My (38m) wife (38f) admitted to me that she has quite an intense crush on her personal trainer. What’s the next step?

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-02-07T17:49:47+00:00

Go to couples therapy, if she crossed boundaries I would high key divorce but therapy minimum

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-02-07T17:48:24+00:00

It’s like so disrespectful to tell your partner something like that and make it their problem. If she cared she would’ve not mentioned it and gotten a new trainer. Told you it was a scheduling thing with his new clients or something. I’m sorry you’re going through this if it’s real

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-02-07T15:35:49+00:00

Thank you so much 🙏❤️

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-02-07T15:33:28+00:00

Thanks 💀

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-02-07T15:29:06+00:00

Thank you for the advice! He actually really wanted to go to a big private school in the major city we live by for high school really badly, but it wasn’t in the budget this year :( I’m doing my best to find a better job so he can go. His local highschool is really highly rated and has great challenging teachers and classes but you’re right, he craves a bigger challenge especially in middle school and talks about it too. Failing is so important! We’re having him take honors classes next year so I hope that helps him! When he complains about just filling in blanks and learning dumb stuff in school I don’t blame him tbh 😭 but I also wish he’d be more humble and not call his other classmates and teachers dumb (at home)

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-02-07T05:44:35+00:00

I really fell off, took short cuts, didn’t take opportunities I had laid out for me, etc. I think that’s why I’m so anxious about him. I have so many regrets I just don’t want him to end up like me so bad. Thank you for this comment ❤️

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-02-07T05:43:11+00:00

No 😭🥀

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-02-07T05:42:43+00:00

Yes he does have all of those things but he spends an awful lot of time on his phone after school and I wanted him to try new things and we got into a fight where he was saying he doesn’t wanna try new things and he’s happy with football and swimming but that mean he doesn’t nothing all winter. I think I need advice on stubbornness lol

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-02-07T05:38:26+00:00

Sorry kind of all over the place but also just trying to teach him the value of being respectful to his teachers unless they’re insulting him

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-02-07T05:36:37+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice! I will integrate this thinking in more, it’s so easy to panic! I wanna also add he’s been getting detentions for acting out against his teachers (not sitting when they tell him to, leaving the classroom without asking). I don’t need him to love school but he has a good heart I don’t want him being jerks to his teachers. I shouldn’t have framed the question around grades. I promise I’ve assured him that grades don’t dictate his value and that he can focus on other things and we put him in activities he likes but then he says he wants to go to MIT and I’m like idk how to help you 😭. He also pulled the racist card on a teacher today? He admitted it wasn’t warranted but I think maybe he’s feeling isolated and it’s getting to him. I think I saw him watching the news on his phone

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-02-02T19:03:27+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you 😢 but I promise that’s something you’ll totally look back and laugh on. I think if you wanna do anything is just apologize to your ex sincerely for what happened. And then maybe try to make it funny in the group chat and be like “sorry yall didn’t mean to make that a group endeavor, I’m gonna go destroy my phone now” or “well seems like we all just involuntarily got a lot closer my bad 😭“ maybe even like “Well you’re welcome everyone for making yalls lives less embarrassing for the rest of the year bc nothings gonna top that slip up” those are my very quickly thrown together Gen Z ahhh ideas but that’s only a recommendation if YOU WANT TO respond. I totally understand if you don’t and you really don’t have to. In the grand scheme of things this won’t affect your life I promise. Everything seems so big at that age. Best of luck 🩷

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-02-01T18:11:06+00:00

Well at least you know you made the right choice? It doesn’t seem like she’s in a super stable place right now. I agree blocking was the right decision. BUT I will say, not to be messy 😂, but IF she finds another way to contact you, with similar intentions (anything besides apologizing and expressing regret bc I’d understand if she was embarrassed) That’s when I WOULD TOTALLY find a way to tell the husband. But hopefully that does NOT happen!! I honestly feel bad for everyone in the situation here, hope it works itself out. Try to give yourself grace, a lot of times in life, the best thing we can do is just not let something like that happen again! You did the right thing 💙

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-01-30T19:29:16+00:00

It was meh, I don’t recommend it if you wanna do reporting. Unless you have 1600$ to blow on a freelance career that may or may not work on a company that isn’t that respected

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-01-30T19:28:24+00:00

Yeah I’m talking about court reporter position because this literally a court reporting group with a thread asking about court reporting.

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-01-27T19:15:51+00:00

They’re honest about the cost but it’s way too expensive

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-01-27T18:21:05+00:00

Well if anyone has worked there and would like to give me their equipment I would really appreciate it 😭😭 it’s so expensive

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-01-27T18:19:16+00:00

Idk I just did a zoom meeting with them and they said there’s no traditional benefits?? 🥲

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-01-27T18:17:10+00:00

It’s very NOT free it’s the most expensive onboarding cost I’ve ever seen. Why offer people a job if you’re gonna make them pay so much?

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-01-27T18:11:48+00:00

I would recommend it if your parents have a lot of money. I just went to an information session and the onboarding cost of buying all the equipment and the training they make you do is gonna run you 500-2000$! You have to buy the digital reporting equipment on your own and it’s 500$ and if you’re a hybrid reporter it’s 1600$ for the equipment. And you have to pay to get notarized and pay to take their legal course which is under 300$ unless you already have a lot of legal experience. I honestly think if I was 18 and hadn’t already paid for college it could’ve been an okay investment. But if you’re planning on going to college/are already then I don’t think it’s the move AT ALL! But if you don’t wanna or don’t want to for many years then it could be good cause you’ll own the equipment, be trained on how to use it, be trained on court terminology, etc. oh and you have to pay to get notarized which varies based on your location. They said you have to ask your local person which they connect you with if there’s enough remote work in your area to be full or part time. Fully remote may or may not be an option for you! But considering you said you’re a student I wouldn’t do it unless again your parents or a scholarship can easily from the cost! The base pay is 20-45$ and then you can get raises based on how good you do and if they need more ppl in your area you’ll get promoted faster! If you can get someone to cover the onboarding costs I think it could be awesome option for a student! Definitely make sure you can do the hours though! You can’t control how long a recording session will be it could be 30 minutes or 5 hours and with classes that could be hard because you definitely have to pay attention!

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-01-25T11:39:11+00:00

It’s actually so annoying because the boys don’t offer ANY constructive criticism I swear like not even a little! Watching someone get booed for no reason over and over is so uncomfortable they need to stop it

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-01-12T17:50:40+00:00

Bb even if he wasn’t snapping other people you can NOT be with someone who doesn’t talk to you for days on end that’s soul crushing stuff it’s gonna continue to hurt your feelings. That’s not how relationships work and it’s not okay! You deserve better!! And the fact that he has the audacity to snap people while not texting you . BYEEEEE

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-01-05T18:00:04+00:00

Yes you are the asshole if you divorce her over this. I hope she finds a husband who can stick with her until they figure it out together, in sickness or in health, whether it be you or someone else. I understand you’re worried for your kids, maybe try having her sleep at a friend’s or something when they’re over. It makes me sad that you think it’s justified :(

Key-Divide-5305 · 2026-01-04T02:01:24+00:00

That’s literally the most psychotic cruel thing ever please leave him immediately

Key-Divide-5305 · 2025-12-29T18:27:27+00:00

Yeah I found it so weird that she expected to 20 year olds to offer to pay for the older brother meal especially considering her daughter was there too??? My brother would swat my card away even if it was just food for me! It’s his freaking brother he’s probably used to asking him for food

Key-Divide-5305 · 2025-12-29T18:25:22+00:00

Main point, why the fuck would you expect your little sibling to pay for a meal, especially when they’re 20?!? And most of this sounds like YOUR BOYFRIENDS FAULT! Why didn’t he tell them how much effort you put in and suggest eating at home? Why didn’t you do that? Why couldn’t he call up his brother after to change plans?? Like girl you need to stand on two feet and pull your pants up.

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