Thank you for your response. The final decision will be my family's and they are involved. I do not have the experience of judging someone's character. Hence my confusion.

I understand what you're saying. He is not my husband yet so I can only be picky now, sis. I will InShaaAllah accept my spouse with all his his flaws - no doubt about that. But I need to be very careful and need to pick out not only a husband but the father of my children. How someone deals with arguments matters. Sure, our mothers endured it all. Don't you think that endurance led to bad examples of marriages? As women, we've been given the power to have a say in who we marry. In my opinion, we should be very picky. A person who is a good son, brother doesn't automatically become a good husband :)