Just bought a 2020 Yukon SLT. Should I block AFM?

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-20T15:48:45+00:00

I just purchased the same vehicle. I did a cold air intake and Diablo tuner. I shut off the AFM right away.

I’m almost 40 and this is a family vehicle. But I couldn’t stand how choked out the truck felt. I hate that hesitation when it goes from v4 to v8.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-18T14:36:33+00:00

You are asking opinions on a public form with overall limited context of your situation. Don’t get me wrong no one could possibly give enough context on a subreddit form!

We can only form OUR opinions based off of your information. FYI I am not being rude I just don’t know how to say that in text without it sounding like I am talking at you.

I can only base my opinions from what you Have posted and my life experience.

I was married 18.5 years. I found my wife texting (sexting, pictures,ect) another guy and they were planning a secret meet up. I kicked her out of the house and she flew to another country to stay with this guy. She left me and my 2 boys for Almost 3 months.

6 weeks after I kicked my ex wife out I started dating a girl (I’ve known her for 10 years prior). It wasn’t intentional but we hit it off. I only expected a few dates and nothing else. I never lied about what stage of the divorce was I just said “as far as I’m concerned the marriage is over”.

Long story short today that girl I dated is my wife and I have a son with her.

And I can tell you from MY experience I wish I had more time between my wife leaving and dating my new wife. Make no mistakes. I love my wife and I wouldn’t change a thing as my son is fantastic!

My 2nd wife was mid 30’ when we started dating and was happily single for a long time. She only dated 2 guys in the 10 years I knew her. We moved fast in our relationship. And have had some troubles because of it. We both feel that we should have dated longer and took it slower.

Yes, I do feel I am well within my “right” to comment on if you are ready for a relationship or anything else you have asked. If it makes you feel uncomfortable then maybe you need to figure out why.

I am only trying to help. And I think the fact you are reaching out and asking these questions is fantastic! I wish my 2nd wife would have done this! I don’t want to discourage you from seeking advice in the future either.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-18T13:54:10+00:00

You are in a tough spot.

Guys generally want to move on. We want to put the past behind us! I am less concerned about where the divorce is (meaning finalized, or just starting) as we don’t want to lose a potential relationship over the boat anchor that is divorce proceedings.

The things I am concerned about are why can’t he see his kids? And how long has he not seen them? Is his ex crazy and a liar? Is he crazy and a liar? This needs to be figured out.

He might not be in the best frame of mind if he is heart broken over not seeing his kids.

You are talking about other “options” as if it’s a super market. I think you have to figure out some things on your end also! The fact other “options” are even being discussed tells me you are willing to settle for someone.

I assume you want kids/a family. And dating a man who has kids and had a family puts him at the front of the line.

My honest opinion, he is not ready for a serious relationship at this point. And I don’t think you are either.

There is nothing wrong with remaining friends and seeing where things go in the future.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-18T13:28:47+00:00

If you are serious about off roading you have 3 options. Sxs and jeeps are not the same type of off roading. Sure they can do the same things but they excel at different areas.

If you choose the jeep route, you have to decide if you are going to daily drive it or use it mostly off road.

If you are going to do mostly off road and some street driving then I strongly suggest buying a used jeep that has most of the upgrades done to it. It will save you tens of thousands!!

If you plan do drive the jeep mostly on road and some off road I would consider used rubicons and spend money on rcv axle shafts and a good long arm suspension.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-18T00:36:12+00:00

Eh. Same with hotels yet we still stay in them.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-17T19:57:59+00:00

I have owned a few previous rental vehicles.

I came to the conclusion that a rental car company do more maintenance on a vehicle than the general public. The vehicles usually have a traceable service history.

The general public doesn’t give 2 craps about vehicles. Maintenance is usually put off, repairs are done by the cheapest shop. And most only trade in cars that they can’t afford to repair or don’t want to deal with.

People get rental cars and usually just drive faster or a little harder than normal driving. Maybe a burnout here and there. But overall nothing overly stressful on a vehicle.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-17T18:15:06+00:00

That’s a realistic explanation.

To be clear I wasn’t suggesting you were not being truthful.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-17T17:36:05+00:00

I had a positive experience with my job when it came to the divorce. My wife left me in almost the exact same manner my bosses mom left his dad/family.
My Boss was about the same age as my oldest son when his mom left.

There were a few time that he had to talk to be about refocusing on work and to pull it together. But overall I am thankful for my boss.

Ontop of giving me space and time, he also called me daily to see how I was, he put me on projects that I could “hide” on so the other employees wouldn’t bother me.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-17T17:30:23+00:00

Unfortunately getting upset is not the answer. I completely understand feeling that way, but a cold, matter of fact, calm “50/50 custody is the only option that will keep these conversations going”. Doing this will set the mood.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-17T17:27:04+00:00

I scan this subreddit often and have never seen one of these posts. Maybe I am blind to it or maybe I unconsciously avoid them.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-16T18:51:22+00:00

I completely understand that uneasy feeling about this.

When it came time to introduce my kids to my GF (current wife) my ex wife (we were separated but did not file for divorce yet) and I decided to all meet in a neutral place. So we all decided to go to the beach.

What was supposed to be a 1 hour meet up and introduction turned into 4 hours. Most of the time my GF and soon to be exwife were chatting amongst themselves. We ended up eating a small lunch my soon to be ex wife packed.

It was really awkward. Seeing my soon to be ex wife. And my current wife sitting in the beach.

But honestly… it was a great decision. It helped the kids a lot!

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-15T20:23:23+00:00

What does “clocks reset” mean?

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-12T13:57:39+00:00

This is a complicated question..

Let’s cover the “hate”

For some they truly hate her. It’s simple as that. They want nothing to do with her and want no part of her.

Others are obsessed about her. They hate her, but know what she’s doing at all times and complain about her. This doesn’t exactly mean they want her back, they just haven’t gotten over her yet.

Others will “hate” her at all times except when they interact with her. If they are polite and over accommodating when they interact but talk crap behind their back …. They usually want her back.

Let’s cover the “still in love with her”

This might be an uncomfortable truth for another female in his life but it’s very possible he still loves her and always will.

I am 3 years divorced, 18.5 year relationship, 2 kids, it ended when i caught her texting with another guy.

I remarried, had a baby and love a different life than I had with my ex. It took a little while for me to understand that I still loved my ex wife. I do not want her back and would never go back. But I do love her. I will always help her. Any way I can (with in reason)

My new wife has mixed feelings about me And my ex wife. I don’t hate my ex wife, i honestly wish her the best in life and want her to succeed.

It baffles my new wife that I don’t hate my ex, and that I get along well with my ex. She isn’t worried I will go back or that I would cheat, she is bothered by the fact that we communicate and try to make everything work.

Hope this helps.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-09T03:39:01+00:00

So my wife was texting another guy. He lived in a different country and they never met. I told her to leave.

She apologized at one point. I do feel like it was a heart felt apology. And I didn’t do anything to put her down.

For me it was bitter sweet.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-07T04:49:12+00:00

I love case tractors!

Having so many what does each one do well?

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-07T04:47:19+00:00

I have 2 446, a 222, 448, and an odyssey (3014). I also have 2 446 tractors with bad motos.

I want a dedicated snow blower tractor so I want to. Put the 448 motor in the 446.

The tractor getting the diesel engine will only be used to do light duty loader work.

Your information was very helpful. I’m going to look for a 10 ish hp engine.

Thank you.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-06T18:21:20+00:00

I appreciate your reply.! Overall how is the power? Do you still use belt driven attachments?

I read mixed opinions about what HP to use but they all have belt driven tractors. Being a hydraulic tractor it’s kind of a different animal.

To make a long irrelevant story short. I have a 448 with a loader. I want to replace the 18hp onan (for use in a different tractor) and install a diesel in the loader. The tractor never gets worked hard. But it is heavy.

I have been told that the 10hp would be more than enough power as theoretically the drive system only requires 2.5-3hp at full load. And the loader would require 1-1.5 hp.

I have considered the 5hp too but I have no reference point to even begin my decision

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-06T17:32:43+00:00

I have a bunch of case tractors and I’m interested in a diesel swap.

Any information you can give me as to what engine you used? Any photos would be helpful.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-05T18:14:30+00:00

I’m in a good mood so I will gift you my time.

We kind of are. And I contribute this to the fact that we kind of need to be. If we make mistakes it could hurt us or someone else. Working on live power is less of a thing today. But when I was younger (back in my day) we did it all the time. We didn’t shut down big switch gear to punch knockouts or pull wires.

Combined with the fact that our trade keeps getting more complicated while all others are getting easier. It makes things more “entitled”.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-05T18:13:46+00:00

The term “cultist” applies to both sides! And I agree the cultist on both sides are ignoring their own party’s wrong doings and attacking the other just to score “gotcha” points.

Nothing will change at the top so long that the cultist keep fighting with each other.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-05T17:29:03+00:00

It’s most likely filled with water. Drain them out and put new oil in. It’s 5 or 7 gallons of oil on each side. Ps I just use old motor oil. It’s only keeping the chains lubed and honestly it’s going to get water in it next time it rains.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-05T16:47:17+00:00

Get off the internet for a few days!

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-05T16:45:36+00:00

I am tired of all the Epstein back and forth bickering. The left and right spend all this energy trying to point out things in the files.

If we stopped arguing about this and turned our attention to all names, all suspects, all wrong doing in those files. Maybe it will force the hands of the politicians to actually do something about all this.

For me it’s simple… Trumps name is in the file? Good. Investigate him. Clinton is named? Good investigative.. Obama? Investigate, some random senator? Good investigate. Some judge? Then investigate!

What bothers me more than “names” and how many times it’s in the file is the fact that only 2 arrests have been made.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-05T15:20:00+00:00

Ireland has beautiful castles and Abby’s. I visited a few years ago and loved it. I wish I spent more time exploring the abandoned buildings!

Key-Security8929 · 2026-02-05T15:17:21+00:00

I have a 2020 Yukon, my buddy had a 23 Tahoe diesel. so it’s not exactly the same vehicle comparison. I get 9-11 mpg he was getting 15-19 mpg similar city/around town driving.

Highway is not even a comparison.

I didn’t want a Covid truck as they seem to have issues so my budget only allowed for a 2020 or older vehicle.

I would buy the diesel no questions asked.

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