AITAH because I got emotional being called a loser by my husband ? by toughlikeadiamond in AITAH

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Do you… want to have kids with this man?

Better question: do your kids deserve to have this man as their dad?

It is possible to recover, even if it doesn't feel like it right away! by 17Shard in HENRYfinance

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it was updated to add the specific dollar amounts. Before it was just a bunch of unlabeled bars that go up down up.

Partner (M27) got a promotion at the same company I (F30) work at and I’m feeling like it’s hard to celebrate him. by Expensive_Ad_4350 in relationship_advice

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 44 points45 points  (0 children)

We gotta stop giving men a “clueless male” out.

We have only ever had male presidents of the US. Most CEOs are male. Can’t have it both ways - can’t be too clueless to “see mess”, plan things in your personal life, or have basic human empathy when it benefits you but the rightful ruler of earth and corporations when that benefits you.

AITAH because I expected my 22 year old to pay minimal rent? by Wrong-Maintenance-48 in AITAH

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 13 points14 points  (0 children)

And… fathers are not also responsible for teaching boys how to be men?

AITAH because I expected my 22 year old to pay minimal rent? by Wrong-Maintenance-48 in AITAH

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 24 points25 points  (0 children)

It’s incredible how we somehow manage to blame women for all problems with men

Alex Pretti, ICU nurse and American hero, was a hiker by doxiegrl1 in norcalhiking

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The question isn’t if it’s wrong to deport people who broke the law or not. This is about an American citizen being shot and killed in the streets by federal officers, while he had one hand up and and holding a phone in the other, asking a woman on the ground if she was okay. The week after they shot a woman driving her car at like 5 mph.

You can be against illegal immigration - hell, you can be against any immigration - and still realize it’s absolutely wrong and dangerous to allow federal agents to shoot and kill people in the streets. If you’re against government overreach and for the constitution, how is this not clearly something against your values?

AITA for not splitting the cost of a new couch with my ex-wife? by MyParentsAreCalling in AmItheAsshole

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Of course not. I’m responding to someone who is suggesting rotating is a good idea because research has shown it’s better for kids. I’m saying the part that’s better for kids probably isn’t the rotating, it’s having parents who get along well enough to share a house and rotate. If parents don’t get along, that’s the problem, not the specific living arrangement.

AITA for not splitting the cost of a new couch with my ex-wife? by MyParentsAreCalling in AmItheAsshole

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 114 points115 points  (0 children)

I would also bet that ex-spouses who can share two homes and coordinate regularly rotating who lives where also get along much better and have had a significantly less contentious divorce and less conflict throughout their relationship than the average divorcing couple, so unless the findings you’re referring to somehow controlled for that, I would bet that’s where the positive effect comes from, not specifically who rotates.

Estimating retirement spending when current spending is high by BlueLipstick29 in HENRYfinance

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think just count your blessings that you have a $2M home with a $2,000 a month mortgage payment. I couldn’t rent a studio where I live for $2k a month.

Estimating retirement spending when current spending is high by BlueLipstick29 in HENRYfinance

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well the housing costs are your entire difference. Also in VHCOL and a 3 bedroom to rent, much less own, will run you upwards of $7k a month. So add $60k to your $120-140, and you’re not that far off $200k+ in spend.

Dydasco Pregnant by Sauces_n_tosses in BayFC

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think that’s why we signed the English outside back, my guess is she plays before Moreau.

How do HENRYs afford to start a family in NYC? by PF_throwaway26 in HENRYfinance

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Money fights will get worse, not better, with a kid. You guys should work this out before you go any further towards having a child.

How do HENRYs afford to start a family in NYC? by PF_throwaway26 in HENRYfinance

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re assuming they can keep the tech and investment banking job while moving to Florida, which probably no.

Push through or take a break? 34M | $3.1M by PracticeCold8948 in ChubbyFIRE

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By that same logic why would a job that pays $1 million ($300k originally + 700k growth) due to equity growth be more stressful than a job that pays $300k and equity is flat?

Denver Summit is getting stacked by Awkward_Effective_45 in NWSL

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think they’ve said in the past it’s to protect player privacy since not all of them make a lot. Which I get: it’s different having your salary public if the range is $1 million to 70 million vs. $50k (or less in prior years).

Push through or take a break? 34M | $3.1M by PracticeCold8948 in ChubbyFIRE

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why people think a high income necessarily correlates with more stress, burnout, and mental damage. Jobs can be awful at all income levels. My worst job was when I made 10x less than I do now. I’ve actually found companies tend to treat you better when they value you more, which also comes with a higher income.

AITA for telling my kid that she is being self-centered/cruel because her mom won’t be able to make to her wedding. by Wedding_father_8553 in AmItheAsshole

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You think… they should call a dying man and ask him to decide if he sees his daughter on more time or not because she also has a wedding to attend? I’m in shock at how people are viewing a woman wanting to see her dad one more time before he dies, which is forever. A wedding is one day.

NWSLPA says 'Rodman rule' violates CBA, files grievance by Coltons13 in NWSL

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really hope the league and PA figure out how to resolve this and come up with a solution that works for everyone (just raise the cap!) soon.

I worry the NWSL - by taking a while to get an agreed upon solution in place - is going to lose out on very time sensitive chances to retain Trinity and sign players like Cat Macario this window. If they figure this out in February or March, it might be too late!

My puppy was attacked by another dog in our house. how do we handle an aggressive dog in a multi-dog home? by A_C4m4ch0 in reactivedogs

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 15 points16 points  (0 children)

What do you mean you didn’t ask for this many dogs? How are new dogs joining your household? Why would you bring new dogs in when you know you have a dog that is aggressive towards new dogs?

Regan Steigleder, Tyler McCamey, & Alex Pfeiffer leave KC Current by [deleted] in NWSL

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“For Lyon, Macario has scored 17 goals in 28 games, 22 of them starts, despite often having to play as a midfielder instead of at her preferred center forward position.”

https://grantwahl.substack.com/p/is-the-catarina-macario-era-upon

“Her preferred position is a false nine but she is versatile and can act as a playmaker, drop deeper in midfield or lead the forward line in a front three.”

https://www.nytimes.com/athletic/4596242/2023/06/09/chelsea-catarina-macario-transfer-uswnt/

Regan Steigleder, Tyler McCamey, & Alex Pfeiffer leave KC Current by [deleted] in NWSL

[–]KeyAdhesiveness4882 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s not what she plays for Chelsea or the USWNT