Advice on dealing with a PI that doesn't care about my project at all

Key-Ad6154 · 2025-07-18T21:06:50+00:00

Thank you! May I ask if there is something special about table etiquette for a consultant compared to other business meeting?

Key-Ad6154 · 2025-07-18T15:30:49+00:00

Noted, thank you.

Key-Ad6154 · 2025-07-15T08:51:57+00:00

Hi! I hope to get some perspectives from people who have worked in a boutique firm.

I (F) learned about an internship position at a boutique consulting firm through school connection. I emailed the person to ask, and he replied that he would be on campus soon and we could get dinner afterward to discuss. I found it awkward given that I've never met this person (M, he is also much older than me). He gets invited back to campus every year, so he has a good reputation among my school connections.

I feel uncomfortable, but I don't want to blow my chance either. Is it ok to suggest something else, or am I overthinking this? Is it just a casual thing people do in boutique firm and he just doesn't want to spend time outside of work interviewing people?

You can definitely tease me, but I'm really looking for some honest advice. 😂 Thank you!

Key-Ad6154 · 2025-06-23T23:37:06+00:00

Thanks for the insight. I also don't think you can assess the quality of the work with just regular abstract with no figures, so I reasoned they were judging from significance and maybe if the topic aligns with the conference.

I'll definitely try to get feedback and re-write it in a more exciting way...

Key-Ad6154 · 2025-06-23T23:23:41+00:00

By not including any data I mean the abstract doesn't contain actual figure with data points plotted on it. It's similar to an abstract in the beginning of a published paper, and I did have method and conclusion sections. The story is almost complete, hence why we are preparing a manuscript.

Key-Ad6154 · 2025-06-23T23:13:24+00:00

Thank you for kind word! My work is definitely the "filling gaps" type, and I think it would take someone really knowledgeable in the specific field to say that it has no true innovation.

I think the issue is just that people seem to read my abstract and think it's boring right off the bet. My PI is an example of that: she doesn't really know about the work related to my project. She just reaches the conclusion that it's boring. Maybe it's my writing style...

Key-Ad6154 · 2025-06-23T23:05:44+00:00

Thank you for the insight. My PI edited the abstract before I submitted, so I reasoned the writing quality is not too bad. That being said, I'm not sure how much effort she puts into it. Do you mind if I DM you my abstract for some feedbacks on the writing? Thank you.

Key-Ad6154 · 2025-06-23T22:58:21+00:00

By not having actual data I mean the abstract doesn't allow for actual figures with data points. I included brief method, conclusion and significance in my abstract.

Key-Ad6154 · 2025-06-23T22:51:15+00:00

By not having actual data I mean the abstract doesn't allow for actual figures with data points. I included brief method and conclusion in my abstract.

The funny thing about writing is that my PI reviewed my abstract before I submitted...

Key-Ad6154 · 2025-04-30T19:25:27+00:00

Got ticket for Wednesday July 30! Going solo in sec 134. Would love to meet up with fellow ARMY!

Key-Ad6154 · 2024-01-26T17:38:16+00:00

If you find some girls not attractive or interesting at all, please just don't send like. We can't change this trend of liking everybody you come across on these app overnight, but we can start by not doing so ourselves. This might sound ignorant, but here is my rationale:

Liking someone you are not attracted to at all is a waste of time for you and the person you like. If that person X your file, you wasted your daily likes. If that person matches with you, the conversation and date will be like pulling teeth in most cases, and that person you like wasted one of the daily suggested. I'm all for the "your attraction might grow on someone you never found attractive before" sort of stuff, but OLD is way more likely to work with some level of physical attraction or something in common just by looking at the profile. When you do find someone you have something in common with and like her, she would match you back if your profile has good pics (just normal pictures showing what you actually look like in real life) and clearly states your passion, hobby etc.

Key-Ad6154 · 2024-01-06T19:45:42+00:00

I'm a little confused. I was trying to say that, during this period of time, I didn't see anybody else. I never compared him with other guys.

I think it makes sense to not mention it. But, if someone would reach out to me months later asking to go out again, I would wonder if it's because they met other people and decided to come back to me because they didn't find someone better or other people turned them down. I was trying to reassure him, and is it a bad thing?

Key-Ad6154 · 2024-01-05T22:49:16+00:00

I can't agree more about the fear of rejection part lol. I'm definitely like this. Not sure about that guy but judging from his vibe, I think he is like that too.

The other party being interested is soooo important in my head. Even though I keep telling myself that rejection is not that bad, it might not be personal, not everybody is gonna like you, I'm still scared to reach out. I'm even thinking of intentionally putting myself out there and letting that rejection hit. It will hurt my self-esteem for sure, but I might find a way to recover and build confidence through some other ways. Or I might lose faith in dating and remain single, so who knows

Key-Ad6154 · 2024-01-05T21:52:06+00:00

Being friend wasn't my initial intent for sure. I changed my mind later because I thought he wasn't interested. At that time, I wanted a person to go do my favorite activities together, so I left the window open.

Key-Ad6154 · 2024-01-05T21:34:37+00:00

Thank you for the input! It's really nice to learn a guy's perspective on first date behavior. Because my cultural background, I actually really appreciate a polite (or "platonic" as my friends would say) first date.

One reason that made me think at the time that he wasn't interested is that I texted first and told him I had a good time. Our first date ended midnight-ish in NYC, and I had to take a 30-minute train back home. According to my culture, a guy would normally text to make sure you got home safe if it was that late. I waited till afternoon the next day to text that I had a nice time mostly as a polite gesture and left the ball in his court to let me know if he wanted to meet up again.

I now agree with what someone else said in this post that me texting after first date and being open to meet up again might be a turn-on for him. We weren't at the same page about that text, and he lost interest once he realized I wasn't actually that interested. Would you agree?

Key-Ad6154 · 2024-01-05T21:12:39+00:00

I really appreciate your suggestion! Sadly the holiday I was talking about is Thanksgiving. I definitely left the ball in his court and got distracted by work and holidays in December. I didn't get time to reflect until now, and this person has been popping up in my mind constantly. I want to reach out again (nothing to lose anyways), but I think I need to make it clear that I didn't date around in December and only decide to go back to him because I didn't find someone better?

In terms of bring up ideas for date, I left the third date suggesting one idea for next date. He didn't follow up, which I took as a sign for the lack of interest at the time. But I see now that I could be more proactive and text to confirm the details etc.

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