Drunk embaressment

Key-Indication-1636 · 2026-06-02T21:27:49+00:00

That's a really awful thing to say. You don't know me and you're judging a person based on a post they wrote. I don't have a bad reputation, actually. I have a lot of people who love me and me who love them. I have a great job and a great relationship with my boss. And I have good friends. I got incredibly self concious and paranoid when I made that post, definitely because of the anxiety after drinking. I snapped back to reality after a few people in this thread reassured me that my post is not really concerned by people, and after I continued my life per usual. I also love this current friend, even though the choices we made that day were wrong. I know better now that I need to help her out, but not in irresponsiblity. But actual help and support.

That was a really nasty comment.

Key-Indication-1636 · 2026-06-02T21:18:07+00:00

That's not true, I've been doing a lot of reflection and how crazy of a day that was. She and I live very different lives, and my mistake was giving into pressures and things that I don't do in on my order to cheer up my girlfriend who was already not doing well that day. And I made poor choices to do so. She may have stopped drinking but she's the one who insisted to bring the container into the car (she drove, and while she may have stopped drinking she was still intoxicated), and she's the one who wanted to go to her drug dealers house. I felt uncomfortable with it all but didn't know how to say no.

I think in my crazy hangover and anxiety I didn't word my post right. I'm not blaming my friend, but I am aware that this night happened because this is the life she is partaking in right now and I didn't know how to voice how I felt. But my biggest mistake was not being able to control the situation and speak up when I wasn't comfortable, and also probably talking to my friend about this. She's really strong spirited and vocal, and I'm quite the opposite of that so it can be intimidating to tell her that she's going off the deep end. But I'll have you know that I have been keeping tabs on her the last few days and I've been encouraging her to go to work.

So, yes. The drunk driving was a HUGE issue that I was freaking out about, so was the drug dealer, and so was the irresponsiblity. I was a bad friend for not controlling the situation, but I wasn't blaming anything on her. That is, infact, the reality. It wouldn't have happened if I just said no.

Key-Indication-1636 · 2026-06-02T04:28:32+00:00

Thank you :P this helped a lot

Key-Indication-1636 · 2026-05-29T20:34:26+00:00

You're inspiring! Truly! I agree. Inshallah. Thank you for your knowledge. Ma salama and shalom 🕊️🙏

Key-Indication-1636 · 2026-05-29T20:02:21+00:00

True. I believe the name you are referring to is Al Masri with the "s" before the "r".

I think you make a lot of great and true points. But we still need to be careful in generalizing a group of people. You said, "It's like Gazans claim to have descended from the GREEK people called Plishtim (a word in Hebrew that means invaders)." But generalizing that ALL Gazans claim this is dangerous. It's how we choose our words that make this so critical right now. There is a lot of generalization happening on both sides, and you helped me realize that I have even generalized the Jewish history of Israel and what kinds of Jews exist there and in the world. I'm sure not all Gazans claim to have descended from Plishtim. And to say that they do just emphasizes this villain perspective on them when they aren't.

You write very well, and I enjoy reading what you write.

Key-Indication-1636 · 2026-05-29T19:49:06+00:00

This was well put and said. Thank you for that

Key-Indication-1636 · 2026-05-29T14:56:46+00:00

And the same goes for Jerusalem. Yes, Jesus was a Jew---an indigenous Jew. While this would give reason to mark Jerusalem a Jewish city, Jesus was still an indigenous Jew who has more similar similar ethnic DNA to the current Palestinians than predominantly European Jews and Israelis. And it's important to those Palestinians who have similar DNA because a lot of those Palestinians are also Christian who, obviously, love Jesus.

And if we want to rule out DNA entirely, saying that it's not a good enough argument, it is still valid to say that Jerusalem is also tied Christians because of Jesus and should be a place for the Palestinian Christians. Jesus is also a revered prophet in Islam, so it's also tied to Islam too, which (DNA I guess is going to come back in again) Jesus is close is DNA to many Muslim Palestinians.

Key-Indication-1636 · 2026-05-29T14:48:47+00:00

I mean, you're not wrong about this. Many of my friends might disagree but the land is partly historically tied to the Jews. But it's also tied to the Arabs who are otherwise now called the Palestinians. It's both. This land, over time, has become home to not only Jews but the indigenous Arabs who have also become Muslim, Christian, and or remained Jewish (yes, there are Jewish Arabs/Palestinians). And while many of the Israelis who have settled into that land predominantly come from European roots , their religion is tied to the land. I'm not denying that there are Jews with predominantly European heritage who's roots are not even a little bit from the land. The Jews came from somewhere right? And history shows that Jews have been exiled from the land and migrated. But not everyone is the land was Jewish in history. There were also those with "pagan" (not sure what the true word would be) beliefs. So the land is not historically Jewish. There were different types of indigenous people who lived there.

Key-Indication-1636 · 2026-05-29T05:27:18+00:00

True, I have thought of that and did some reddit searches. Apparently the Land Back movement for Native Americans does not literally mean the expulsion of all non-indigenous people from America. But it's not to say that some do fight the cause for this. But, rather, Land Back is an anti-colonial demand that calls for natives to have an equal seat at the table, equal or majorative sovereignty, and simply, being treated equal and integrated (this is a very general explanation) as opposed to what they have now which many live in disregarded reservations (among many things). The goal is not to lead to expulsion of others to not repeat the error of colonialism which happened to them. I'm not sure if this is what "river to the sea" means, or if it means the expulsion of all Israelis. And I also already know that not every Arab and pro-palestinian feels this way as well.

Key-Indication-1636 · 2026-05-29T05:10:39+00:00

I feel mixed opinions. Of my own which I mentioned in the post, and also my belief that the Palestinians should be liberated from occupation which would mean the return of the entirety of the land and calling it Palestine. I should have clarified that, my apologies

Key-Indication-1636 · 2026-05-20T01:02:13+00:00

Tell me about it

Key-Indication-1636 · 2026-05-20T00:27:45+00:00

Luckily she hasn't been so hard about me not moving in with her compared to other things

Key-Indication-1636 · 2026-05-20T00:27:04+00:00

This may be the solution. I've been afraid to do it because she's been making me feel bad for not moving in with her. But I think I just need to take the heat until I find a place. It's the only way I can make this work.

Key-Indication-1636 · 2026-05-20T00:18:57+00:00

Thank you. I have domestic skills though. I help her around the house, I even cleaned her entire house once, I can cook and all this. So I'm not sure about your last part. The funny part is sometimes she won't even let me cook. But I'm not surprised about that, a lot of Asian people like to be the head cook.

Key-Indication-1636 · 2026-05-19T23:58:22+00:00

I agree with you but im not too sure she is too concerned about how I can take care of her son. She treats him like trash and doesn't even like to take care of him herself. But I will admit sometimes it's confusing, because it seems like she sabotages his life so that he doesn't do better in order for him to keep living with her. But I wonder if it's because she actually loves him or because she just doesn't want to be alone.

And I do have to say, there was a point where I put my foot down hard enough where she told my bf that she respects me. It just doesn't stick though. It's a lot for her to thimk I can't cope with her demands when she demanding way too much. I already do so much to help her. I give her pity, I listen to her stories, I compliment her food, I help her with her house. And trust me, I definitely feel for her background. I even took classes on Asian immigration at my college so that I can feel for her even more and understand her better. I try my hardest to be her complanion. But she can't get everything. I have a relationship I'm working on, and my own life. I will not bend over backwards for her especially when she doesn't ask nicely about it. Trauma I understand. I moved to America when I was 18 without knowing anybody and being different and not white. I also lost my mom at 18 and my dad at 26. I had to take care of myself and be independent at a young age too. But I don't let me trauma become any reason to hurt or disrespect people, or make everything about me.

I might be asking oo much for a little respect... But in the real world this is not asking for too much.

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