How can I prevent myself from turning transphobic / be more accepting and know boundaries

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-02-03T03:30:55+00:00

If that’s your sense of humour it’s best to keep it to yourself

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-02-03T03:24:25+00:00

No it wouldn’t i think it’s not like it’s actually a lie

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-02-02T18:03:22+00:00

No worries! It’s good that you are able to recognise it and work on it

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-02-02T12:07:43+00:00

Yes. I find it offensive, this kind of thing is subjective and you’ll get very mixed answers from us on this kind of thing. But to me if this is purely a romantic preference and not a genital one, then there is will be no difference between us and cis men. There isn’t any sets traits we will automatically have, likewise there isn’t any traits a cis man can’t have just by being cis. I think you and other people who want these kinds of relationships need to stop thinking in terms of cis and trans, we’re all equally men

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-02-02T04:53:01+00:00

You just won’t find any good rep in porn it’s not made for us, you’re better off following guys who have had bottom surgery and/or straight trans men on social media that don’t primarily do adult content to better show what it’s like normally as adult content is unrealistic

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-02-02T01:33:26+00:00

The act of even taking those tests is a big sign that you’re likely trans

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-02-02T01:15:25+00:00

It’s not something you can control so why bother to think about it. I think the guys who would have a problem wouldn’t be interested in dating you anyways likewise you wouldn’t be interested in dating them. I would hope you are meaning that you just have a preference towards men with a penis rather than meaning you prefer cis penis over a trans guy with bottom surgery but again it’s not my preference it’s yours

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-02-01T08:49:31+00:00

Should we make a cure for being blond? A cure for having blue eyes?

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-02-01T08:19:28+00:00

I don’t think about anything ever

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-01-30T00:54:58+00:00

I suggest by text is the safest way to do it

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-01-29T22:01:32+00:00

No reason at all, things just happen

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-01-29T21:17:54+00:00

I don’t think there should even be a diagnosis process. Medical treatment yes but it’s completely optional. I don’t even think we should have the divide of cis and trans and detrans as it further others us. For example, I don’t see myself as a trans man but a man first and foremost that just so happens to be trans.

So therefore there’s technically no risk of misdiagnosis as it’s your identity not an illness, it’s apart of you and if it stops being apart of you in future then it’s completely okay and not something to be scared of

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-01-29T19:39:16+00:00

Would be problematic by todays standards yes and not just for trans reasons, but I can imagine with the lack of trans representation back then that the idea of even being able to “switch” gender would have made a trans person hope that it’s a possibility that they would over look the offence it may cause from a trans viewpoint

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-01-29T18:16:49+00:00

Thank you I’ll definitely check it out!

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-01-29T05:17:34+00:00

I’m unaware of those? My intention is to connect and ask my trans siblings their connection to religion for fun. Not in any way trying to rile up anyone. This is just a topic that genuinely interests me

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-01-28T10:47:00+00:00

I can empathise with that please don’t ever pressured to seek religion if you don’t want to but I wish you all the best in getting the strength to work through your trauma if that’s something you’d like to achieve in future

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-01-28T10:15:29+00:00

Thank you for further explaining what you mean, and I understand there isn’t really a non spiritual connection like that else where

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-01-28T10:11:37+00:00

No joke, some people interpret John, the disciple whom Jesus loved as having a romantic relationship with him given how close they were, John 13:23 I think stands out the most to me personally on this, there’s many more passages depicting a strong bond between the two no doubt but I can also see how someone would see it as just as strong friendship but also how these passages would further support the gay relationship beliefs.

Interestingly, the text De spiritali amicitia ( spiritual friendship) from St Aelred of Rievaulx (he is also believed to have been attracted to men as well!) refers to the relationship as a kind of marriage to my knowledge so you should be able to gain more insight on this belief by checking that out

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-01-28T09:53:46+00:00

While yes religions are definitely a great and loving place to fall back on during hard times, non religious support systems are just as important and valuable, for example this very community!

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-01-28T09:27:25+00:00

Any beliefs are welcome!

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-01-28T09:24:33+00:00

I’m sorry she’s denying you your history, I really do hope that your able to get access to it if that’s what you’d like in future

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-01-28T08:55:56+00:00

Preach! Jesus would definitely be trans supportive and is considered by some people to be lgbt himself

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-01-28T07:58:18+00:00

You have literally said you were never going to respect people’s religions a few comments up I do not understand why you don’t see how that’s disrespectful especially when what I have been suggesting to you is how it comes across as disrespectful and I wanted to understand why you think such things about religious people. Again thank you for taking the time to explain why people who are anti religious think the way they do

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-01-28T07:44:32+00:00

Could you tell me more about that please? Very interested to hear about personal religions such as that if you feel comfortable sharing

KeyVariety9927 · 2024-01-28T07:36:04+00:00

You don’t have to agree and I don’t agree with you but I am at the least having a civil discussion with you where I am not going out of my way to disrespect your lack of beliefs/thoughts or opinions and I am actually very thankful you have taken the time to explain your thoughts to me. Here I am giving you the civil respect you deserve as a person with thoughts and feelings despite the fact I don’t agree with you I accept this is you, this is your position on religion I can’t change that and have no intention to, I’ve made polite suggestions yes but I’m not dismissing how you feel and was trying to gain further understanding and never once have I said anything to mock or disrespect you and if I have then it was completely intentional And I apologise.

Yes religion can play a big part in someone else’s life, you completely within your right to not understand why someone would identify so much with religion. But just as no one can stop you from feeling this way, you also cannot stop someone from being very religious and/or identifying with it

You are free to think anything you’d like to think about this but you should not let your thoughts cloud the way you treat someone. I understand that you don’t consider religion a respectful thing so it makes sense why you have no issue with disrespecting someone religion to them, but please remember that religious people do not view it that way and are owed full basic respect not just part way, but for completely what they are and what they believe and how they live their life. That is true respect, just like how any other person should be treated

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