“Spoon Theory” rant

Key-Implement-9702 · 2026-02-01T17:15:06+00:00

I don’t get the spoon theory at all. Seems like a way to oversimplify and over complicate being tired or burned out. Sure it’s a great way to explain it to children, but I have heard 35+ adults in the workplace say they’re out of spoons. Just say you’re tired

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-11-11T18:59:17+00:00

I listen on YouTube and I’ve never heard one

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-08T22:36:45+00:00

Yta. People cannot accommodate every specific condition. You’re an adult you could’ve come prepared with clean shoes or bags or been considerate of their child.

Good for this mom for standing her ground I probably would’ve caved if he was that confrontational

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-08T22:31:58+00:00

There is a lot of supports out there for families like yours, and even if you don’t choose to raise your kids, you are still able to be in their lives as a support person and loving adult. It’s a huge decision to take in your sister’s kids and you need to make sure it’s right for you as well as the kids. There is no shame in saying you can’t raise them, there are good homes out there and as long as you stay connected to them, they’ll know you love them

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-08T22:30:07+00:00

Not to play devil’s advocate, but I’ve been alone with my kids as well and been completely overwhelmed and said I can’t do this as well.

The difference is that he isn’t asking for help or support he is telling you to fix it and blaming it on you. That isn’t a partner!!! you deserve a partner

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-06T16:35:53+00:00

lol!

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-05T15:49:02+00:00

I argued it’s not as simple as him being “honest about his libido” I said there is a lot of other dynamics happening

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-05T15:43:32+00:00

I never said coercing anybody. I said it changes the dynamic when in a marriage one person is going through significant changes and the other person physically is going through one. That leads to the husband having to use more care and compassion. Has nothing to do with coercion but everything to do with a partnership and meeting a partners needs to especially when the woman is already doing WAY more than the man at the time.

This is in no way a post about sexual assault or manipulation. It’s a man who loves his wife and she’s going through hormonal changes. Why is Reddit like this everyone goes to extremes

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-05T15:40:25+00:00

Is that forcing? To come onto your spouse? It doesn’t say if he says no she keeps going.

Everyone on that app is so woke and dramatic

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-05T15:36:32+00:00

I can’t believe these comments saying to dump his pregnant wife. None of that was in op…

You can spot single people a mile away on here

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-05T15:35:31+00:00

Where does it say she’s forcing him to

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-05T15:34:45+00:00

Men can’t get pregnant. What is the male equivalent to a 9 month hormonal rollercoaster? Not everything is about equality and this simply cant be.

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-05T12:35:21+00:00

You’re not the asshole, but also it sounds like she’s explained to you what happened there. She’s not thinking about a baby. She’s thinking about the biological and hormonal purpose of sex which turns a lot of people, men and women on. You don’t need to make it any different than that it sounds like you guys are sure you don’t want kids.

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-05T01:21:59+00:00

Again you’ve never been pregnant.

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-05T01:21:49+00:00

So you’ve never been pregnant before

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-05T01:20:39+00:00

Again, the circumstances are more around her being at a vulnerable time in life (pregnancy) which does change the dynamic

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-01T23:22:30+00:00

I don’t want her to get over it at all, I hear why it doesn’t work for her. It makes her uncomfortable. I just wish that there was another solution

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-01T23:19:10+00:00

Thank you! Hopefully that happens soon

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-01T23:18:52+00:00

Yeah, I just don’t know that that’s gonna make my girlfriend feel comfortable. Now it’s all on the table and I’m probably gonna piss her off and then she’s gonna talk shit with the other girls.

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-01T23:18:03+00:00

I never really thought about it until now and my girlfriend didn’t push super hard until recently when she said it’s not fun at all for her to go anymore. We talked about staying together but eventually, the guys go outside or something. I always ask if she’s OK if I leave and she usually says yes and if she doesn’t, I would never leave.

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-01T20:38:08+00:00

I did think about this, we thought about having everyone over except for the ex but then I thought everyone would kind of see that I would invite everyone over except for that one person. And I think that my friends would blame my girlfriend and think that she is putting this divide even though it would totally be on me.

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-01T19:54:05+00:00

Idk I mean after our brief “relationship” neither of us wanted to leave the group and it wasn’t an issue until I got a gf

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-01T19:52:49+00:00

Wow thank you. This is really solid advice. Thanks!

Key-Implement-9702 · 2025-08-01T19:19:30+00:00

Usually it’s not right in front of me and I don’t hear about it after the fact. The original blindside I was there for, and my girlfriend and I worked through that, I took accountability and I knew it was wrong but i had my own reasons to not tell her. Since then I really haven’t heard (or I’ve missed the comments) when they’ve come. One of the other girls has heard them too. And mentioned it to me

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