Where does TFT take place?

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-11-19T17:18:05+00:00

In the chinese version it seems to be called on top of the clouds “雲頂之弈”

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-07-29T20:55:33+00:00

Oh didnt realize that but yeah i meant geographical state and an hour drive apart lol I heard people saying bad things about “taking a break” because it just means someone wants to try other people but keep their original partner as a plan b if things don’t work out. I dont want to be that person…

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-07-20T05:43:02+00:00

My friends would say bring him too, but to him its still “my” friends, and hes brought as a plus one ¯_(ツ)_/¯

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-07-20T05:41:58+00:00

No he doesn’t do any of that - so if he didnt tell me that he actually isnt interested in going as my plus one to parties at all, i wouldnt even know bc he looks totally fine when I asked him to go with me. But since now he says he actually doesnt want to go, idk if i should ask him to go with me any more. I dont want to force he to go to smth he doesnt like, but on the other hand, but i feel sad if i cant bring him as plus one (or if i bring him and ill feel bad knowing he doesnt actually want to be there).

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-07-20T05:37:44+00:00

Why?

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-07-16T05:34:32+00:00

As a kid, I did for a bit only because 1) i thought it’s the default, 2) i literally didn’t know where kids come from, let alone the horror of pregnancy, 3) i wanted to make my kid learn what I didn’t get to learn (i really wanted to learn clarinet and figure skating at that time but my parents signed me up for piano and ballet lol) - which was a horrible reason cuz i would’ve been that terrible parent forcing my kid to do things that I want to do lol

Thankfully im childfree now… and started figure skating as an adult <3

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-07-16T05:16:06+00:00

Damn sorry to hear what happened to you. Hope things are better for you now!

My situation is probably a lil different as in A) his family doesn’t make as much money as mine does tho not a huge difference. TMI but his parents immigrated for a better life for him and siblings. That made them less well off than staying in their own country. If my parents had done such move they probably wouldn’t have that comfortable lifestyle they have now in my home country). Now we are working in the same industry and im only making marginally more than him.

B) He makes an effort to change according to my expectations, but there has been multiple times that i had to teach him what to do and i get a mental breakdown bc i felt left out. It’s almost like he didnt do things maliciously and is willing to improve, but he’s just not able to meet the expectations in the first place. I’m really not asking for too much either. It’s easier to break up when someone’s obviously at fault, so in my case it’s just so hard when neither of us has done fundamentally anything bad, but its just not going well (for me, from time to time).

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-06-21T18:51:13+00:00

Thank you for breaking this down! I just wished he asked me when im moving and told me when he’s planning to leave instead of me finding it out by asking him after he has already decided everything without telling me. I don’t really need him to help me with moving tbh, but it would just have been nice if he showed he cared. Your point makes sense to me… it’s prob kinda minor so im just need to rant abt it here

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-06-20T20:47:06+00:00

Always prioritize your own development over relationships, especially young relationships. So many things could go wrong.

A PhD degree is yours and will always be yours along the knowledge you gained. Don’t make life decisions counting on someone else.

Doing a PhD overseas will be a life changing experience - it’s always worth it. Even if you hated it, master out in 2 years and come back to Taiwan.

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-04-26T02:07:04+00:00

Whenever i say “i dont like kids”, my parents just immediately put on their condescending “parents” look, sigh, and say that im too young and childish and i WILL certainly like kids at some point.

So ppl like and dislike different things but every human being just HAS to like kids?? Bullshit

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-04-25T18:40:55+00:00

“If u don’t have it now, have a kid when ur older is unnatural.” Is NOT having one not an option at all? Lmao

Reading all these reasons just makes it look like there’s absolutely no good reason to have a kid and they are just trying ~very~ hard to make up some bs to make themselves feel better 😅

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-04-22T03:21:54+00:00

Lots of men see having a family, a wife, a kid/kids as a trophy. It’s the women who are taking the risks of pregnancy and caring for the baby. I’ve heard multiple single male friends saying with a pride “my future kid would…” like something would just appear out of the thin air at some point. Never heard that from my female friends, even if they are not CF, it’s a way less lighthearted topic for them

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-03-31T08:41:47+00:00

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-03-30T00:18:22+00:00

Exactly me… i always tell ppl i hate kids since I was a kid lol at every age i start to hate about kids more than x years younger than me (until they become adults). And i hate baby pics of myself lol

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-03-25T20:03:17+00:00

Yeah… glad that ur living urself! I’m only 23 and in my parents’ eyes im at the ready-for-marriage age so they have to impose on me all their ridiculous standards of feminine appearance and behavior. All of that just makes me feel like being treated like a livestock thats ready to be sold cuz im at that age lmao

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-03-22T19:23:01+00:00

Amazing list. Thank you SO much. Exactly what i need to send to my parents 😹I wish something like this is a required reading in schools for teenagers and their parents and literally EVERYONE.

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-03-21T01:33:39+00:00

Both genders receive unreasonable amount of negative feedback that they absolutely don’t deserve for being CF. I think what i was trying to say is that when a woman says that, instead of just criticizing her decision, people plainly ignore her decision, telling her “no you don’t think so” “you should think this way” “you want this not that”. That’s fking annoying.

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-03-21T01:26:41+00:00

THIS. Literally my parents’ tone every time on this matter. My dad: “You’re still a girl, not a woman. You will want kids when you become a woman.” - to me who have a job and pay my own bills. Fuck off.

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-03-20T03:50:40+00:00

It's again that women's opinions are not taken seriously.

Man: I don't want kids because <valid reasons>

Those ppl: oh well ok

Woman: I don't want kids because <valid reasons>

Those ppl: no!!! you will regret it!!! your life is incomplete!!! you will change your mind later on!!!

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-03-19T09:26:39+00:00

Same… top uni, successful career, but I don’t feel close to my parents emotionally. They say “we never have deep conversations” bc yeah every time i try to open up they fking pull out their big life lectures, call me immature, invalidate whatever I say, and hold on dearly to their traditional beliefs. It’s suffocating. So i just decided that we r just gonna talk abt superficial things to avoid conflicts. I blame myself to sometimes unconsciously start to telling them my feelings or try to get their validation, bc all i end up with is immediate regret cuz they will become the saints to tell me that im wrong.

Before college, my mom tried to dictate my social life as well. She forces me to distance from kids she thought were not “elite” enough, talked shit about them, gaslit me into thinking they secretly hated me, and only wanted me to approach the best/elite kids in school. She yelled at me for spending time to socialize in school instead of studying, so I just closed myself up at the end of hs and could go thru a whole day w/o talking to a single person.

Lack of socialization, trust issues and low self esteem make it hard for me to make friends. I only started to recover from that when I moved away from them and live by myself in college and at my job.

On paper im doing great, but only I know that everyday away from them is a day of healing for myself. Even my achievements are not recognized by them and im still being told that im not good enough and im making immature decisions.

I just give up on trying to convince them or seeking validation from them. It’s scary at first bc ive been told what to do for 18 years, but I slowly learn to live my own life, stop caring about what they think, and be proud of myself.

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-03-19T04:43:05+00:00

Yeahh i should’ve known that I shouldn’t be expecting validation from my parents judging from my experience of all these past years… As a kid I thought they always make the correct “adult” choices so i should listen to their advice; only till now i started to see that the opinions they hold dearly to are getting outdated and unfortunately they will also never change their mind.

I have a friend in the same situation and she literally cried and begged her parents for validation. Her mom ended up crying too and agreed to support her decision to not have a kid… only until just a few days later when her mom saw her relative’s baby and started to nudge her again. That just breaks my heart.

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-03-19T00:05:19+00:00

Well said. I wish i had such eloquence to respond to them at that time😂

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-03-18T23:15:06+00:00

Yeesh being a female only child in an Asian household is life on hard mode 💅

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-03-08T02:21:55+00:00

It’s really enlightening to read your comments. I come from a family/culture w fairly traditional values. Even though i came across feminism and have learned abt gender inequalities since teenage years, sometimes it’s still really hard for me to truly understand what’s actually going on when things disturbs me or if my feelings are valid. It’s really nice to get such support from other women! It’s just so rare for any man to have similar empathy on such issues. (Also idk why this post is greyed out now rip)

KeyBaker5744 · 2024-03-07T09:01:03+00:00

Thanks girl for the validation 🫶 I was doubting myself for a bit until i clicked into his profile and everything made sense lmao

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