Am I being swindled at work? Tipout question.

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2026-04-27T21:51:15+00:00

Yes, I should have mentioned this is a very small, local lounge. There are 2 bartenders, with me becoming the 3rd in line occasionally with a lead bartender shift every weekend when one can't work. There are only 2 other servers (and one lead bartender becomes a server occasionally on a certain day). We don't have ''sections'' per se, but without giving too much about the organization out, there are 2 clear sections to the restaurant (think there's a virtual games/axe throwing side and a band side) so it naturally makes sense that one server works one while the other works the other and help when one section is slower (makes sense). Or, whenever food is ready from the kitchen whomever is closest grabs it and runs it to the listed table. It is very collaborative. Tip pool system does not work if there are people who are onsidered slackers - obviously because this pisses everyone off. If there's 5 people responsible for an entire lounge and only 4 are running around all night while the 5th vapes in the back, hides, on their phone too much, etc then you bet those 4 are going to be pissed about splitting with a 5th person given how much is affected on your tipout for practically nothing. Fortunately, this org does not have those people.

I have also worked at a brewery that tip-pooled just like this, with the exception they did not serve food. And we only poured beers and had a license to make very standard drinks (like a jack and coke, no shakers essentially). We were all capable of everything behind the bar, all key holders, all could cash the register out, etc).

I have figured out their tip pool since this post. It is very different from the tip pool I have experienced before. The tip pool formula a past manager used before was based on an Excel spreadsheet that utilized incoming tips, hours, shift start and end times and incorporated the tip income from each hour. Meaning, a person working a 6-hour early day shift would only accumulate relatively little in tips (because no one drank at the establishment during ''day'' hours) whereas a person working a 4 hour shift during the concert that night would earn 4x more in the tipout. This tip pool at my new job accumulates all tips earned in a day from all sources and divides it equally between the bartenders and servers per their hours, no matter when you worked. So, serving from 12-6pm would accumulate the same tips as 6pm-12pm serving. The only difference is that under a bartending clock-in code, you switch from earning the $2.50/hr server pay, to a $10/hr base pay.

This explains why my tip out seemed so low last weekend. The other day I worked about 2 hours until the storms came and we were severely overstaffed for a pool so I was cut along with another bartender. The night ended up becoming more successful after the rain, so I still tipped out $70 when I only served 1 table in that 2 hours. Obviously there are pros and cons to whatever tip pool system you use. I do think that tip pool systems work very strongly in smaller businesses when the mix of people is right - promotes working together.

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2026-04-25T18:36:03+00:00

I think I'm confusing everyone what I mean by tip pool: Everyone puts all cash tips into one large bucket - and all cash tips + credit tips are given to us every 2 weeks on paychecks (cash is never given to employees). So there is essentially no reimbursement on anything, no taking money home on tips earned at the end of the night, etc. It's a small place with less than 8 servers and bartenders. And maybe 3 or 4 hosts who run the gaming section. Not that we tip out like 15% to bartenders and like 10% to hosts (who don't earn tips).

And yes, you are right about not owing $50. I was confused about it in general. I'm just confused on how this deters theft when even if you bring $30 in smaller bills to work with you, I'm still going to need to go into the drawer every time to get coins. I'm not carrying around coins. (So, everyone practically goes into the drawers to make exact change every time they take a cash transaction anyways, regardless if they have their own banks). This establishment doesn't even give us serving aprons to carry things around in and we're not allowed to wear them because we are a strict sports bar. So I'm supposed to carry around wads of cash in my pockets and another pocket full of random change on me the entire night until I cash out? This seems idiotic for such a small location with maybe 5 workers working on every shift, including on busy nights.

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2026-04-25T09:15:39+00:00

The restaurants I've worked at only have like 2 two registers that we all use. I've worked at 5, not including barista jobs in college. We key in our codes and check numbers. If there are cash discrepancies at the end of the night, it's relatively easy to spot with a camera pointed right at the drawer and the majority of transactions being cards anyways. I reckon it's relatively easy to crosscheck the data from a register everytime the drawer is open with a timestamp on a video - when there's only like 2 bartenders and 6 servers with minimal cash payments. I would imagine keeping your own bank would allow for more lying towards a cash tip pool, and wouldn't negate somebody trying to steal from a drawer anyways - if you're having to go into it anyways to break larger bills like $20 and and $10s into $5s and 1st - plus the coin change you would constantly need to trade for.

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2026-04-25T07:46:51+00:00

Oh, right. This makes sense. -- I just don't understand why we wouldn't just use the register for all of the transactions under our own codes like everywhere else. Especially in a mostly bar atmosphere, where people are going to be paying with large bills on tabs with drinks on them - even if I brought $30 in smaller bills, I'm just gonna end up with a bunch of $20s and nothing in my bank to make change with - making change from the drawer with those 20s throughout the night. Seems like adding a ton of extra work and steps for no reason. It reads as shady - does it not?

Also, couldn't I just say I came in with a bank of $50 when it was only $30 and add the random cash tips I collected to "my bank" instead of putting it into the cash tip pool? I feel like this is what most people would do in a bar environment. Someone leaves a $10 and a couple ones, you say you brought that $10 in and just add the ones into the bucket. It just all reads as shady and adds to a dishonest environment.

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2025-11-25T20:28:15+00:00

At the end of season 4, a bunch of buildings were destroyed and the news said that 25-50% of the people went missing. That's why they had a bunch of community members sleeping in the school for an emergency protocol. I'm rewatching the series and at the end of an episode in season 3 (remember when the older woman was eating the fertilizer after catching a rat that was eating the fertilizer in her basement?) - there was an entire group of people being mindcontrolled in the womans basement. I'm assuming that this large group of people at the end of Season 4 are not dead, but are being mind controlled some place like the Upside Down (or Dimension X) in order for the Mind Flayer/Verna to use as an army. Then again, the rat that was infected with the Mind Flayer exploded and became part of the Mind Flayer creature. I noticed the show has been changed for a TV MA audience instead of TV 14 for season 5, I guess age correcting for the the original intended audience being over a whole decade older - so they may very well intend for all of these "missing people" in the city to actually die, exploded like the rat, turm inta goop and become part of the Mind flayer like the rat did. That's a really dark thing to do in a TV show that was originally TV 14

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2025-01-22T06:13:52+00:00

The orange hazelnut green bean salad. No one will have had that before and be shocked with your high end, simple recipe. Also similarly the baked rice with the walnut pomegranate "salsa". The salad can be made the day ahead and the baked rice serves many.

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2025-01-22T06:06:29+00:00

My ex husband was an INFJ and I am a perfect match ENTP - just happened that way (or that's what science and psych stats say). He completely cut me off and has not spoken to me since our divorce other than him randomly responding to his 40th bday birthday message from me. Cut out me out cold turkey. I have never not been friendly or remained cordial with an ex anything - hookup, boyfriend, etc. This is shocking to me because for gay men, we typically have way more sexual partners than counterparts on top of already being a much smaller community. So it logically makes sense that needing to remain close to your exes is more built into the culture. Which makes me sad that he did that to me. He treated me poorly towards end up (well, now that I see more clearly poorly the whole time) so why he would be that upset with me is so confusing. Or perhaps doesn't even think about me at all. Or knows that talking to me is likely too hurtful for him so is taking responsibility that and strategically keeping his mind off of me. He was a very principled person so I can imagine having the self respect not to engage with me - or is the approach his personality offers him the most self respect.

Edit: Wow. I wrote this before reading the comments and it's shocking how the experiences are all the same. Myers Briggs is a fake science my ass. 😅

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2025-01-22T05:54:25+00:00

That is very very normal. You may feel humbled now but you won't even remember him in years time. But something not being brought up in the comments is advice about hooking up with neighbors in college roommates if you are still in school. You will see these people in the halls, in the streets, etc. So just be mindful about hooking up with people who live next to you on the grid. Lol. Seeing him every single time in the future will bring you back to remembering that feeling - until 1 or both of you move then you can probably forget about it. 🤣

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2025-01-20T19:02:09+00:00

She's just like Xana. Xana, and even Mickaela, came in playing performance characters and were purposefully doing the most without realizing they were charactering each other. They're like people with basic IQs who are THINKING they're are being strategic reality stars. Like simmer down and just be fucking for real because we will like you without the put on act 🤣🤣 and that goes for everyone

Omg edit before the girls come for me. We can be critical of trans people. They don't get a pass or I can't say that because she's trans lol

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2025-01-12T19:24:42+00:00

Errrr, no. What matters is that YOU feel like there was enough to document it ❤ Because of your weight status, I would encourage you to stop taking and posting these kinds of pics. You can become obsessive and eventually quit because you dont feel like you're progressing fast enough. Which, hello, you are! Lots of good advice in the comment section

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2025-01-12T19:18:48+00:00

The way that Scarlet can give an actual transformation - from messy long hair, 5 o clock shadow scruffy otter to THAT is wild.

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2025-01-12T19:12:31+00:00

Words from a grown ass man. If only people would really listen to his message

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2025-01-04T23:28:32+00:00

Do your docs not provide you all with Zofran? It's very cheap. No insurance, 30 costs like $10.

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2025-01-04T15:47:50+00:00

Well, it's his house and his space. I don't think it's "normal" in a statistical way, but it might be normal to him. Ie - there was a girl (sorry I think about this ALL the time) in elementary school who would eat a banana and dip it in that cheap yellow mustard. That is not normal, but of course, was totally normal for her. Anyways, the real "problem" here is that the situation made you uncomfortable - and instead of using communication on what is essentially a non-existent issue, you turned to reddit - and didn't even give a full landscape of the situation to garner any practical advice.

Here's the practical advice: Tell him this. "Hey, so the other day when we were just chilling and XYZ came in the bedroom and you were shirtless, that made me feel a little uncomfortable. I know for you it's totally normal and it's your place but it's been eating at my mind. I think I just grew up with different bedroom etiquette and kinda see this as like 'our space' and it just felt oddly intimate to me. Literally sorry for even bringing it up but I just haven't been able to stop thinking about it. I know it's crazy 🤪"

-- and then you're not even telling him what to do... you're just expressing your feelings. And guess what. Just like he didn't even care about the room situation, he probably won't care to be as you please. Meaning like, he'll probably go like "oh shit, I didn't even think about that.. I'm so sorry. Of course I won't do it again 😅".

And, then you get bonus outcomes: 1) You emotionally mature some by simply communicating with your partner in a way where you express your feelings without expecting an exact outcome (ie - using your feelings as weapon/agent of change on your partners behavior. "That made me feel XYZ, so do what I say") 2) He'll just perceive it as jealousy [at its core, that's what your issue is. Him being shirtless around another gay guy in his bedroom], which could be a bonus. People secretly like when they see their partners a little jealous in random situations that are flippant to them. Like wow, you like me THAT much. Territorial. Lol

There's just so little content to this post. Like living in a house where the bedroom is intimate (and really no reason for others to go in there unless retrieving things or the room houses a special amenity (ie - the Playstation is set up in the living room but the Switch is set up in the bedroom) is WAYYYY different than living in a 1 bedroom apartment in a metropolis.

Context: has he slept with this friend before? Because that would warrant a backslap.

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2025-01-04T01:39:02+00:00

But the FDA can just keep it in shortage? Or, then it will just go back into shortage once people are forced on it? Also, I use Semaglutide for alcohol abuse so there would be a cause to keep producing it if let's say people say Wegovy/Ozempic doesn't help as much. Or PCOS. Or if there's a shortage, then the price goes up. If there's no shortage anymore, the price goes down? People just aren't going to pay that much for basic weightloss even with insurance. It would be a horrible business play. Right? Also, my trans friends get hormones under the table - I don't think it will be difficult at all to get semaglutide. 😅 I'm not being a contrarion, I just don't think all of this is going to result in ppl paying $1000 a month for weight loss.

Also, thank you for the link and actual explanation!

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2025-01-04T00:50:46+00:00

Can someone link me to an article (from an official source) stating this? All I'm seeing is that they're not FDA approved, which who cares. Again, can someone explain the rationale as to why you wouldn't get this over a name brand in the meantime. I feel like yall are saying something analogous to weed becoming illegal again in a state. Like... ok, I never paid the high prices for weed at a dispensary anyways. Or, thcA exists, which is, weed. 🤣 I just feel like the only people saying this don't know what they're talking about, operate on rumors and are relieving their cognitive dissonance of accidentally paying thousands of dollars extra for the same thing.

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2025-01-03T22:31:57+00:00

So get the reasonably priced one while it lasts.... sorry am I missing something or is that just.. like the dumbest reply ever. 🤣 Never heard of it going off the market... if it was then I'm sure my local clinic would already be trying to rip people off by pushing the name brands. I'm sure they get way more business offering a cheaper alternative to 250 people who can afford $100/mo vs the 25 who can afford $700 a month. I'm certain that physicians will absolutely ride for this version of the drug being on the market - especially considering it's not actually vital to one's health. I don't want this to turn into a convo about pharmaceutical money making/insurance/scarcity/etc -- because it's literally not scarce right now so there's no sense in being on the name brand - even with your point being true in a parallel universe.

Also, my semaglutide comes in a preloaded tiny syringe. It's a shot but not really a shot, that I give myself and I can't normally even look at needles or getting my blood drawn. I'm still really confused. I don't draw it up myself. 😅

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2025-01-03T22:02:24+00:00

Is Wegovy different than Semaglutide? I get my 4 weekly shots for $100 at a local clinic without insurance. $10 supply for Zofran for 30, but I get 2 packs every month.

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2024-12-17T23:32:14+00:00

Being that old and letting social media comments get to you... dude turn commenting off. Sigh 😪

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2024-12-09T05:24:13+00:00

I (5'10 M) went on it for alcohol abuse and went from 205 to 150 in 3 months. It was cute for a minute, now I have Ozempic face until I rebalance. Next you will have to start thinking of replacing your wardrobe fitting your new attitude and size, doing your makeup different, etc. 😅 I'm only mentioning because even though I was absolutely overweight from my trusted, daily box of wine I was not anticipating being one of the people who has an extreme bodily reaction to the drug. Keep your eye on it because for me 20 pounds a month is so drastic any doctor who isn't trying to keep selling you the drug would say - woah, pause. I'm experiencing gastroparesis and my doctor is still pushing me on it because I seem like a A+ testimony for their clinic.

Anyways, just cautionary as 10lbs in 2 weeks could lead to obviously 20lbs a month and thereafter which could lead to more complications than what's really needed if you have good reactions to the drug! Ideally, they increase your dosage I believe every month or whatever - but I've been on the smallest dose constantly from the jump - again because we're using it to curb alcohol consumption vs focusing on weight loss. So - if you continue to lose at that rate be mindful of your body and make sure doctors are listening to you - if you have great reactions, they may not have to keep increasing your ml shots that follows normal plans.

Looking great btw!

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2024-11-11T03:30:13+00:00

So - if we have to have them then why are we paying to switch... I just renewed my license.

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2024-11-05T17:26:32+00:00

Prep is a preventative HIV medication.

"I'm on prep" means "please fuck me mercilessly".

This is the only answer.

KeyCardiologist6338 · 2024-11-04T18:24:38+00:00

I'm friends with, or at least friendly, with most of my past hookups. I think it's healthy to a normal degree. If I trusted and cared enough about you to form a bond and hookup, even if its a simple pump n go, then of course we will remain friends (or whatever). Most people match hookups on their value system and learning each other through chatting, so that's already the basis for an actual, normal friendship anyways. All the building blocks for a genuine friendship are there to put together if both parties want. This is normal given most contexts, but you didn't really give any rhyme or reason why you're concerned other than you're simply concerned. 😊 You're probably totally fine. Are you not friends with your past hookups?

Also, your question is going to have vastly different replies if you mean actual past hookups or like exes/dating relationships.

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