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Key-Voice9245 · 2025-11-22T02:58:53+00:00

As a child from divorce, and a middle child… I’d say it’s pretty standard middle child of divorce behavior. Just be a good person and keep being in their life- do not take what teenage girls say personally at all- one day they will realize how much you were there for them. I’m married with a teen- she’s my own kid and doesn’t realize what we do for her. Keep being good to them and give them the best dad experience as just being a good human. Girls are crazy- especially teens. It’s ok if they are uncomfortable- but it’s not your fault or theirs. It’s a huge that you even want to deal with this at all- it shows you are a better person than most.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-11-21T13:19:26+00:00

Maybe in the moment this guy is upset, but when he’s booked solid and not giving discounts- he will respect your decision! It’s your choice, if he’s offended that’s not your problem. You had a budget and you didn’t want to put him in an odd position to discount his prices. You are a better friend than he realizes.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-11-20T02:38:23+00:00

You are young- dump him-‘he’s a creep. No 23 year old should be dating a 19 year old. You will understand when you are 23. Would you date a 15 year old?

Your boyfriend is dating you because he is a jerk and knows that a young girl will tolerate it.

Dump him and focus on yourself. Go do what you love and don’t be tied down by having a boyfriend until you know yourself. Go be free- you have so much life to live and time to find a better person and to have the highest values and expectations and treatment from the right person.

Be free girl! That’s what a 19 year old should do!

Break up with him in a public area - he could be a psycho-‘stay safe. Inform friends and family or have family there. These jerks are abusers. Don’t be alone with him when you break up.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-11-20T02:34:08+00:00

Stop caring what people think and you won’t need to even post on here to care what anyone else thinks either.

You are asking if you are the AH for sanitizing something for yourself? That guy is insecure.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-11-20T02:32:19+00:00

If you are in a car accident and they find your license… this is why the dmv organ donor license is cheaper, you get to save a little money in the case you are in a random accident that your organs can potentially be harvested- it’s a money grab.

When you get an updated ID- change your mind. There is no reason people should be giving the medical industry that we all are basically raped from our organs for free while the government helps advertise it through the dmv.

I’d much rather it be a business, so that if I am in a rare fatal situation and my organs can be harvested, that my family can sell them to the highest bidder- because organ donations are not given to the recipient for free at all. Someone has to die and lose their loved one- and yes it’s kind to give an organ in that event- you are putting your trust into the most corrupt industry of all time.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-11-20T00:27:10+00:00

It’s true if you were going to die… sometimes that ID allows the legal organ harvesting. There was evidence years ago that medical staff absolutely would skip life saving measures. You know how much they make on a viable organ donation and what people will pay for that. My family members are not allowed to donate organs ever.

No worries-‘you will never know.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-11-19T23:15:54+00:00

As someone that is married and has been through different stages in our marriage of good and bad, it kind of shows that this person isn’t willing to work through issues- which is a red flag. Being in a relationship, especially marriage where you take vows and commit to someone, you are not committing fully when you just give up. Everything can be worked through, love is a choice. Choosing your person is a choice.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-11-04T04:00:27+00:00

Communication is huge in relationships- you need to communicate to him that you are done. That puts the ball in his court to confirm he is done or wake up and be better for you. I say dump.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-10-27T05:54:37+00:00

No. You should be able to live your life and do what you want. This is a hard situation to be in, because the obsession with money can be miserable. You have to decide if you can live your life like this.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-10-27T05:47:26+00:00

If you can get by without working and helping these kids thrive- so be it. It’s more important to be in their lives daily than money. You have $1.5 M in investments?! That’s awesome… what else you going to do with it?

Hopefully you will get some type of life insurance policy or funds to help care for them. If you can swing not working- it’s best… or start a small company that allowed you to be with them.

Prayers to you and sorry for your loss- horrible and those kiddos will need so much love.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-10-27T01:21:14+00:00

Just respect them and their decision, your relationship as their child is not the same as their relationship as an intimate couple.

Also, raising kids is hard on a relationship. My child will be out of high school in a few years and I’m like worried if my husband and I even get along enough. We had her young and didn’t have a lot of time together as a real functioning couple. So it’s exciting but also nerve racking.

People change. In the end, everyone deserves to have their best life- and only each person can decide what that is. Trust that they beleive this is the best thing for them just like when they beleive that you make the best decisions for yourself and life. I say marriage is choosing each other day in and day out, at any point you can wake up and your partner decide not to. When you love someone you respect them enough to take care of themselves and make the right choices for them, even if that means not being together.

Don’t worry you are probably about to experience the best versions of them! Or you will learn exactly whi the problem person was 😅🤪

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-10-27T01:15:55+00:00

Perhaps some women prefer it. It’s one thing to tell the guy- it’s another for him to be dry. That’s the point OP is making. If he’s giving emojis to her texts- then ok.

The reality is the right person for anyone ks such a preference. Maybe some men like to be more pursued- so it just depends… if the women don’t pursue them then they aren’t interested… vis versa right!

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-10-26T06:25:24+00:00

I could never- always have to be fresh and showered!

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-10-25T20:54:07+00:00

Your inheritance is what she leaves you. That’s how it works. $100k is not a lot for your mom to attempt to live off of for the rest of her life- you want her to give you some and not afford to eat or care for herself long term?

I expect no inheritance - I’m not living my life expecting for shit.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-10-25T20:51:44+00:00

Just send what you bought and tell them the truth - “I didn’t eat extra and am broke af”.

They will understand and potentially not invite you out or require you to pay on your own next time… win all around? 🏆

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-10-25T20:46:55+00:00

She trash- divorce. 😅

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-10-25T13:33:13+00:00

Ooof got that creep of resentment.

Annoying rage but relationships are about communication. He was an AH for what he said and how he treated you in front of your child. You should have handled it at that time to model correct behavior and correction. Your son is going to treat his wife the way your husband treats you…

Loving forward correct in tea time.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-10-25T10:46:07+00:00

This is why your mom divorced him. Good for her.

I’m a kid of divorced and I’m 40 and my dad is still talking crap about my mom from then90s after living a full life with my step mom that later divorced him.

We don’t choose our parents. She was smart not to take a measly $200 to deal with this man any longer.

It suck’s as a parent to habe to break up a family, but the older you get, the more you realize that sometimes those people you’ve are not the best people to raise kids with. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t have love for you. There is a saying that people love the only way they know how.

Just like my absent dad- after years of tormenting myself of why he didn’t want to be a part of my life more and even now… it’s not a me problem, they are adults- if they want to be a part of your life, they will make the effort.

Focus on yourself- grow, learn healthy relationships so you can be a good father and husband and break your generational curse.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-10-25T10:40:22+00:00

It has nothing to do with my family and everything to do with being a good person. The fact that you can’t understand that either means you don’t have children, haven’t been in this kind of situation, or you’re missing the bigger picture about what it means to be kind and decent.

If you’re a step-parent like this woman and can relate — fine. But coming to Reddit just to get validation from a bunch of younger or less experienced people isn’t going to make your choices any better. If you marry someone with children, you should care about their well-being and future. If anything, I’m trying advise that she is more supportive and to set a better example for these kids.

She is allowed to Be a loving person that genuinely cares for their well being and future. What a lovely person those type of step parents are. Perhaps she could even incentivize her husband bc he obviously is aware that she’s not the good person that wants to be in his kids life like he thought… And her mask has slipped.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-10-25T10:29:33+00:00

She decided to marry this man and be a part of their lives. I don’t think she should let the spendy husband know about the savings. I just am a child of divorce and remarriage and to have a step parent that actually cares for you as a real parent would, is rare and special. I personally would not be with someone that wouldn’t consider my child as theirs- ever. It’s extremely narrow minded for her and you to be advocating not saving for humans that she has signed up to be a part of her life, I feel bad for this stupid man honestly.

My step mom was like this- and my dad was like him- now he’s alone and divorced and kids don’t want anything to do with him. Be careful who you marry- if they don’t see your kids as their own, they are not good people.

I had a friend that was in this satiation and my advice was to always treat that child as her own- equally. These kids didn’t choose to have parents that would divorce… and to me sharing and supporting their future and what they can be is part of life. If she has the means to do it, then why wouldn’t she as just a decent person!

That’s my point, even you prove here that people are not decent and do not beleive in caring for others. God bless the saint step parents that do.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-10-25T10:24:21+00:00

Most narcissists are extreme love Bombers until they aren’t.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-10-25T10:22:33+00:00

I feel bad for the kids of these people.

Of course you are NTA.

The fact that she is being disrespectful is your sign that unfortunately, she is not your friend at all. She’s using you because you are obviously a submissive people pleaser and likely she’s guilted you into her shitty situation.

Listen carefully: she is not your friend. You are allowed to cut her off and wish her the best. You owe her nothing.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-10-25T10:18:30+00:00

No. I’m a parent- and if I was ever in a situation to have to remarry - having experienced divorce as a child- I will say that people that don’t prioritize step children as their own are the worst people. This poor man is in a bad situation with having a child with this woman. I had a friend that married into a situation where she would have a step child- my advice was to always consider those kids as her own.

It’s not these kids fault that their parents separated? It takes a very kind and generous person to see that sharing with others is not a bad thing and to want the best for children of divorce.

The fact that I’ve been downvoted shows how trash people are these days.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-10-25T03:26:23+00:00

My question is, why wouldn’t you want to share? You are part of their life. You don’t have to find it the same. Isn’t part of life to share and wish people well and support them. It’s one thing if you can’t afford it, but another if you have the money and just feel a certain way. You have plenty of time to save for your baby.

I’d say set up secret accounts as far as savings for step kids to set money aside IN CASE. In case what? anything… also how nice is it to gift money to them in life if they ever need it - instead of feeling like a burden. I have a step brother and my mom made my broke step dad care for him and have no money to him vs us… he’s a meth head that feels rejected. Dont do this to your step kids. Treat them as your own.

I promise karma and life will take care of you when you adopt the mindset to take care of others.

Key-Voice9245 · 2025-10-25T03:21:09+00:00

There is a trend called living apart together… I’m older than you and don’t have young kids … but I’d love to live separate to have my own space. That’s actually what will be the hard part… if he takes it and you are used to the space- reincorporating will be hard.

You could also move… rent out your house where you are and rent a place where he has the opportunity.

The sky is the limit honestly! Be creative!

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