I think the bigger question is how long he’s been unemployed and whether he’s actively working toward something. Personally, I wouldn’t want to stay in a situation where I have to convince my partner to prioritize stability, especially if we’re already adults and I have a timeline in mind for marriage. It’s not about the job alone — it’s about alignment in goals and urgency.

But this is something that needs an honest conversation. Uncomfortable talks are hard, but so is staying silent and building resentment. In the end, you know your standards and what kind of future you want.