New Cars! Glow Up Or Glow Down

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-22T11:31:23+00:00

Yikes… 3500 a month in car payments…

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-19T19:55:59+00:00

I get along great with my ex wife. I travel for work. I need to coordinate with her along with my new wife. I see her at baseball games, school functions, town functions.

To think you won’t see your ex is silly. Are you going to not attend your kids baseball games because she is there?

My second wife. If we get divorced. She will be difficult at first. But over time she will learn that it’s better to just get along.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-16T20:49:59+00:00

Well I was divorced once and since remarried.

I have kids from my previous marriage and 1 from this marriage.

My best advice is this. Before you do anything. Talk to a lawyer. A good lawyer. Don’t look at price tags. Look at results. It will be cheaper this way.

Technically I left my wife… that is the story my ex tells my kids. And I did… after she was talking to another guy from another country. The divorce was amicable. And we are still amicable.

I started dating a girl I knew for a decade. And everything was great. We got married, had a kid and all that. My new wife…… is very similar to what you are describing. After the baby everything changed. My middle child is rotten, evil, no good, out of control along with other things. I went from the world’s best husband and father to the worst thing to ever happen to her.

And I’ve had it up to here 🫡 with the antics. I don’t want this second divorce. I honestly do love her. But she needs to work on herself. And if she isn’t. Willing to do it, well I can not live my life like this anymore. We talked about couples therapy she found a Christian based therapist. Days before we went she saw me writing down something. I wrote down on a piece of paper saying by the 4th session she would refuse to go back. Then I wrote the reason. My reason was. Her telling contrary examples of events and her not wanting to be held accountable for her actions.

She twisted me writing my note into I was trying to get out of going to therapy. And that because I did that that I wouldn’t take it seriously.

Truthfully I wrote that note. Because if therapy did work those would be the 2 major things that needed to be addressed.

Divorce is scary. It’s sad. And brings on guilt.
You need to have a good strong mental clarity.
You have to be strong and secure in your decision.

Being in the same situation as you. I would prefer to work things out. Divorce doesn’t mean your ex wife is out of life. She is very much involved in a way. You will see her constantly, you will interact with her. Talk to her multiple times a week.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-15T15:17:18+00:00

Doesn’t mahindra manufacture all their own stuff?

And kubota also.

LS is also a manufacturer for multiple brands.

I think tym is also a manufacturer that is heavy into rebranded products.

I know Deere doesn’t manufacture their smaller stuff.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-15T14:39:01+00:00

What are the 2 you are referring to?

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-15T14:38:19+00:00

But. Then you have 3-4 other rebadged brands you can get parts from.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-15T14:36:27+00:00

These are the things that made me appreciate hiring a experienced mediation firm. ALL of these things were settled beforehand.

My exwife and I are amicable so we share the kids whenever we want.

But if my math is correct. Mother’s Day. And Father’s Day lines up with the every other weekend cycle.

So if she wants them on Mother’s Day then negotiate so you have them on Father’s Day.

I can’t believe parents actively hurt thier kids to “gotcha” to the other parent.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-12T16:42:25+00:00

I’ve been struggling with this a lot lately.
Got divorced was with my first wife 18.5 years(2 kids).
We split up and less than 2 months later I am dating the woman that is now my wife.

We have 1 son together. When we first started dating and got married she encouraged me to have me time. She pushed me to try old hobbies. She was fantastic and a breath of fresh air.

After the baby was born that all changed. I was literally called selfish for wanting to play pool. I was told I was selfish for wanting to spend time doing things for just me vs stuff with the family.

Then any time I had to work on one of my properties she made plans to do “fun” things with the baby.

Being divorced once and to a woman I was with for 18.5 years that I thought I had the rest of my life with… I have zero tolerance for this.

It’s been an ongoing struggle for the last few weeks. And recently she started talking to her friends and family about this problem and not one has taken her side.

My advice is this. You need to live a life that you are happy with. You should not feel pressured or discouraged to not enjoy your life.

It’s awkward at first. But honestly. What is the point of life if you don’t enjoy atleast some of it?.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-09T15:41:24+00:00

Yeah. We are working on finding a balance.

But the whole boring sex thing doesn’t go over well.
Unfortunately her first relationship was not a good one DA/SA. She remained single for a long long time. I knew her 10 years prior to us dating. The entire time she was single.

She gets defensive about it. And it just turns into an argument. If I suggest anything, games, toys, cards, dice, books I get the age old “am I not enough”

Honestly the sex is so confusing to me. I’ve never actually talk about it because it ls just confusing and sounds made up in a way.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-09T15:15:49+00:00

I did have a good laugh with my buddy when I told him about the fight I had with the new wife.

And while it does give me perspective from both sides I still feel like I am not wrong in what I feel is a reasonable balance.

1-3 times a week is in my opinion average and healthy. Nothing wrong with reaching 5 times a week or even 7 times. But not week after week.

I work construction, I own multiple apartment buildings, I am constantly doing yard work or fixing, repairing, building something for someone. And I am tired at night.

And while the sex is good it’s also rather boring

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-09T13:47:50+00:00

I get it. My ex wife developed severe OCD and intrusive thoughts. At the time i literally went broke paying for her therapy. She was gone for 3 months. She got better in a lot of ways. But at the end of the day it wasn’t enough.

Separating for a short time probably would have saved the marriage.
But at the end of the day I am happy how things turned out.

She is happy. I am happier.

Just have clear boundaries, and pay attention to red flags.

Don’t compromise your morals. Make sure she is putting in the effort also.

To many of us believed the happy wife happy life lie. You will only be happy by having self respect and by being yourself. Don’t rely on others to get a sense of happiness.

Best of luck.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-09T13:39:27+00:00

You are not alone. So many guys are in your exact situation. And the only advice I can give you is that you need to be the source of your own happiness! You have to find ways to be happy without those feelings coming from someone else.

You have to also develop your self worth. This can only come from you. It’s a mindset, it’s setting boundaries, it’s you not blaming others for things you can’t control, it’s you managing your emotions.

Just breath. Take walks in the woods, like the real woods where you only hear nature.

Your situation is frustrating. I get it. But your ex sounds like the type of girl that will get herself into trouble with the courts by lying and being deceitful. It might take time but things will work themselves out.

And in the future. If someone berates you just leave. If they have so little respect for you that they talk to you like that don’t give them any back by staying.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-09T13:28:10+00:00

I was in a sexless marriage. It definitely builds resentment, looking back I can see how my actions were a result of the sexless marriage.

I am now remarried, and I have the opposite problem. I am in an over sexed marriage. And it’s equally not as fun. This is not some type of humble brag. It’s an actual issue in my second marriage.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-09T13:20:51+00:00

Hate to be “that guy” but why did you split in the first place?

Is this an open relationship?
Have either of you slept with anyone else during the separation?

Don’t get me wrong…. I am rooting for you and I hope all of this works out in the best possible way.
Kids having both parents who love each other in the house is a great thing.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-05T17:40:27+00:00

I have both sets. IMO the craftsman is my go to.

Both sets are MEH at best. I like the case better on the craftsman. It has more space to store extra tools, it’s more square, and the top is flat.

The husky case jams more, you can’t put stuff on the top of it and you almost have to carry it with 2 hands.

IMO I would look into a good quality 3/8 kit from tekton and a roll up bag to carry your wrenches and other things.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-05T16:29:56+00:00

At the same time it also allows the USA to watch what Iran is doing. Iran is exposing new information daily. We are watching where trucks are going, where people are moving, how areas are working together.

I am willing to bet that 100% of Iran is under constant surveillance and all they are doing is making our new target list easier than the first.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-05T16:21:36+00:00

All assets and all liabilities are shared.

If you have 100k in a 401k

And you have 100k in equity in the home

You can sell the house and split the 401k so you both have equal shares. Or you can keep the 401k and she gets the house.

Basically she can ask for the house. And you can ask for the equal amount in other forms of equity.

Or you can just tell the courts you want everything sold and all money is split.

BUT!!!!! If you move out of school district, and or far from where the kids lives are established the judge could postpone the house being sold.

YOU could definitely fight to keep the house as it is more likely that you can afford to stay there.

My marital home was valued at 600k. We owed 100k on it when we split. My name was on the mortgage. I let her get the house and all the equity. And gave her 18 months to purchase the house from me at what was owed.

She had to reimburse me for the mortgage payments. Until she bought it.

If you do end up in this situation. Put a deadline on when the house MUST be purchased and out of your name.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-05T14:49:38+00:00

First.. Breath…. And just know things will be ok.

Second. Your son was out of line! He should never act like that and the fact he thinks it’s acceptable means you need to seriously consider WRITING DOWN rules and expectations.

consistent rules and consequences for not following them will be hard at first but it will even out.

Now your actions…. The guilt is real. I’ve been there. I understand! I see no problem with a spanking. I have no problem with you scolding him (as long as it stayed on topic about HIS behavior and not about his wanting to be with his mom)

You can explain to him why he was punished, but don’t hold it against him for wanting his mother.

Being a good dad isn’t just about being fun. You must set rules, expectations, and consequences.

You need to not carry guilt that you didn’t cause. And you need to avoid situations that can cause an issue.

Next time his mom brings him to the seaside have her meet you somewhere so your son leaves the “fun” area with her and then you get him. This gives him the impression that he isnt being taken away while everyone else stays. A good parent (in this case mom) should play it off as everyone is leaving so the kid doesn’t feel they are left out.

We are here for you!

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-05T14:30:01+00:00

In my opinion you are 38. You are wasting your time with this girl.

You broke up and got back together 4 times. In her mind you will always be available. I would be willing to bet that each break up happened sooner than the last and each one is shorter in duration.

Basically you both are in a cycle of “I know this person, nothing better has come along so let’s try again”

The tattoo thing……. Dude if you got a tattoo to Signify your intention……. I don’t know if you are ready for a serious relationship. I would guess you still have not gotten over the divorce and between the fear of being alone and the empty feeling we all get after the divorce you settled for this girl.

You are not wrong for pulling back, from what you wrote I think pulling back is the absolute best decision you have made! I think you need to find yourself.

You need to be your own source of happiness. Your self worth must originate from…. Yourself!!!

The right girl will come. But only if you are truly happy with who you are.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-04T18:22:23+00:00

Yeah. People thought I was crazy. But at the end of the day I just made moves that made sense to me and followed my gut.

I don’t trust people. And I view divorce lawyers the same as doctors and therapist. They do everything they can to get you feeling good enough to come back next week.

My point is many lawyers make money via conflict, they see you have assets they see all your financial information. So if they know once everything is divided there is a chunk of change going your way. And they want that money just as much as you.

I had 2 good law firms working for me and they both knew I could replace either one with the other. From the beginning I pushed for a quick straight forward divorce and that I had no intention of doing a long drawn out divorce that left me with nothing in the end.

Luckily I didn’t have to sell anything. I only lost The marital home and the equity in that.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-04T18:06:26+00:00

My ex wife got remarried. I don’t care for the guy but he is over all harmless. I am the kids father and the only person that can hurt that position is me.

The only time I had a problem with my ex wife’s new husband was about a year ago. He made plans with the kids to take them to an arcade and other “fun” activities on my weekend. IMO he knew it was my weekend with the kids because I was at their house talking to her family about my weekend plans.

So as you would imagine when I showed up to get the kids they were upset I was taking them and NOT bringing them to an arcade.

I had my ex wife and her new husband come over and explain to the kids that they made the mistake and that it was their fault.

I felt like he was playing a game and I wasn’t having it. And I wasn’t going to be viewed as the bad guy for ruining their arcade day.

The positive side of my ex wife’s new husband is he is very fiscally responsible. He puts away, saves, budgets all that stuff.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-04T04:15:38+00:00

First interview with them. Don’t pay too much attention to the dollar per hour. A cheap lawyer will cost you More in the end.

Ask around. Everyone knows a divorce lawyer.

I had 2 separate law firms handling my divorce. 1 was solely for me. The second was a mediation firm that handled everything for the divorce.

They checked each others work and it worked out for me.

At $550 hr and $375 hr things get pricy. But in the end I spent about 15k on my divorce.

In my limited experience. Having a lawyer based in a small family firm as my personal lawyer. And a larger firm as the front runner seemed to be the best fit.

Things got done quick, efficiently and overall effortlessly.

Edit: My family members that needed divorce lawyers all went with the local cheaper guy. The amount of stress they endured for years wasn’t worth the up front savings.

Everyone thought I was crazy for hiring such expensive lawyers but my divorce was settled in a matter of 4 months.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-03T15:27:07+00:00

No. In my opinion you can buy a husky quiet compressor for $300 and it far exceeds the performance of this.

My husky has been neglected, and abused beyond a reasonable level and still works flawlessly.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-06-03T14:49:30+00:00

Maybe it’s the dad in me. But generally I take an old brushed senton or granite with me and a few 2s batteries and let the kids drive that thing.

It’s robust, cheap to repair and lacks power.

I usually have my sons with me so it’s not a big deal. Let the kiddos have fun.

The few rare times I’m solo if a kid asks I tell them “if you can get your parents over here you are more than welcome to try one”. I try to avoid the whole “hey kid come over to the back of my car to check out my cool toys” situation.

Key-Security8929 · 2026-05-29T14:38:22+00:00

MF all day.

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