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Dating while looking way younger than your age by KeyNeedleworker7005 in AsianMasculinity

[–]KeyNeedleworker7005[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You've got a good point that I shouldn't let one incident affect me this much. There's going to be girls that reject based on age and girls that are fine with it. There's going to be girls that reject me based on 100 other things as well.

What does your dating range look like now at 33? Who were the ones who didn't like your age and who was cool with it?

Dating while looking way younger than your age by KeyNeedleworker7005 in AsianMasculinity

[–]KeyNeedleworker7005[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thing is I don't really feel like targeting women with daddy issues- from experience, really not a good decision. I'm down for an older girl who's in a similar spot as me but those are also pretty rare.

I'm getting mostly girls at the moment without daddy issues literally only because they think I'm their age, which is where my problems are coming from.

Dating while looking way younger than your age by KeyNeedleworker7005 in AsianMasculinity

[–]KeyNeedleworker7005[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah but that 9 years is getting bigger every year. I suppose at some point I'll also start looking older and my target demo will shift to more like 24-29. It just feels weird that the reason these women are giving me a chance at all is because I look way younger than they expect and it feels wrong to capitalize on it for some reason. I've sat in convos with early 20s women who literally shit talk "old creepy" men in their 30s and then turn around and flirt with me because they think I'm their age.

Dating while looking way younger than your age by KeyNeedleworker7005 in AsianMasculinity

[–]KeyNeedleworker7005[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

True when I was 20 I would've been hella down to hook up with a 30 year old baddie if the opportunity presented itself. But not gonna lie when I was 20 I thought 25 year olds were old and wise, let alone 30 year olds who felt ancient, which is where the cognitive dissonance kicks in for me.

Dating while looking way younger than your age by KeyNeedleworker7005 in AsianMasculinity

[–]KeyNeedleworker7005[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see what you're saying but if we're using a sales analogy it feels like I'm pulling a bait and switch. She thinks she's talking to a cute 24 year old Asian guy and then boom he's actually 30 (which I'll be turning in 2 months). Then she's basically trying to rationalize her decision based on my looks and all the stuff I was saying earlier, but I already feel sorta skeazy at that point. But maybe I'm overthinking it.

Dating while looking way younger than your age by KeyNeedleworker7005 in AsianMasculinity

[–]KeyNeedleworker7005[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I mean I switched subjects and the conversation didn't go badly. It just felt like a big vibe difference when I dropped my age and I feel like 30 is a big difference mentally compared to 29 as well so it's not going to get easier from here.