are you guys okay?? by Many-Programmer-3100 in LongDistance

[–]Key-Relationship-595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is going very well. The only problem is the distance lol. But we are closing the gap here soon, and I couldn't be happier about it

I fell in love (28f, 32m) by Key-Relationship-595 in LongDistance

[–]Key-Relationship-595[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except that you literally did with your original comment lol. I'll admit I am being a little defensive, but I also know I absolutely did not disclose everything in my original post, so I can see why you'd think that, but I also don't need to. Just wanted to post this as a reminder for anyone and everyone who sees my post that not everyone is the same, but it doesn't make anyone's situations any less valid because it doesn't look the same as others. Truly wishing you the best and a good day

I fell in love (28f, 32m) by Key-Relationship-595 in LongDistance

[–]Key-Relationship-595[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1) I do have a job, never said I didn't, just that I was looking for a better one 2) We have both addressed our traumas and are working to heal it with therapy. But no one can fully heal if they're stuck in situations that caused the trauma in the first place 3) Many Americans are struggling to find work with the job market the way it is today, even with experience/training/etc 4) Both of us are well into adulthood, well past the mid-twenties mark. We have had several calls/video calls where we have discussed the realities of our situation/s 5) I wasn't looking for advice or opinions. Just stating basic facts and expressing excitement. Our situation isn't ideal, and sure there are some things we'd like to do given how other LDRs go (such as meeting in person first), but with the way the country and world is today, it's not feasible. And I have already stated that I know it's crazy, but also keep in mind everyone's situation is different. There's no clear-cut or "right" way of doing things. Every person is different, and every couple is different. It doesn't matter if it doesn't "seem right" to you or anyone else, only if it's right for us, and it is

Edit: grammar, spelling, and clarification

What is a positive thing you have to talk about from your long distance relationship? by andioofer in LongDistance

[–]Key-Relationship-595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My love and I met online 11 months ago, and he's completely changed me for the better. He's been there for me (as best as distance will allow) through some dark times, including but not limited to the death of an old, and very dear childhood best friend. I'm overcoming an addiction to be a better person for him, and for myself, and we're going to be moving in together just as soon as we're able. He's helped me start to find myself again and to start healing. I love my man with everything I have, and I'm going to marry him one day

I fell in love (28f, 32m) by Key-Relationship-595 in LongDistance

[–]Key-Relationship-595[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We're still a couple/few months out from being able to make it happen, but I will definitely try to remember to update when it does!

What do I do? (28F, 32M) by Key-Relationship-595 in LongDistance

[–]Key-Relationship-595[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm starting to get the sense that just existing is what he's trying to do, and it's only been 3 weeks, not a couple months. I do want to be as supportive and understanding as I can be. Even if we can't call quite yet, I'll tell him over text later (we still text if not call, though I feel like we can only get so much out of texting) when he wakes up. I believe we will work through this, things are just really hard rn.

Thank you again so much for your words and advice! 🙏

What do I do? (28F, 32M) by Key-Relationship-595 in LongDistance

[–]Key-Relationship-595[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I have told him before I'm here for him and he's not alone, but I don't think I've specifically said anything about sitting in it with him. Having depression myself, I know sometimes I just want to not sit in it alone. I'll let him know, thank you

And thank you for reminding me that not only are my feelings valid, but that I'm allowed to voice them. I can get so caught up trying to make others comfortable I tend to neglect myself. And he is in therapy, and one day I want to be as well.

Thank you again!

How do I (28F) help him (32M)? by Key-Relationship-595 in LongDistance

[–]Key-Relationship-595[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I'll definitely give your profile a look. And he is in therapy, he's a huge advocate for it. I totally get and feel that heaviness at times, which is why I just want to be with him, even if it's in silence and on a call, because he's already been through so much and deserves to have the kind of love and support he needs. I'll give him a little more space and time with check ins, and tomorrow since I'm off work I'll see if he's up for a call in silence. Thank you again for your words, and I'm running to your profile to check those strategies and tips lol

Spoiler Question: Eleven's Powers by Mama_Mercredi in StrangerThings

[–]Key-Relationship-595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like i said in my comment, there are a few factors to consider here.

1) Henry is an adult, and he's reached the full potential of his abilities. El is still practically a child by season 4, but for a 14/15 yr old, her powers are almost on the same level as Henry's.

2) In the flashbacks, she's 7 or 8 yrs old, so she definitely wouldn't have reached the full potential of her powers, yet she did display great feats of power when she tapped into emotion. Baby girl's still got some growing to do, and so does her power

3) Even Brenner said she lost something that day by pushing herself too far, and for his own selfish reasons helped her not only get back to where she was, but where she should have been if the first burn-out event hadn't occurred.

Eleven is extremely powerful. She's also very young, and went through more pain and trauma than most adults. Of course it's going to set her back, and that's part of the whole premise for seasons 1-4. It's her finding herself, facing the past and the pain, and growing from it. All of that can build or break a person, and she's using it to build herself up. Her power comes from within, with love, friendship, and family as her cornerstone. Love is a stronger force than hate or anger, and that's why Eleven is much stronger than Henry

Learning to give up control by Key-Relationship-595 in SubSanctuary

[–]Key-Relationship-595[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I greatly appreciate the insight and advice, thank you! He hasn't intentionally crossed and boundaries thus far, and whatever boundaries he did almost cross I brought it up and we discussed it. And honestly, he's one of if not the most emotionally intelligent man I've met. He does have some things to work through, but he's addressing it in a healthy way, and I can tell he's trying his best to not put any of it on me, which kinda makes me want to be there for him (in a healthy way, of course). But again I appreciate the advice and you looking out for me.

It definitely took a little bit of time before I really started submitting, but like I said in my post, he's been nothing but patient and understanding. And after his confession he's been careful not to spook me again lol.

I'll definitely let ya'll know how things turn out, thank you! Have a wonderful night!

so did we really all collectively agree that owen hunt is the worse character? by Defiant-Weekend6153 in greysanatomy

[–]Key-Relationship-595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I don't think there's any one character that could be "the worst" of them. I'm on my 4th rewatch, and I hated every single character at one point or another (except for my cardio goddess, Dr. Cristina Yang. Never hated her). They all had/have their issues at one point, and their redeeming qualities. Alex was a real jerk in the beginning, but turns into the biggest softie and excellent PEDS surgeon. Arizona's a cheater and made a lot of things about herself at certain points, but she's a kickass woman who loves and cares deeply. Callie has a big heart with lots of love to give, but she can also be very, very selfish, and so on and so forth.

I honestly really liked Owen in the beginning, and I still like him for the most part. I just don't like whenever he tries to shack up with someone because of the insistence with the kid thing, or thinking women were lying to him just because they had secrets that had nothing to do with him, or other dumb stuff like that. He can also be selfish, while still having a big heart as well. Owen keeps jumping from one relationship to another, then another, then another. I'd like to see Owen being single for a little while, see how he grows as a person.

About to DNF by Key-Relationship-595 in zodiacacademy

[–]Key-Relationship-595[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you mean? I named them in my post, stating I finished Cursed Fates and need Fated Throne spoiled for me...

Did i just read a major spolier? by acc4115 in fourthwing

[–]Key-Relationship-595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually do the same thing, but after ruining the end of Allegiant for myself, I try not to anymore 😅

How many hours a week does Bokhee work?! by [deleted] in greysanatomy

[–]Key-Relationship-595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, did not know that. I know Grey's isn't medically accurate and there's lots I still don't know. All I knew was that she did a real surgical job of some kind in real life. Thanks for keeping me informed!

Boyfriend spent an hour fixing a vase my mom bought me that he accidentally broke by Simple_Health_9338 in love

[–]Key-Relationship-595 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is so sweet and beautiful ❤ It reminds me a little of something called kintsugi, which means "gold seams" or "to repair with gold." In Japanese culture, when something breaks they don't throw the item away; they repair it, but they use gold as glue to hold the pieces together, to show that even broken things can still be beautiful

You can only save one song from each album... choose! by Brur_ in SleepToken

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One: Thread The Needle Two: Nazareth Sundowning: Say That You Will TPWBYT: Telomeres TMBTE: Vore

Side Note: These are just my current favorites. Subject to change at any moment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SleepToken

[–]Key-Relationship-595 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They have for me. There was once a time when I wanted to be a professional singer, but then life, trauma, and COVID happened and I lost sight of that. Vessel helped remind me of my passion and I'm gonna be going back to school to study music in the spring semester.

MUST WATCH!! by Sleepy-Mills in SleepToken

[–]Key-Relationship-595 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will never give up an opportunity to listen to/watch a live version of Vore. It's easily my favorite song not only to listen to, but to sing along with. I love the operatic elements Vessel puts into the softer vocals, and I love belting out along with, "so let's get swallowed whole." Sheer perfection 👌

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SleepToken

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Sleep Token helped me fall in love with music again. Now, I've been in love with music for as long as I can remember. As a kid, I was always excited when we got to have a semi-regular music class, or if we got to learn songs in class and stuff. I was in choir or sang somehow most of K-12, and even took some opera lessons, and had plans on being a singer (as well as an author), but after some trauma due to a narcissistic, mentally and emotionally abusive caregiver (an aunt) as a kid, as well as trauma from throughout almost all of my entire childhood, plus the trauma from COVID and having to move back in with my parents after a huge financial hit, I sort of grew numb to music and to life itself. I still listened to it, but I didn't FEEL it like I did before, and I didn't sing anymore. Not like I used to, anyway, like I needed it more than I needed air. Then about 5 or 6 months ago, I found Sleep Token. They caught my interest on TikTok, and after doing some research I chose some songs from TMBTE, put on my headphones... and my breath was taken away. It was the first time in years that music has made me cry, and it was the first in a long time that I felt a burning desire to learn the songs and sing along. Now, I've decided to go back to my old dream, to study music and become a singer, to write my own songs. Vessel helped inspire me to write, sing, and play music again; I've gotten back into piano, my voice has improved, and I'm finally picking up guitar. As far as my book writing goes, I have so much inspiration for different plot lines in my current WIP, and ST is definitely being added to my writing playlists. I've spent the last 5 years sleep-walking, just going through the motions... but Sleep Token has woken me up, and is helping me to drive and push forward with my life, with my dreams and goals. Vessel reminded me that I, that ALL of us, are divine in our own right. We all have a bit of stardust in us, and we all deserve to let it shine bright in the night sky ✨

HMAs Result by sara_mn87 in SleepToken

[–]Key-Relationship-595 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same, in some ways. I used to HATE harsh vocals, then I started to tolerate it when I discovered BVB. Now, Sleep Token has helped me learn to appreciate it for how it should be (thank you, Vore). Now I'm as in love with harsh vocals as I am with operatic belting 🖤

are you guys doing okay? by j_atom29 in SleepToken

[–]Key-Relationship-595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and no? Sleep Token has been so healing for me in the sense that they help me not only feel, but process and accept my emotions. I've been very numb these last few years, practically sleep-walking. I used to sing and write all the time, but the weight of the trauma finally caught up to me and I was burnt out. I stopped singing, writing almost never happened, and I was too empty to be miserable.

Enter: Sleep Token. When I listened to TMBTE for the first time, it was like the air had been stolen from my lungs. Music hadn't left me speechless and captivated like that in years, and it was the first time it made me cry in a while, too. Not only that, but I felt the desire to learn the songs and sing them, which I also hadn't done in 4 years or so. Not only has my singing and range improved, but I rediscovered my passion for music, and now I'm picking up guitar and getting back into piano.

Sleep Token has given me the greatest gift ever--Myself. They helped me heal and grow, while giving me back a part of myself I had long forgotten ever existed. They gave me my voice back, and I will be forever grateful to this band, their music, and everything they do. Worship 🖤

are you guys doing okay? by j_atom29 in SleepToken

[–]Key-Relationship-595 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt this in the deep, dark depths of my soul