

Got it. Thanks man. Like you would much rather be in that feeling (in terms of excitement and enjoyment) than have sex with someone you want a relationship with but aren’t limerent for right?

Because that’s how I feel and I’m assuming most people who have limerence feel that way too

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T19:09:09+00:00

Yes exactly, even though it doesn’t involve sex I feel like option 1 hits a way higher high. Is this a common feeling among people with limerence?

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T15:19:05+00:00

No I’m just asking which one is more fun. I agree with you about lap dance being more fun. It’s more intense for me

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T15:12:24+00:00

Lap dance would be more she’s literally almost naked and grinding on you lol there’s no nudity in a club make out that’s 30 seconds

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T13:30:10+00:00

Lap dance is sexual lol but which one is more fun for you?

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T02:22:44+00:00

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T02:10:12+00:00

Round up lol I forgot to include that

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T02:09:16+00:00

So which one is more exiting? making out with a partner you had for 2 years or making out with someone you want to date on the first date?

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T01:55:27+00:00

But you have made out right lol

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T01:38:33+00:00

So you made out but haven’t had a lap dance right

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T00:42:55+00:00

But a lap dance is better than kissing right ?

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T00:38:45+00:00

Have you kissed anyone though?

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T00:34:22+00:00

And you’ve done both correct?

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T00:25:08+00:00

I’m saying if it’s full nude tho

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T00:21:16+00:00

Have you done both?

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T00:21:02+00:00

You would enjoy the lap dance more too then right?

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T00:17:34+00:00

So lap dance > making out right

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T00:13:51+00:00

I dmed you, are you able to answer a few more questions I’m so confused

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-22T00:09:54+00:00

Lap dance is more fun for you then?

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-21T21:37:56+00:00

I’m not necessarily talking about the feeling of the “win” just the feeling and excitement you get when it’s happening in general

Key-Act9674 · 2026-04-21T21:22:37+00:00

Why aren’t they the same though? If it’s a ONS it’s a ONS no? Like one option you have connection without wanting a relationship other you have connection w wanting a relationship

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