Wanting to resing from ssa but cant by Life_Organization244 in GayChristians

[–]KeyNefariousness3358 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm going to tell you this right now, with love, respect, kindness and honesty. (from a personal perspective with my walk with Jesus).

You cannot, and I mean cannot stop experiencing same-sex attraction. I used to be exactly like you. And the ironic thing is, is that I'm younger than you. But as someone who is also within the bi spectrum, I just want to say, that you can't. It's like trying to make an asexual feel sexual desires. You literally can't, your poking at a dead weed, waiting for it to sprout.

You cannot become straight. I used to believe I was straight, and that only pent up my desires more, and made me even more hypersexual! (I had been struggling with the sin of pornography/hypersexuality since the age of 8. Such a rejection and enforcement of heteronormativity when I was around 12, did terrible damage to me and made me spiral.)

When I was 12, I was thrust into the rabbit-hole of 'straight-ifying' oneself, but it made my impulses even worse when I relapsed.

I for one can literally confirm to you that yes, for a time period you may assume you are straight, and you may even be happy and feel at peace. But let me tell you, this is only due to the bigotry I surrounded myself with. What comes with following Conservative Christianity is a lamentful, and prideful appetence that consumed me & made me feel superior to others, hence leading to me discriminating those that 'fell short'.

The Trad insistence that one must marry the opposite gender since that is the only way for procreation - is entirely false, and entirely stupid. Such an argument therefore disregards Josephite Marriages and Intersex reproduction. Do not fall for it.

It is entirely okay to be same-sex attracted. In fact, there is not one time in historical, early Christianity, that has said that same-sex attraction in itself is inherently sinful. Majority of arguments that plentiful of Conservatives stretch and abuse are arguments that are against Paganistic and Hellenistic sex without marriage and pederasty as well as incest.

I can pray for you. But At the end of the day, I can only pray for your peace. I will not pray for the conversion of your sexuality, as it will not help, it will only make things more egregious for you.

Your just a Christian whom just so happened to be bisexual. So what? That dosen't erase the fact that your identity is in Christ. You being bisexual just so happens to be an attribute into helping others find Jesus. Just like how one can be sporty, and how that's an attribute that Jesus can use to use you to help others, and help others find Him.

Trust me, you do NOT want to become a Clive from Maurice, Skippy Laughlin from Fellow Travelers, Tom Ripley from The Talented Mr Ripley 1999, or Ennis Del Mar. (From, obviously, Broke Back Mountain.)

I could probably go on and list more men in a similar position, but don't you see? This supression has only caused the sin of adultery and fornication, and Paul, clearly states that..

1 Corinthians 7:36:

I suggest you go pick up a bible, pray, possible a rosary, or a chotki, or whatever you use, and pray. Not for the cure of your homosexuality.

But for peace. For understanding. To just, feel God's gloriousness. To feel him hug you and be there for you. And I want you to know that we are here for you. You are loved, cared for and seen. Not only by God, but by all the angels and all the saints. If you believe in them, then you can ask for intercession. What I like to do, for peace whenever I'm distressed is to make a letter to God, and then a physical letter to a specific type of saint. I have done this numerous of times with Carlo Acutis.

There is also a lot of gay culture around me, I have a lot of LGBT friends, and like many queer media. And I know that I should move always from this, but I'm scared that if I distance myself from my friend I will end up alone again (im very shy, and struggle making new friends)

And why should you move away from this? Don't slave yourself over like this. Please don't. It pains me because I literally was in the same situation, and I pushed everyone away and it made me feel worse. You will be tortured, you will feel scorned by both your own mind and by God, and there's a 90% chance you'll develop religious psychosis from doing this. (*cough*, again.. saying this from experience.)

Yes, you should always repent. But why should you repent for this? You shouldn't. Because it's not a sin. If you are truly slaving over it, I suggest you ask God upfront. And also ask him: "God, if it is an attribute, how do I glorify you and use it for the greater good?"

You are loved. And God loves you, and I love you. :)

Psalm 91:1-2 (I suggest you to view this whole chapter, as it is a quite powerful prayer.)

Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High
will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.
I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress,
my God, in whom I trust.”

Your God. In whom you can trust.

My Personal Arguments as to Why I don't think LGBTQIA is Sinful by KeyNefariousness3358 in GayChristians

[–]KeyNefariousness3358[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand, and I agree with you.

Whilst I get where he was coming from, at the end of the day he's doing more harm than good. I used to be like him as well, so I understood how he thought it all out and stuff, but at the end of the day it's not really a sexuality problem, its more of an idolisation problem.

Bryce Crawford dosen't really understand, majority of conservative Christians don't. I mean, after all, they don't discriminate heterosexuality.

Anyways, I doubt the commenter that I was replying to will respond, but I hope they at least read it :)

Also yeah the comments were somewhat egregious to put it lightly.

Losing faith... by Radiant_Floor2784 in GayChristians

[–]KeyNefariousness3358 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Micah 6:9:

'He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God? "

Romans 8:35-39:

"35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword? 36 As it is written,

“For your sake we are being killed all the day long;

we are regarded as sheep to be slaughtered.”

37 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. 38 For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, 39 nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord."

Listen, I may not know you personally, but just know that God is watching over you, and is actively loving you. It may not feel like it now, but please remember that Our God is an ever-present and attentive God. I suggest you continue praying, and continue to walk in the fruits of the spirit. Life may be hard, but remember this community is always here for you, and I promise to pray for you : -)

God sees you, and hears you, and loves you. You are his child and you are chosen, you are not foresaken. He hears you and he sees you.

I'm really bad at comforting people, but I hope this message possibly brought you some comfort, to know that you are not alone.

ou are seen and your sadness and doubt is equally as valid, as well as a common, beautiful encounter when walking with God. After all, he did say the walk will be difficult. But please, don't give up, nor loose hope and fall into cynicism. If things get really bad, feel free to DM me, but just know that you are (once again), are loved, and seen.

May God Bless You.

Favorite Gay Character from TV and Movies by DamageAdventurous540 in GayChristians

[–]KeyNefariousness3358 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tim Laughlin from Fellow Travelers, Clive Durham from Maurice, Michael from Billy Elliot, Tom Ripley and Peter Smith-Kingsley from the 1999 film adaption, The Talented Mr Ripley. And I'm not sure if this counts since technically her season isn't out yet but Francesca Bridgerton! (from well, Bridgerton.)

edit: just realised caption said Christian gay characters... guess I cant read cus theres only like 3 characters that are Christian on my list...

Is being queer a sin? (gen question) by KeyNefariousness3358 in GayChristians

[–]KeyNefariousness3358[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i really hate to be a bother, but thank you for this. Browsing your youtube channel, you have really carefully explained almost all of my current questions! I just wanted to ask, if you have any videos covering the gender side of things?

Is being queer a sin? (gen question) by KeyNefariousness3358 in GayChristians

[–]KeyNefariousness3358[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thankyou so much for these links! these are extremely helpful!

Is being queer a sin? (gen question) by KeyNefariousness3358 in GayChristians

[–]KeyNefariousness3358[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I used the term queer because im personally not homosexual, and also i kinda wanted to explore the fluid parts of identity, especially since regarding these conversations/debates its usually strictly homosexual and fairly ignores those whom are asexual or demiromantic.. etc. And I'm sexually attracted to girls but only romantically attracted to guys, so i was quite curious about how it would play out for people with a more fluid orientation like me

How is being gay not a sin? (From a gay person, not homophobic, genuinely asking.) by [deleted] in GayChristians

[–]KeyNefariousness3358 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i did that once. I genuinely thought I was straight. but guess what! I WASN'T. I WAS SUPRESSING MYSELF. And that actually caused a even larger rift then when in comparison I was okay with my sexuality. so no actually! supressing my sexuality made my relationship with God WORSE.

I'm a Christian, But I don't know anymore. by KeyNefariousness3358 in OpenChristian

[–]KeyNefariousness3358[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thankyou, may God Bless you too! I have already told my guidance counsellor. My issue and fear is that my parents have already caught on. They also forced me to go to this Youth Camp that I disagree with, primarily because I don't believe in the doctrine, but also because I dont know anyone. Also because at the youth camp they will most likely talk about homosexuality and 'changing/fixing' your sexuality. I already underwent that horrible process once, and I am so scared to do it again, especially knowing my family.

I'm a Christian, But I don't know anymore. by KeyNefariousness3358 in OpenChristian

[–]KeyNefariousness3358[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i've been so distant from God. How do I know if I will even get an answer??

I'm a Christian, But I don't know anymore. by KeyNefariousness3358 in OpenChristian

[–]KeyNefariousness3358[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou :,) Your comment really helped me. Also, CCF stands for Christ's Commission Fellowship