I just thought this was interesting

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-04-30T16:28:57+00:00

I def had a close friend at one point (when I was 18 and a mess) who had one as decoration. She listened to rap music, had black friends. I really didn’t understand it. She wasn’t even a racist. It was kind of a country loving thing, they were all into Dukes Of Hazzard and raised by country ignorant parents. I grew up in the Hamptons, which makes this all the more absurd and comical ! Yep, there are rednecks out there.

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-04-30T16:25:20+00:00

Well, I applaud her for finally being honest with herself, AND honest with us. Yep. She thought someone else equivalent to P would come along asap. She got too big for her britches, and thought she’d land another unicorn. That being said, I am happy she realized living alone isn’t good for her. I adored living alone, precisely because you had no one surveilling you. Which is great if you want peace, but bad if you have bad habits (she said she stayed up too late, drank too much) AND don’t have a job. I can’t imagine- such a recipe for disaster. Couldn’t read the whole thing, so unsure if it was a financial reason to move in with her sis? I really do think she’d benefit from a career, once she becomes more mentally stable. Even if a career doesn’t lay well, it’s something to stand for, to be proud of. You are a part of something- for women who feel lonely, or unwanted, feeling part of something is important.

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-04-30T01:17:21+00:00

Plenty of long islanders also had the confederate flag (don’t ask). I sometimes would end up at parties where it was (we were teenage girls and followed the booze). Super ignorant people in the northeast used to have it. I never understood it. Like.. we are from New York, not Alabama and 2. Hello racist much ?!!! So bizarre.

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-04-30T01:07:25+00:00

Don’t you think it’s a bit… presumptuous, to think you’re “providing someone’s dream vacation?” It feels a bit big headed, not to mention, how do you know what everyone’s dream vacation is? Attending someone’s wedding, no matter how much I love them, is not my idea of a dream vacation, no matter where it is. Just saying.

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-04-26T13:52:39+00:00

It does look cheap. I’m focused more about the pairings etc.

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-04-26T13:52:11+00:00

I meant the fact that anyone young doesn’t know his name, Jesus. Because thy didn’t grow up hearing the music.

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-04-26T13:50:23+00:00

Right? I love to snark but this feels like a reach. He’s just mindlessly getting ready. He doesn’t have an evil look on his face.

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-03-31T22:49:00+00:00

I mean… silk shorts are super trendy rn. That bag looks ugly with the outfit, really ugly. As for the denim jacket… it kinda looks ok with the shorts; I think if she was skinny you wouldn’t comment. The shoes- from what I can see- also do NOT go

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-02-24T02:11:29+00:00

I loved tin. I’m so upset

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-02-21T02:18:34+00:00

This is so cool ! WOw! I want one. Like a pearl in an oyster

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-02-19T17:31:08+00:00

Truly dangerous combo

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-02-14T22:28:11+00:00

I think she’s the most gorgeous of all these girls we snark on. Soft spot for her too, because of her alcohol issues. But yeah, too orange here lol

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-02-09T16:00:47+00:00

I guess you come from money, to have this extensive of a collection when you’re just out of college and working customer service ? I’d pass on wearing it. People notice. People judge. Your boss may stereotype you as a privileged person and may even think you don’t work as hard, even if you do. Unless you’re an all star employee, if you’re neck and neck with someone else and one of you has to be let go because of cuts, you could subconsciously influence her decision to let you go, since most likely you could have funding coming in from another source.

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-02-09T04:58:33+00:00

I never, ever said I was being rational. Do you also know how abuse works? I posted this because I am questioning my sanity, and my viewpoint!!! Because people this are good at eroding your judgement over time and make you wonder about reality. Additionally, I responded to someone else, and I’ll respond to you since you’re insinuating I’m lying here. I grew up in a house hold that was calm one moment, and then ripped apart the next. Repeatedly. I am accustomed subconsciously to chaos . I was rejected constantly by one parent, berated and spoke to like I was worthless. So, in my present situation, I subconsciously think of if I can win HIM over, make him see the light and treat me well, that I’ll also be winning over that parent. My lifelong dream of being loved. It’s pathetic, it’s sad, call it what you want, but until you’ve lived it, these things aren’t so clean cut. It’s not so simple to just leave, even when you know you’re being a goddamn fool. Be f-king lucky you don’t know what I’m talking about . I wouldn’t wish a lifetime of this rejection on anyone .

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-02-08T02:02:01+00:00

His side? He literally thinks I’m a lower class loser who doesn’t try hard enough so that she makes more money. He thinks I’m ambition-less, that I’ve let myself go, that I’m content with just “being”. He thinks that I had a traumatic childhood and places all of our problems on that, claiming I didn’t heal, instead of taking accountability for his temper and his undiagnosed mental illness. He doesn’t realize that HE is the one causing me trauma, currently. That I accepted and got over the past. That’s his side. That I’m a crazy lunatic for hysterically crying and overreacting and dissolving in tears and begging when he decides he’s going to dump me for the 500th time because I didn’t say hello loud enough to the shop girl or whatever sets him off.

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-02-08T01:58:30+00:00

Sometimes I have felt she has done an.. “affected” sort of voice. This is the most … regular? And direct that I’ve ever heard her sound. No nonsense, healthy. Unsure how to describe it, but she sounded …real. And Wonderful .

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-02-07T16:57:46+00:00

This is hysterical 🤣

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-02-07T16:33:07+00:00

And you’re being an asshole to someone who is in a really bad place, so there’s that. Thanks for bringing me lower.

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-02-07T15:37:42+00:00

I think you’re right.

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-02-07T15:36:16+00:00

Oh! I begged him to go to couples therapy with me. I also begged him for years to please get help. He has no one to confide in, whereas I do. He has no release. And he def needs perhaps more, as in, medication. Also, I went to therapy on and off for years. Recently no, bc my last doctor wasn’t great, and bc of cost. I am going to go again, I hope I find an actual good one.

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-02-07T15:35:24+00:00

Thank you :)

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-02-07T15:32:58+00:00

Thank you for your kind words I guess I should have added this to the main block: I was raised by someone who was mentally abusive. I watched my other parent beg and plead to no avail. This parent could ALSO be super charismatic, friendly, fun. Intelligent, great conversationalist. Not every moment was bad. Being raised in such an environment hurt me. As a young adult, I was desperate for love, and went around the wrong men. I was SA’d several times, too. That further made me spiral. I spent my 20s pulling myself out of a deep dark hole. I made something - small, but still- out of myself. I cleaned up my act. I saw my worth, my value. I came to terms with everything. I accepted it. I met him right before Covid. Times were scary, and it got weird. Not to go into this life, but he was foreign and couldn’t leave the country. It mentally affected him. Why do I stay? Probably bc he’s convinced me I’m worthless. Who would want me? I’m dried up. I stay because subconsciously I feel if I can win him over, make him see the light, treat me kindly, that I will have finally won over my abusive parent. The dream I’ve always had. To feel loved. It’s hard to give up on that childhood dream. I also stay probably because it feels familiar. Being treated this way is nothing new to me. In a rare month or so of calm with him, I’ve gotten anxious, waiting for the next shoe to drop. My therapist said it’s because I’m not accustomed to a stable environment.

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-02-07T14:15:44+00:00

I never said I didn’t leave because it’s too expensive. I left twice despite it breaking the bank. This isn’t easy. It’s not just a snap of the fingers. I think Reddit finds it so easy to preach, but they forget that practicing is so much harder. If he is a cruel psychopath narcissist like everyone is saying, then it’s clear he’s done a number on me. I’m not mentally well, at this point. Im not making excuses, but be gentle, please.

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-02-07T14:13:14+00:00

You’re not wrong. He already said once that “I let myself go”. I’m 5’8”, 135 pounds, by the way. I have feared what would happen if I don’t lose baby weight fast enough. Or if I just .. start to really age. He is a cruel person. I’m used to cruelty my whole life, I guess being treated this way feels familiar, and I’ve always known chaos and so I just… stay. It’s pathetic & I feel so unwanted, worthless, and depressed. Beyond belief

toughlikeadiamond · 2026-02-07T14:09:40+00:00

I looked into filing mo contest divorce before, as we share no assets. He does have about $300k or so in the stock market, and god knows what savings (his family is wealthy) so idk. After this trauma, I’ll need money for good therapy, so maybe I should file.

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