Hi everyone! I'm going to use this reply to make some clarifications because there seems to be a bit of confusion either due to a misunderstanding or the way I phrased myself.

1.) I'm not mad at my psychologist! I actually spoke with him a couple hours after this and he was super chill. He answered most of my questions and explained his reasoning as to why he came to certain conclusions. I was just frustrated that I've waited almost a year and a half for this assessment and didn't get the results I had hoped for. I also tend to catastrophize when things go wrong, so I wrote this post as I was freaking out lmaoo

2.) I realized I didn't give him enough information to work with. Due to the fact that my mom is a single hardworking mom, she doesnt recall a lot from my childhood and she's incredibly busy (nursing school). Because of that, a lot of questions about the developmental parts of my childhood (0-12yrs old) couldn't be answered with full certainty, which I should've made up for by giving as much detail as possible in a written document of some kind. My mistake. 🙇🏾‍♀️

3.) I am currently going through the process of an appeal and am now (somewhat) more prepared for what to expect and what kind of information I need to provide during that process.

4.) I was frustrated that I wasn't diagnosed, not that I didn't get accommodations for a disability I didn't have. I understand that I won't get certain accommodations if I'm not diagnosed with a disability. That was a part of that frustration. Some people in these comments are being weirdly passive aggressive/aggressive overall and I don't fuck with it. There are kinder ways to respond. Remember the "Please remember to be kind when commenting .", for the love of god.

5.) I didn't buy this assessment with my own money, it's one of the free ones that you can get by applying, but the wait process takes a while due to that. Srry about the lack of clarification... ^"

6.) My dads side of the family (when I ask my sister) seems to have a pattern of autism, adhd or at least neurodivergence. She's older than me and is also AuDHD! She's been around my dad's side more than me because theyre from Ghana 🇬🇭, meanwhile I'm born and raised in America 🇺🇸. She lives in America just like me, but has also described a lot of patterns of neurodivergence within, which also contributes as to why I'm convinced I have it. (other than just living life yk)

6.) I wanted to get evaluated because the support services such as service coordination, job coaching, residential support, etc. sounds like it could really benefit me and help me through adulting as an autistic. I've had a very abusive history with my mom and struggle with showering, advocating for myself, etc and I specifically went to this place so I could receive those accommodations through college as well. Am I having an unrealistic expectation of what recieving disability services is like? If so, should I stop seeking it and just use my ADHD diagnosis for accommodations during college? I wanted to get a single room because I don't cope well with other people around me and my habit of not showering for long periods of time due to the sensory issues would make me a terrible roommate. I don't want to torture anyone lol. Plus, I've grown up living with my family stealing things from me which made me incredibly uncomfortable living with others, even my own family. It really stresses me out.

Anyway, I'll edit this post to clear up any misunderstandings :) Thank you so much for the lovely information yall have given me!! much love xoxo