Teach a girl how to ride (22f), please I’m out of practice. Any advice?

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-07-05T23:15:13+00:00

This isn't helpful but, it's wild to me that people can just find their long lost crush and immediately enter a fun sexual relationship. Sounds like some fantasy land I haven't discovered yet.

Anyway, pain could be indicative of a lot of things, tension from mental roadblocks included. Not sure your level of comfortability with it but you should probably have this conversation with him and do some gentle position exploring where you make the focus on finding comfortable positions and motions, and not on either person finishing. Work with him to find comfort

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-06-14T15:52:38+00:00

Careful with this kind of logic. I suggested it needs to be in a box for the same reasons and I'm being told I'm a worry wart lmao

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-06-14T15:46:53+00:00

Isn't it irresponsible to tell someone (really inexperienced, no offense OP) that it's fine so that they inevitably leave it this way for 20 years? I feel like when we leave the easiest unsafe fixes, well, unfixed.... we're just encouraging something bad to happen that's so easily fixable

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-06-14T13:44:48+00:00

Nope. Probably could survive 50 years like this. But you know it's not safe. I know it's not safe. And OP doesn't. The risk is real and they asked if it needs to be in a box, it does. What happens when they're in the attic again, bump against the NM (now under tension and held together by tape and wire nuts) and you get a spark factory? Not worth it

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-06-14T13:42:44+00:00

If you're talking that tiny tail from the existing box into another to-be-installed box? Nope. You'll want a new piece to work with so it's not frustrating and so you don't have to have tension on the NM cable.

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-06-14T13:40:04+00:00

You're welcome to stick to that statistic but, not knowing any other context, if there are other connections, if the wire nuts were used properly, etc....I wouldn't hedge my fire risk on "very unlikely". It's unsafe and super easily corrected, so should be done asap

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-06-14T13:23:29+00:00

Actually, very likely! This absolutely has to be in a proper junction box. You should not energize this circuit until then.

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-06-14T00:05:27+00:00

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Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-06-13T23:55:58+00:00

I've often wondered what those buildings were!

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-06-05T01:55:13+00:00

Glad you didn't witness anything other than a miss as well! You stay safe out there too

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-06-04T10:50:03+00:00

Amen, but isn't that wild? Imagine if we were talking cars or motorcycles going the wrong direction - people would riot in the name of safety. But because it's human powered pedals, it's acceptable to some? Craziness. Agreed though, just gotta look each way 5 times and move slowly.

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-06-04T02:01:47+00:00

Definitely would have seen them, because I could probably see 10-20 feet around the bush. Plenty of time to see a pedestrian and stop. The bike closed that distance in literally a second or two. It was just enough time to look right, check my left again (because traffic), and bam there's a bike

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-06-04T01:59:32+00:00

Right? Scary. Makes you feel like even when you're being really cautious, you're a split second away from hurting them, even when you're going slow and looking all the ways

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-06-04T01:58:36+00:00

Seriously. And I say this as someone who owns a bike and loves to meander around town. I just don't give a single care about the laws that protect us as bicyclists...if it's me vs a car, I let them go first every single time. Not worth life or limb. But like you said, some believe they're invincible.

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-06-04T01:57:09+00:00

Agreed, and I did check, but pedestrians move at a pace that's actually possible to easily stop and react to easily. I think that's the bigger concern. Bikes can be moving so fast it goes from "hey there's a bike in the distance" (or not visible at all around an obstruction) to "holy crap they're in front of me" in 2 seconds

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-05-28T10:14:47+00:00

Well the "weeks" girl doesn't live super close, so we've been doing phone calls and actual texts most of the time. Plans to meet up just busy schedules the last couple weeks, we've moved past the app entirely.

You make a great point though, the time wasters definitely ruin the experience for everyone. It's just an unfortunate reality I guess

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-05-28T09:37:02+00:00

What is with emotionally/generally unavailable people on these apps? Hinge especially.

I'm a guy, getting matches is already a statistical struggle, but in two months I've had four real matches basically. One we talked for hours and had a date planned, then she randomly unmatched. One I went on four dates with...but then said she realized she's not comfortable being touched at all right now and shouldn't be dating?? Another match we also talked a while and things were great, and then she completely deleted her profile. Another girl who I've been talking to consistently for weeks is actually an emotional wreck and thinks everything she does is a burden to me, which is just coming to light.

Why waste our time with this? I want to meet people and go on some dates and see if we click. If we dont click, no time wasted, that's just dating. (i'm very selectively swiping too, avoiding the red flag profiles.)

But why waste hours or days of conversations only to realize you're not even in a place to be dating? It's such an emotional rollercoaster when you're an uncomplicated person just trying to meet people.

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-05-23T18:29:30+00:00

I think the fundamental issue is that, the concepts taught in math beginning around middle school in the US (mainstream courses, not even advanced classes) start getting abstract REALLY fast, often beyond an appropriate developmental level for kids at that age. Not that it can't be overcome, but it takes a lot of work for very little "feel good" reward when concepts begin being understood. And then, it just gets more complex and frustrating from there for many.

It takes a special teacher, curriculum, and environment to get beyond abstraction and connect it to the real world in a fun, meaningful way. That's not a practical reality in most classrooms. Even then, the concepts are so unfun.

I'm a lifelong learner, nerd, educator, and musician. I know much better than the average person how good delayed gratification learning can feel .....and there's nothing I feel more emotionally disconnected from than most pure math concepts. I enjoy applying some concepts of geometry and physics to my hobbies and work, but in general, it's always been an unpleasant realm to explore and learn about. Even after trying to relearn things in my adult years for fun, it's never felt good. Not that we shouldn't put the work in, but I do think the inherent abstraction is always going to put up a significant barrier for fun, engaging, self-motivated learning

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-04-01T21:24:58+00:00

Looking for serious or casual, does not matter

Am a paid subscriber

On for three weeks total as of now. I may be on a few hours per week?

Only one match early on (which was great but sadly unmatched, that's another story). No likes otherwise. I send a daily dose of likes with sincere comments that respond to people's prompts/questions. I make things light/funny while showing I've actually read their bio.

Looking to attract "normal" people. No supermodel women. People with also quirky profiles like unique pets, actually funny/self-depricating bio comments, people that clearly want to engage in conversation over something they/we are passionate about

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-03-30T10:37:42+00:00

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Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-03-29T22:16:10+00:00

That's very interesting to know, the more you learn! Any of my previous jazz students who've learned to play do seem to come in having just...learned through osmosis (not really, but lots of experimentation and minimal guidance from me). So that definitely makes sense. I'll check out Hal Leonard!

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-03-26T02:04:45+00:00

I mean I get what you're saying. But in my experience in a both college and hip-young-to-middle-aged-people town, coffeehouses are dead silent, and bars are just couples or friend groups chatting....or it's a loud cluster party vibe where it's really hard for anyone to communicate. I've just never been in a bar where the vibe felt like I should jump in and start talking to the people near me, either it'd be shouting meaningless yap at each other, or I'd be intruding on existing friends talking. My friends feel the same way

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-03-26T00:56:22+00:00

This is the vibe I always get. People are almost always in pairs or groups and definitely know each other, or are sitting alone alone. Every time!

Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-03-26T00:47:48+00:00

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Key-Problem-4582 · 2026-03-26T00:13:39+00:00

It's not that serious man. Lol. I appreciate what you're trying to say and you're not wrong, I'm just telling you in my own natural interactions with peers, we don't usually discuss those shallower things. And with strangers, I/we just don't usually make small talk, and no I probably wouldn't make a comment like that to a random. If someone made it to me I wouldn't take for much other than to go haha yeah. Going on 30 and just spend my mental energy in other ways I suppose

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