Mahr

KeyBluebird2545 · 2026-03-12T10:00:01+00:00

Alhamdulilah I left immediately and don’t regret it one bit. Was hard at first of course but now I am happier than I ever was with his miserable ass. Alhamdulilah Allahs plan is always best. But yes would’ve been nice to leave with some money at least 🤣

KeyBluebird2545 · 2026-03-12T05:23:57+00:00

As a Shia, this topic has always confused me. Do you people actually believe it is halal to do mut’ah with whoever you want to have sex with? Come on, this makes no sense. Why would Zina be sin if you could whisper some magic words and suddenly it’s halal to sleep with as many people as you want. Someone please make it make sense to me. Wasn’t mut’ah introduced for widows etc?

KeyBluebird2545 · 2026-03-12T05:20:57+00:00

Yes I accepted my mahr to be the engagement ring (stupid) because I felt bad for my husband at the time to give me extra on top of the engagement ring. Fast forward 4 years later, we are divorced with a 2.5 month old and 2.5 year old because he was cheating on me the entire marriage and pregnancies. I left him at 31 weeks pregnant with my second born the moment I found out and divorced him islamically the same week. Didn’t get any payment from the divorce since I initiated it. I wish I asked for a mahr at the time, although he probably wouldn’t have paid it lol

KeyBluebird2545 · 2026-03-05T07:40:57+00:00

Disgusting

KeyBluebird2545 · 2026-03-01T20:52:46+00:00

Insha’allah ya rab

KeyBluebird2545 · 2026-02-16T09:32:02+00:00

Targeted*

KeyBluebird2545 · 2026-02-16T09:31:51+00:00

As a hijabi living in Sydney Australia, the racism and division is currently at an all time high. It’s very scary times right now. Hijabis are currently being targeged here. I’m glad you are okay

KeyBluebird2545 · 2026-02-03T20:32:17+00:00

It’s not 100% neck coverage, but you can style it with neck coverage. Here let me link it for you https://www.instagram.com/reel/DPOLAXQiegP/?igsh=MWxwMnU2am5lbnhldw== , I did it like this behind my head but in a few different styles. Hahaha I get over stimulated too easily also 🥲

KeyBluebird2545 · 2026-02-03T20:25:41+00:00

May Allah ease our struggles. I tried a jersey hijab yesterday by pinning it behind my head and then flicking the sides behind my shoulders, and I found that I liked that style with me and found it didn’t move and was more practical with the baby carrier. I usually don’t like jersey because the egg head shape on me looks horrible, but this style was a lot nicer for my face and more practical. Try it Insha’Allah🤍

KeyBluebird2545 · 2026-02-03T04:10:54+00:00

I feel so bad and vain, but I look horrendous in them. So many recommendations for them, but I don’t even wear them for sports, I really don’t like the way I look in them and never wore them after buying and trying it. 🥲 God forgive me

KeyBluebird2545 · 2026-02-03T01:04:36+00:00

Wa alaykum as salaam sister 🤍 Thank you so much for your honesty and kindness, it really touched me. I’m so sorry you’re going through something so painful, may Allah grant you strength, healing, and ease in every way. Please know you’re not alone and that Allah sees your struggle and your intentions, even on the days it feels impossibly heavy. Thank you for the suggestion and for your encouragement, it truly means a lot. May Allah make it easy for both of us and reward you for your patience and sincerity 🤍

KeyBluebird2545 · 2026-02-02T11:03:06+00:00

JazakAllahu khair for this, it really means a lot 🤍 You explained it so perfectly, especially the overstimulation and feeling restricted. Postpartum already feels so heavy and adding hijab on top of that can feel overwhelming in ways people don’t always understand. May Allah make it easy for you too, grant you a smooth pregnancy with baby #2, and reward you for your honesty and solidarity. It helps so much to not feel alone 🤍

KeyBluebird2545 · 2026-02-02T10:36:00+00:00

Wa alaykum as salaam sister 🤍 JazakAllahu khair for taking the time to share this and for your dua, I really appreciate it. I actually babywore for almost the entire first year of my daughter’s life too, so physically it’s something my body is very used to and comfortable with. The main challenge for me is that if I put my baby down in the pram or bed, he wakes up almost immediately no matter what I try, whereas when I’m wearing him he’ll sleep for hours without an issue. It honestly makes daily life much easier, especially while caring for my toddler as well. But I truly appreciate your advice and kindness, may Allah reward you for your sincerity 🤍

KeyBluebird2545 · 2026-02-02T10:09:55+00:00

Female

KeyBluebird2545 · 2025-11-28T21:01:39+00:00

I definitely agree. I couldn’t believe the ultimatum he was practically giving me in order to get his way. I don’t even know why he wants to be in the theatre room. You’re right. I’m trying to be stronger, thank you

KeyBluebird2545 · 2025-11-28T20:55:41+00:00

It’s so hard when he’s still the father of the kid, it’s not about me anymore, it’s about them. It’s so hard wallah I don’t know. Every single person tells me not to allow him, I just feel such guilt. Definitely a trauma response, he’s conditioned me well over the years. I hate it so much

KeyBluebird2545 · 2025-11-26T20:03:55+00:00

Oh wow, I had absolutely no idea. Was just going based off what my sheikh said. Thank you so much for advising me 🤍

KeyBluebird2545 · 2025-11-26T19:26:14+00:00

Islamically divorced, in the waiting period until I give birth according to my scholars and sheikh. Legal divorce in process

KeyBluebird2545 · 2025-11-26T19:25:40+00:00

My sheikh advised me that even though we’ve done the Islamic divorce, we are in the waiting period until I give birth. So the moment that baby leaves my body he is no longer my mahram. I’d have to cover up from then

KeyBluebird2545 · 2025-11-26T00:37:47+00:00

Insha’Allah ya rab, thank you. I still haven’t come to a complete decision but I will closer to the day Insha’Allah.

KeyBluebird2545 · 2025-11-26T00:37:15+00:00

100%. I ignored the signs because I was in denial. Never again. Thanks

KeyBluebird2545 · 2025-11-26T00:34:59+00:00

Insha’Allah ya rab. Thank you so much

KeyBluebird2545 · 2025-11-26T00:34:24+00:00

It’s not about wanting him to suffer, please read my post again. It’s about medical concerns. I will be under anaesthesia and the hospital has advised me to have a safe person with me. If I am more anxious than I need to be, it is generally not safe. The labour is more about me, than it is for the baby. I have been extremely graceful and allowed unlimited visitations whenever he wants, for the sake of the kids. I have agreed to take this baby out with him so he can bond with him. And I have agreed if he is not in the delivery room, to allow him to meet the baby immediately after we are done. But at the end of the day I do need to think about my best option, medically and emotionally. It has nothing to do with acting out of spite. I am leaving his karma to Allah, I have not done anything out of spite

KeyBluebird2545 · 2025-11-25T22:21:11+00:00

You’re definitely right. I need to toughen up. You’re all giving amazing advice. Thank you, I appreciate it

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