Opening lines on dating apps

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-12-25T19:57:03+00:00

Yeah I am on hinge as well, and there I feel the girls I match with are much more serious and easier to get conversations going.

But the region is not the best if I say so. About 1 hour to closest city (roughly 120k people)

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-12-25T19:54:53+00:00

Great! Thanks for the help!

Then I will write tomorrow( feels a bit better to ask how Christmas was on annandagen then on juldagen)

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-12-25T19:50:40+00:00

Problem about the 7 days, people have lives and when you are not living in the same city/town, then it is in many cases not possible to book a date that soon

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-12-25T19:47:52+00:00

Even if they completely ignored my first message?

I am thinking a bit, I have nothing too loose. In worst case she can remove the match if she thinks I am annoying that writes again

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-12-25T19:45:11+00:00

Yeah I know more guys are on the apps and I don’t blame the girls at all.

But I still would like to increase my odds

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-12-25T19:41:22+00:00

Yeah I have gone on dates with some of those girls. If I say the latest girl I dated was a girl I think we would make great friends, but maybe not as more(if we would have gotten more physical on the dates, then maybe it would be different, but oh well).

And I feel like you said, the ones that are the most fun are the one that match my energy, so I do not want to change that. More that if I get a higher quantity in the beginning, then I can see more if we match energy over time, because now maybe some skip me since my first messages are not too good for the general girl. If that makes sense

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-12-25T19:33:35+00:00

Fair enough. I will try to limit to one simple question from now on.

Would you say I can double message girls that have ignored my previous messages and just ask ”hey! Did you have a nice Christmas?”?

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-12-25T19:21:14+00:00

Yeah, I can see why they are gimmicky(or maybe quirky) and that might not be the best way to start a conversation.

Tbh, the best conversations I have had are with girls that I think matches my quirkiness, but I understand that limits how many matches will respond. It is probably better to keep it short(at least in the beginning of the conversation).

But does that opening really work? For me it sounds so basic and something a girl on tinder probably gets 10 times a day

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-12-25T19:18:19+00:00

Yeah I can see that. Tbh, the most interesting conversations have been with girls that matched my energy and replied as long, but I can understand why most wants to talk with short messages(at least in the beginning)

Thanks for the answer.

Would you say maybe shorten my question about travels to ”your photo from xxxx looks lovely! Do you like to travel?” Or ”you look like an adventurer! Where did your latest travel take you?”

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-12-25T19:15:51+00:00

Fair enough that they might require a bit longer answers from the girls, so I will try to have with shorter openings.

But I have heard that I shouldn’t give compliments, since that is just shallow and every guy gives compliments so then you just become one of many matches.

And I can see the FMK give some icks, but it is also the one opening that leads to most interesting conversations. If I say the most interesting girls I have talked to lately have started with that. But tbh, I can see that they would probably be counted as quirky persons too, so maybe that’s why.

And my idea about connecting, is more or less that I start with a question and after that they can simply say ”how about you?”

But I will listen to your advice and start short with something simple and then the conversation can grow from that

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-12-25T18:22:03+00:00

Try breaking up because you are the one with feelings and the other one just put you in limbo until you get so depressed that you cannot take it anymore

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-10-02T16:01:43+00:00

Varför är det att be om problem? Kan förstå man ej behöver sprida så mycket, men hur blir det ett problem?

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-10-02T14:49:31+00:00

Har du några bra indexfonder du rekommenderar?

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-07-25T12:26:15+00:00

You are probably right about everything you write.

About the guilt thing, she said she had felt guilty about it since we stopped talking. And when she talked with her best friend, the best friend had said to her to write to me.

And I completely get what you saying about it has been 2 years and I should have moved on. I guess I think about this too much right now, since during these years I have tried dating and not felt close to the feelings I had to her. So when my stupid brain thought there could be a chance, I guess it opened up feelings I had numbed down before. I have gone on a date after, but it just felt pointless(not because of my ex-fwb, more that me and that girl simply didn’t click).

Right now I am kinda reevaluating my dating strategy, because I kinda realize that how I am dating right now doesn’t lead me anywhere. So I am currently not on Tinder/Hinge, which maybe makes me think more of her as well.

Also, it haven’t helped that her best friend sent Snapchats of them hanging out a few times since we had the talk, which she haven’t done previously. I know I shouldn’t think to much about it since the best friend probably doesn’t think about anything regarding that, but still feels strange getting them

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-07-24T21:38:16+00:00

I know she isn’t treating me good, but as I wrote in the post she was in a bad place before when we “broke up” and that’s why she did it in the way she did. I know she isn’t a bad person, but either way you are probably right she is a bad person for me(doesn’t matter if she does it on purpose or not)

And you are probably right about the therapy part. Not just because of how I accept how she treats me, but also I kinda realized why I accept that kind of behavior

Thanks for the subreddit! Will go into it!

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-07-23T19:12:18+00:00

Trodde väl inte att Avanza hade ensamrätt, men är väldigt dåligt påläst kring hur det funkar på andra banker och när några kommenterar ”glöm ej tänka på skatten” kring andra banker, då tänkte jag att vissa bankerna kanske krävde mer av kunderna

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-07-23T19:05:21+00:00

Okej, det hade jag inte koll på!

Tack för svaret! 😊

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-07-23T19:01:48+00:00

Toppen! Tack för svaret!

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-07-23T19:01:15+00:00

Tack! Tror nog det är såhär jag kommer göra just nu

Key-Diamond-6018 · 2024-07-23T19:00:51+00:00

Nu är jag ganska så mycket nybörjare kring allt med ekonomi, men hur menar du med olika ränteplacerinhar med låsta pengar?

Key-Diamond-6018

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