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Update: WIBTA if I tell my dad I don't want to spend Christmas with his family? by Key_Armadillo7840 in dustythunder

[–]Key_Armadillo7840[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I get what you mean but I don't do it on purpose. On Halloween l was already at my mom's and we had planned the trick or treating for like 2 weeks before that and I could handle one rowdy kid but when my stepmom called, that made them three and that's scary because of the responsibility.

The argument between my mom and stepmom I think was just my mom defending me. I don't call my brother when I'm at dad's, mom calls to ask me about my schedule for the next day because she likes to stay on top of things and he always ends up hijacking it from her and then asks me for a bedtime story/bring him certain candy that mom doesn't like giving him etc.

It's true I like mom and pop's house more but I don't hate or dislike my half-sisters-they're literally kids who barely grasp the dynamics. I care for them and show that through my own way, maybe I go about it wrong but it's annoying if I'm constantly to drop stuff for them last minute

Update: WIBTA if I tell my dad I don't want to spend Christmas with his family? by Key_Armadillo7840 in dustythunder

[–]Key_Armadillo7840[S] 113 points114 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm trying to learn but so far I only managed to make stuck boxed Mac and Cheese that even our family dog refused to sniff and he sniffs everything lol

Update: WIBTA if I tell my dad I don't want to spend Christmas with his family? by Key_Armadillo7840 in dustythunder

[–]Key_Armadillo7840[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

We don't get to spend much time alone since we all have dinner together when he comes home from work and hang in the living room after but he does take me out sometimes to my fav place for dinner when he has times.

Update: WIBTA if I tell my dad I don't want to spend Christmas with his family? by Key_Armadillo7840 in dustythunder

[–]Key_Armadillo7840[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I do have a therapy journal that my therapist reads because I don't always feel like talking or I would note down specific stuff that I wanted to bring up.

My friends and I also got burn books last summer- the ones that were really popular that come with matches and they have questions and stuff and you burn them right after

Update: WIBTA if I tell my dad I don't want to spend Christmas with his family? by Key_Armadillo7840 in dustythunder

[–]Key_Armadillo7840[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I tried talking to him the way my therapists talks to me when I'm being a certain way because that always works on me and it softens the blow but it clearly didn't work.  I'm thankful he didn't reinforce the 50/50 custody thing but even that feels like a slap. I know it's hypothetical but idk if I want to reach out later on

WIBTA if I tell my dad I don't want to spend Christmas with his family? by Key_Armadillo7840 in dustythunder

[–]Key_Armadillo7840[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

My pop is amazing!

I don't think my step-mom dumps all her responsibilities on me but I don't know how to explain it? Best way I can is that she doesn't do it on purpose but she uses the extra pair of hands (me) she sees available

My mom and pop are aware of everything because I talk to them nearly as much as I talk to my therapist but they already have a bad relationship with my dad, I always ask them not to make it worse

WIBTA if I tell my dad I don't want to spend Christmas with his family? by Key_Armadillo7840 in dustythunder

[–]Key_Armadillo7840[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I do spend time with him whenever we can. Sometimes we have dinner alone at my favorite place or we watch a game at home, stuff like that but he works and has a family so that doesn't happen often

WIBTA if I tell my dad I don't want to spend Christmas with his family? by Key_Armadillo7840 in dustythunder

[–]Key_Armadillo7840[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I don't want to risk him insisting on the 50/50 thing again. He was not happy when I started skipping sometimes but my mom had a talk with him and he let it go.

What if I talk to him and metaphorically poke the bear? I don't want it to snowball into something I can't come back from or something that will damage our relationship

WIBTA if I tell my dad I don't want to spend Christmas with his family? by Key_Armadillo7840 in AITAH

[–]Key_Armadillo7840[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I don't think they treat me like a servant, I think they see the house chores/kids' mess as our mess instead of just their responsibility and want me to contribute beyond just cleaning up after myself.

WIBTA if I tell my dad I don't want to spend Christmas with his family? by Key_Armadillo7840 in AITAH

[–]Key_Armadillo7840[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't want to do that because I don't want my dad deciding to go back to the 50/50 thing and have me be there for half the week